So last night my boyfriend and i were in a call and him and his best friend decided that they wanted to play around with a girls and make a reputation. They told me that each girl has to be at least 3 days, 3 kisses. Then when they break up the other of the 2 will ask the same girl out. At first i though they wouldnt pull through with it since well... HE'S MY BOYFRIEND! he told me that we should tell anyone in school that we're together but we're officially going out. i didnt want to loose him so i said ';yea sure, i wouldnt mind, just a game right?'; and he said ';yea, but ur my real girlfriend.'; so we've been denying our relationship to every person in our school. well except the guy who he's playing the game with. they both didnt want me to get involved. i acted cool with it but now my emotions r tearing my inside out... also because they dont want me to tell any other girl about it... so now im stuck here, non expressed, needing someone to talk to. HELP MEHow to cope with your boyfriend dating another girl as a game?
DUMP HIM! He is NOT your boyfriend. Sorry if that's hard to hear but face the facts. He doesn't want anyone at your school to know you're together and he's playing a ';game'; with his friend to try and get a reputation.
Do you really want to be with this jerk?
If this guy cared about you, he wouldn't want to get a reputation and he would want people to know that the two of you were together.
Seriously, please dump this loser! You deserve SO much better than that.How to cope with your boyfriend dating another girl as a game?
Way way way too much emotion. That is very unattractive. Take it easy. You're not married, you're not even engaged. You're both just silly little players in a big game. Stop with the emotion, focus on your own personal success, and don't look for it through another human being, that's stupid.
Be honest with him and if he takes your feelings into consideration and ends this, cool, but if he won't, he's really messed up and you should reconsider dating him. He should already be on thin ice for doing this at all.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How to cope?
I broke up with my boyfriend of eleven months yesterday. I thought i was doing the right thing, because he seemed to want nothing but the physical. It seemed to be a mutual thing (he wasn't too upset), and I was doing fine all day yesterday and today. But now i'm bored and i can't stop thinking about him. I'm grounded for the next three weeks/weekends....and so i sit at home, with nothing to do but think of my misery. I've tried doing different things around the house, but i can't find anything that keeps my mind permanently off of him. To a degree i want him back. I loved him. I still do. But I know that if i go back things will probably end up where they were, but i'm almost willing to risk it. What can i do? I don't want to ';rebound'; on other guys...that's not fair to them, but i don't know what else i can do? Any ideas? How do i cope with a break up? Also, is it ok if i wear the necklace he gave me last Christmas? Is it ok if i talk to him periodically (phone/email)?How to cope?
Wear the necklace! And no....wait awhile before you talk to him. You've got to let those emotions fade out some first.
If you broke up with him, you know there was a valid, good reason. Keep reminding yourself of that reason. Everyone has a hard time adjusting after a breakup. You're not alone!
Good luck honey!How to cope?
Just trust your feelings,it's ok.
Wear the necklace! And no....wait awhile before you talk to him. You've got to let those emotions fade out some first.
If you broke up with him, you know there was a valid, good reason. Keep reminding yourself of that reason. Everyone has a hard time adjusting after a breakup. You're not alone!
Good luck honey!How to cope?
Just trust your feelings,it's ok.
Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
I recently was broken up with by my boyfriend of over 2 years. We had a pretty rough relationship. It was pretty emotionally abusive and I went from being a happy-go-lucky person to miserable just like my ex. We've been going in a back-and-forth seeing eachother stage. We hang out sun-thurs but then on the weekends he's out messing around with other girls. He tells me he loves me and doesn't want to stop talking because I'm his best friend he just needs to be on his own for now (we dated freshman-junior year in college). He will have some moments that make me the happiest girl in the world and that's what keeps me hanging on. My problem is I'm a wreck. I spend the majority of my nights sobbing in bed because I hear he's out with these girls. I'm a very attractive and successful girl who treated him absolutely amazing. I'm completely miserable. I don't have any motivation to sleep, eat, get out of bed in the morning. I seriously don't know how to go on without him...the thought of it tears me apart. I am a complete mess and I don't know how to fix it. Help...Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
I'm in a similar situation, I was recently broken up with by my boyfriend of 2 years. So I know how bad it feels. Even worse, he was not emotionally abusive or spending weekends away from me - so it's hard! You know he's no good and there's clear evidence there the relationship wasn't working. Why are you denying it? The good moments were not enough for you to put up with the bad stuff - don't tell yourself it was worth it.
You even recognise you used to be happy and then became miserable like him! you know this, you can change it!
seems to me like you know the truth but are just hurt and too scared to move on. But you can...
I find it hard to do stuff and I lost weight after the break up, but I forced mnyself into my usual activities and that really helped. Just make yourself get up. Make morning arrangements so you have to. Like arrange to meet a friend for coffee before class so you have to get up and go to coffee and class. Then just carry on one day at a time...I know it's hard, but you can't let him ruin your life!
You'll be fine without him.Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
You deserve better.
Realize that.
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, however, I feel RELIEVED. I will never repeat the same mistake.
It's not worth being with someone who does not appreciate you at all.
Aahahah burn! your lover doesn't love u anymore, and its all your fault You should have put out more and nagged less
I was in same relationship 7 years. I just got out of it after a bad fight turned physical. I was addicted to him, and for 2 weeks was going through withdrawls. After that I got right back out there, got in touch with the best friends I left behind when I started dating him. Now I'm in a relatioship and in love like I never thought could happen again. You need to believe me and know it's possible to meet love again, and learn from your last one. And it doesn't have to take months or years to get over him. Do what he's doing, go out with other poeple. Sitting home in your own misery, is like rolling around in your own ****. You are able to love and that's a gift that is going to make someone very happy. You know your beautiful, you sound like your beautiful on the inside too, And if your not ready to get back out there, I wasn't either, but made myself, and it's not easy at the beginning but gets easier the more you get out and you get your confidence back, which that loser took from you, then focus on yourself by treating yourself to positive things such as the gym, If you have family lean on them for support, they probably didn't want you with him to begin with. Just nourish yourself in any way that makes you feel good, and cry cry cry, but don't sit and lay there in misery. Your a beautiful person and I know exactly what your going through. But I know you'll meet someone new, maybe not the first one, because usually it's going to be your bridge, or rebound guy to meeting other people but I met my new love after my first relationship since the loser I dated. So it can happen fast. I wish you all the love you deserve and just know your not alone.
I'm in a similar situation, I was recently broken up with by my boyfriend of 2 years. So I know how bad it feels. Even worse, he was not emotionally abusive or spending weekends away from me - so it's hard! You know he's no good and there's clear evidence there the relationship wasn't working. Why are you denying it? The good moments were not enough for you to put up with the bad stuff - don't tell yourself it was worth it.
You even recognise you used to be happy and then became miserable like him! you know this, you can change it!
seems to me like you know the truth but are just hurt and too scared to move on. But you can...
I find it hard to do stuff and I lost weight after the break up, but I forced mnyself into my usual activities and that really helped. Just make yourself get up. Make morning arrangements so you have to. Like arrange to meet a friend for coffee before class so you have to get up and go to coffee and class. Then just carry on one day at a time...I know it's hard, but you can't let him ruin your life!
You'll be fine without him.Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
You deserve better.
Realize that.
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, however, I feel RELIEVED. I will never repeat the same mistake.
It's not worth being with someone who does not appreciate you at all.
Aahahah burn! your lover doesn't love u anymore, and its all your fault You should have put out more and nagged less
I was in same relationship 7 years. I just got out of it after a bad fight turned physical. I was addicted to him, and for 2 weeks was going through withdrawls. After that I got right back out there, got in touch with the best friends I left behind when I started dating him. Now I'm in a relatioship and in love like I never thought could happen again. You need to believe me and know it's possible to meet love again, and learn from your last one. And it doesn't have to take months or years to get over him. Do what he's doing, go out with other poeple. Sitting home in your own misery, is like rolling around in your own ****. You are able to love and that's a gift that is going to make someone very happy. You know your beautiful, you sound like your beautiful on the inside too, And if your not ready to get back out there, I wasn't either, but made myself, and it's not easy at the beginning but gets easier the more you get out and you get your confidence back, which that loser took from you, then focus on yourself by treating yourself to positive things such as the gym, If you have family lean on them for support, they probably didn't want you with him to begin with. Just nourish yourself in any way that makes you feel good, and cry cry cry, but don't sit and lay there in misery. Your a beautiful person and I know exactly what your going through. But I know you'll meet someone new, maybe not the first one, because usually it's going to be your bridge, or rebound guy to meeting other people but I met my new love after my first relationship since the loser I dated. So it can happen fast. I wish you all the love you deserve and just know your not alone.
How do you cope with heartbreak?
My boyfriend moved to Chicago in June. We were in ';love'; so we did the distance relationship thing. He recently broke up with me because he found another guy. He said he loved me but can't handle a long distance relationship. I'm going crazy. I just feel empty. Everything I do is just depressing. How do you cope with heartbreak? I want someone to talk to me about break ups and similar situations.How do you cope with heartbreak?
Personally...I always think you need some time to hurt...hurt BAD. Something like that is SO hard. So let yourself hurt. Allow yourself a couple days of sobbing and hiding in your room. Then wake up one day and agree to set it aside. Then grow stronger from the experience. Eventually you will be able to look back at the relationship and see the good without wanting to breaking down and curl up and hide away. It might always sting a little but the happiness you had during those memories will override the sadness of not having them anymore. ;) Goodluck.
-Emma
P.S. I been there and I'm sorry. It's a sad sitch. But you grow stronger out of it and emerge a better person. Wishing you well until you get to that point =) -EmmaHow do you cope with heartbreak?
My situation is a bit more str8-forward that yours, cause he is str8 and it obviously could not go anywhere.
In this sense, I think your situation is more difficult. Because, theres still the question: is there any possibility that you could still be together.
In my case, there is no question; Get over it.
I guess, in the end, it comes down to you looking out for number 1. He's moved, found someone else. How much of your life are you willing to trade for the possibility of getting back together.
Leaving love is never an easy thing. Its disturbing, and unsettling in every way. But, sometimes, you know, you also have to look at reality.
Sorry. I know what I wrote sucks, but sometimes life just isnt fair.
You probably felt like the whole world was crashing down too didnt you? And you feel like your lost and dont know what your going to do next without them. You have the feeling where you just know you were meant to be, but are going crazy because it cant be.
Been there. I got alot of support from my friends, and i found writing down my feelings helped ALOT. also, if your creative in a way of drawing, painting, writing, you can turn this into a positive and use your wild emotions to make beautiful work.
I would definatly try to avoid any time alone; because then you will begin to think about them and you will feel overwhelmed with depression from your thoughts.
Write down your feelings, or a letter to them; without ever sending it.
Hangout with friends and talk to them on the phone. A break up is also a lead way to new or tighter friendships, since they will be there for you.
And ost importantly, DO NOT answer ANY of their calls or texts or emails. Avoid all contact. I know its extremely hard, and everyone told me to do so but i still texted him and ended up having him completely ignoring me now and just more horrible than it could have been.
I know it seems ridiculous that you will find someone new, but its passed about 2 months since my heartbreak and i found out some stuff about him i never knew and now, i met an amazing guy who we are 100% on the same page.
Just stay in there. it WILL all be over soon enough; and you will be disgusted at him for making you feel like that. Best of luck.
Find a goal to follow and keep your mind set.
Give it some time because time always heals heartbreak. I've been through it personally, so I should know what it's like to break and recover. Don't think that everything you do is depressing, because it isn't. You'll think back after you get over it, and actually laugh. I swear on that. Best of luck, and try to smile.
they way i deal with mine is be crying it first than when i calm down ask yourself why did you think it happen and after know if he/she was worth it all the pain that your going Thur after tell your self that you can do better but if you still love her/him tell your self that all in all you are you no matter what and if that don't work ask your heart if it's right is he/she is right
I'm sorry about your heartbreak, true love will find you again don't worry! Try talking to family and friends and see what advice you get from them. I never really had my heartbroken like that before.
move on, he didn't love you enough to keep the relationship going so you loved him more then he loved you. He's not worth your thoughts any more.
Give it time. You can distract yourself, or find a hobby, but the only thing that will make the hurt go away is time.
Time and the willingness to get off your duff and go find something to do beside mope bi h and whine.
its hard i know how you feel i coped with mine by locking myself in my room crying writing poems and cutting but please dont cut that wasn't a good idea
I'm going throught the same thing.
Its the hardest thing ever, If you find the answers to you're questions..
Let me know :(
Well here is how you deal with heartbreak...!!!! Get a Girlfriend (you know the ones with boobs and a nice butt!!)
how would i know?
You don't... it just fades with time. You have to stick it out for a while.
Its hard. Live your life and soon it won't be in your mind constantly.
get over it
I've been in two relationships that were similar to yours. Except I was the boyfriend that moved. The difference was I was NOT the boyfriend that broke up with them. This is over a period of, maybe, 12 years.
The first relationship, I was in the military and came home to propose to her. When I got home, I found out that she was having someone else's baby and was avoiding me so I wouldn't find out. We were together for six years. That hurt because I was crazy in love with her.
The second relationship, I lost my job and had to make a drastic move to make a living. I ended up working in another state. My girlfriend wasn't happy with it and stressed me a little... but we worked it out. So we were long distance for a while - until she decided to cross the line and have a baby by some guy that didn't even want to be with her on top of not wanting anything to do with the baby. Talk about bad luck with women. She and I were together for about 5 years.
Anyway... you have to move on. You can't let yourself feel any less valuable because it seems like someone, who you want to want you, doesn't. The thing that makes relationships feel so special is the attention, affection and support that you get from that significant person. When they leave, you feel like all of that is gone too. This is the time to focus on doing all you can to make yourself more valuable to you. Boost your own self esteem. Bring up your G.P.A, develop job skills, exercise, give his time to the other significant people in your life (they were there first anyway). Believe me... if you do those things, he will gradually turn into ';just that guy you used to date.';
Personally...I always think you need some time to hurt...hurt BAD. Something like that is SO hard. So let yourself hurt. Allow yourself a couple days of sobbing and hiding in your room. Then wake up one day and agree to set it aside. Then grow stronger from the experience. Eventually you will be able to look back at the relationship and see the good without wanting to breaking down and curl up and hide away. It might always sting a little but the happiness you had during those memories will override the sadness of not having them anymore. ;) Goodluck.
-Emma
P.S. I been there and I'm sorry. It's a sad sitch. But you grow stronger out of it and emerge a better person. Wishing you well until you get to that point =) -EmmaHow do you cope with heartbreak?
My situation is a bit more str8-forward that yours, cause he is str8 and it obviously could not go anywhere.
In this sense, I think your situation is more difficult. Because, theres still the question: is there any possibility that you could still be together.
In my case, there is no question; Get over it.
I guess, in the end, it comes down to you looking out for number 1. He's moved, found someone else. How much of your life are you willing to trade for the possibility of getting back together.
Leaving love is never an easy thing. Its disturbing, and unsettling in every way. But, sometimes, you know, you also have to look at reality.
Sorry. I know what I wrote sucks, but sometimes life just isnt fair.
You probably felt like the whole world was crashing down too didnt you? And you feel like your lost and dont know what your going to do next without them. You have the feeling where you just know you were meant to be, but are going crazy because it cant be.
Been there. I got alot of support from my friends, and i found writing down my feelings helped ALOT. also, if your creative in a way of drawing, painting, writing, you can turn this into a positive and use your wild emotions to make beautiful work.
I would definatly try to avoid any time alone; because then you will begin to think about them and you will feel overwhelmed with depression from your thoughts.
Write down your feelings, or a letter to them; without ever sending it.
Hangout with friends and talk to them on the phone. A break up is also a lead way to new or tighter friendships, since they will be there for you.
And ost importantly, DO NOT answer ANY of their calls or texts or emails. Avoid all contact. I know its extremely hard, and everyone told me to do so but i still texted him and ended up having him completely ignoring me now and just more horrible than it could have been.
I know it seems ridiculous that you will find someone new, but its passed about 2 months since my heartbreak and i found out some stuff about him i never knew and now, i met an amazing guy who we are 100% on the same page.
Just stay in there. it WILL all be over soon enough; and you will be disgusted at him for making you feel like that. Best of luck.
Find a goal to follow and keep your mind set.
Give it some time because time always heals heartbreak. I've been through it personally, so I should know what it's like to break and recover. Don't think that everything you do is depressing, because it isn't. You'll think back after you get over it, and actually laugh. I swear on that. Best of luck, and try to smile.
they way i deal with mine is be crying it first than when i calm down ask yourself why did you think it happen and after know if he/she was worth it all the pain that your going Thur after tell your self that you can do better but if you still love her/him tell your self that all in all you are you no matter what and if that don't work ask your heart if it's right is he/she is right
I'm sorry about your heartbreak, true love will find you again don't worry! Try talking to family and friends and see what advice you get from them. I never really had my heartbroken like that before.
move on, he didn't love you enough to keep the relationship going so you loved him more then he loved you. He's not worth your thoughts any more.
Give it time. You can distract yourself, or find a hobby, but the only thing that will make the hurt go away is time.
Time and the willingness to get off your duff and go find something to do beside mope bi h and whine.
its hard i know how you feel i coped with mine by locking myself in my room crying writing poems and cutting but please dont cut that wasn't a good idea
I'm going throught the same thing.
Its the hardest thing ever, If you find the answers to you're questions..
Let me know :(
Well here is how you deal with heartbreak...!!!! Get a Girlfriend (you know the ones with boobs and a nice butt!!)
how would i know?
You don't... it just fades with time. You have to stick it out for a while.
Its hard. Live your life and soon it won't be in your mind constantly.
get over it
I've been in two relationships that were similar to yours. Except I was the boyfriend that moved. The difference was I was NOT the boyfriend that broke up with them. This is over a period of, maybe, 12 years.
The first relationship, I was in the military and came home to propose to her. When I got home, I found out that she was having someone else's baby and was avoiding me so I wouldn't find out. We were together for six years. That hurt because I was crazy in love with her.
The second relationship, I lost my job and had to make a drastic move to make a living. I ended up working in another state. My girlfriend wasn't happy with it and stressed me a little... but we worked it out. So we were long distance for a while - until she decided to cross the line and have a baby by some guy that didn't even want to be with her on top of not wanting anything to do with the baby. Talk about bad luck with women. She and I were together for about 5 years.
Anyway... you have to move on. You can't let yourself feel any less valuable because it seems like someone, who you want to want you, doesn't. The thing that makes relationships feel so special is the attention, affection and support that you get from that significant person. When they leave, you feel like all of that is gone too. This is the time to focus on doing all you can to make yourself more valuable to you. Boost your own self esteem. Bring up your G.P.A, develop job skills, exercise, give his time to the other significant people in your life (they were there first anyway). Believe me... if you do those things, he will gradually turn into ';just that guy you used to date.';
I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
I thought she liked a guy at her work and i lost my temper and blew up on her. Now she is talking to that guy on the phone and stuff and i know its just so she can cope with our break up. How can i get her to see that she loves me and make her want to take me back?I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
i read the additional information.
you are not going to like this:
neither of you is yet emotionally mature enough to make a commitment to a marriage. you ask questions that are guaranteed to lead to misunderstandings and the fact that you ask those questions shows that you are not secure enough to trust her.
then she teases and now torments you.
before you compound the mistake by saying sorry etc etc, you should see whether there is enough of a relationship left that might be salvaged and strengthened by counselling. a neutral third party would be the only one that can give you meaningful help.
and there is another thing to consider - most first marriages end in divorce or separation. i think you are smart enough to understand how that works.I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
Seems like and old Friends episode. What ever you do, don't sleep with someone else. Don't request with or without you on the radio and just drink the fat.
Tell her you love her and you messed up.
Don`t forget the flowers :)
Good luck to you.
You've got a lot of work to do. Slowly and surely you have to win her back. Fight for her if that's what you want. Buy flowers, ask for forgiveness and understanding. It will take months to win her back and she won't come back that easily if she is smart.
If she was your fiance and this happened, I hate to be negative, but it will probably never work out... especially if she is talking to the guy that seems to have caused all the problems in the first place, right? That's a lot of weirdness going on there, good luck!
u kiss *** big time a buy her stuff that always seems to work
Ugh, you're probably going to make her life unbearable. Maybe you guys should take a break. Marriage is (supposed to be) forever. If you break up and get back together over everything I'm sure you just need to step back.
Sorry to say this, but she probably did and still does fancy him and if your relationship can't stand your fiancee talking to another man ,then neither of you are mature enough for marriage,I would be counting my lucky stars,and thinking that it is cheaper than a divorce next year.
If you want to try win her back then talk to her and tell her what a pill*%26amp;k you've been....but don't beg or plead or make excuses she might give you another chance.
Personally any man who balled me out for talking to another man would be long gone and if I was engaged and fancied someone else I would be seriously doubting you were *the One*
you were engaged and you blew up over nothing but a possibility? you arent ready to get married at all
to tell you the truth she was probably talking to him the whole time
well maybe you should of not got so angry with her and yelled at her.. just tell her how much you are sorry and what to be with her..
Apologize for your actions and tell her you weren't thinking clearly at the time.
You can't MAKE her take you back...she needs to WANT you back. Your issues of jealousy, doubt, and your temper need to be worked out before you start taking those steps to get her back because they will only be issues once again. She needs to see that you trust her even if you don't trust whoever it is she works with. If you don't trust her, then there's no need trying to get back together with her. It's going to take a 1,000 apologies to make up for the harsh words you said to her and the emotional trauma you put her through. You made her question your future together and those questions will be there until she sees that she can trust you with her heart.
Start off slowly with a phone call and/or some flowers. You'll have to gage how willing she is to speak to you and again, go slowly. Let her know that you realize how mistaken you were, that if your temper is an issue, you'll get help for it, that you didn't speak with kindness or compassion, that you want to prove to her that you're still in love with her.
If you need to listen to her, that make sure you have that eye contact, a cold beverage if you get parched, but do whatever it is that you have to do to make her realize that you hurt her.
ok so first you need to call her and dont sound despret just talk to her like a regular women. then once she starts talking to you again get your realashonship back together but take it slow. but make sure you tell her sorry
how stupid and insecure are u???? are u kidding me,, like u aint attractive to other gurls.... dnt u think jlo is hot or beyonce... or eva mendez ,, cmon on man,,,attractive means ****... ur stupid **** if u were my fiance and did this to me,,, hahaha u better blive i wouldnt take u back,,,, i hope she doesnt either..........................
well you have shown her that you dont trust her so she will prob be difficult to get back, maybe send some flowers (her favourite!) and send the message sorry. i love you and maybe please forgive me. send her a txt or 2 saying can we talk and get her to meet you. tell her you thought she would leave you and you were afraid and upset, and you over reacted. see if she will give you a second chance.
Good Luck
You need to be saying, ';How can I get her to see that I LOVE HER, and to take me back';
That is going to be a tough one because she is going to think that you are always going to be jealous. You need to just talk to her and tell her how you feel, some flowers would help too
Is it so she can cope with the break up or were you right?
buy her flowers explaine you were a jerk before it is too late!
deep down she still kares about you just let her know how you feel
the only way you should do anything in life... just be honest. Tell her how you feel and that you were stupid. It may not work but thats a part of life and learning from your mistakes. Believe me I know what you are going through though
she stil loves you..do the best you can to get her back..you can do it..try do the things that makes her happy and special..
You don't make her do anything ya control-freak. You have to make her want you back. You have to become. Irresistible. Find a way to let her know you love her and you can't live without her. Asking her to have a long sit-down talk with you might be the best way. Also, If she doesn't want to, you could always go serenade her outside her bedroom window. If that doesn't make her realize... accept it, you lost.emo hair home theater
i read the additional information.
you are not going to like this:
neither of you is yet emotionally mature enough to make a commitment to a marriage. you ask questions that are guaranteed to lead to misunderstandings and the fact that you ask those questions shows that you are not secure enough to trust her.
then she teases and now torments you.
before you compound the mistake by saying sorry etc etc, you should see whether there is enough of a relationship left that might be salvaged and strengthened by counselling. a neutral third party would be the only one that can give you meaningful help.
and there is another thing to consider - most first marriages end in divorce or separation. i think you are smart enough to understand how that works.I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
Seems like and old Friends episode. What ever you do, don't sleep with someone else. Don't request with or without you on the radio and just drink the fat.
Tell her you love her and you messed up.
Don`t forget the flowers :)
Good luck to you.
You've got a lot of work to do. Slowly and surely you have to win her back. Fight for her if that's what you want. Buy flowers, ask for forgiveness and understanding. It will take months to win her back and she won't come back that easily if she is smart.
If she was your fiance and this happened, I hate to be negative, but it will probably never work out... especially if she is talking to the guy that seems to have caused all the problems in the first place, right? That's a lot of weirdness going on there, good luck!
u kiss *** big time a buy her stuff that always seems to work
Ugh, you're probably going to make her life unbearable. Maybe you guys should take a break. Marriage is (supposed to be) forever. If you break up and get back together over everything I'm sure you just need to step back.
Sorry to say this, but she probably did and still does fancy him and if your relationship can't stand your fiancee talking to another man ,then neither of you are mature enough for marriage,I would be counting my lucky stars,and thinking that it is cheaper than a divorce next year.
If you want to try win her back then talk to her and tell her what a pill*%26amp;k you've been....but don't beg or plead or make excuses she might give you another chance.
Personally any man who balled me out for talking to another man would be long gone and if I was engaged and fancied someone else I would be seriously doubting you were *the One*
you were engaged and you blew up over nothing but a possibility? you arent ready to get married at all
to tell you the truth she was probably talking to him the whole time
well maybe you should of not got so angry with her and yelled at her.. just tell her how much you are sorry and what to be with her..
Apologize for your actions and tell her you weren't thinking clearly at the time.
You can't MAKE her take you back...she needs to WANT you back. Your issues of jealousy, doubt, and your temper need to be worked out before you start taking those steps to get her back because they will only be issues once again. She needs to see that you trust her even if you don't trust whoever it is she works with. If you don't trust her, then there's no need trying to get back together with her. It's going to take a 1,000 apologies to make up for the harsh words you said to her and the emotional trauma you put her through. You made her question your future together and those questions will be there until she sees that she can trust you with her heart.
Start off slowly with a phone call and/or some flowers. You'll have to gage how willing she is to speak to you and again, go slowly. Let her know that you realize how mistaken you were, that if your temper is an issue, you'll get help for it, that you didn't speak with kindness or compassion, that you want to prove to her that you're still in love with her.
If you need to listen to her, that make sure you have that eye contact, a cold beverage if you get parched, but do whatever it is that you have to do to make her realize that you hurt her.
ok so first you need to call her and dont sound despret just talk to her like a regular women. then once she starts talking to you again get your realashonship back together but take it slow. but make sure you tell her sorry
how stupid and insecure are u???? are u kidding me,, like u aint attractive to other gurls.... dnt u think jlo is hot or beyonce... or eva mendez ,, cmon on man,,,attractive means ****... ur stupid **** if u were my fiance and did this to me,,, hahaha u better blive i wouldnt take u back,,,, i hope she doesnt either..........................
well you have shown her that you dont trust her so she will prob be difficult to get back, maybe send some flowers (her favourite!) and send the message sorry. i love you and maybe please forgive me. send her a txt or 2 saying can we talk and get her to meet you. tell her you thought she would leave you and you were afraid and upset, and you over reacted. see if she will give you a second chance.
Good Luck
You need to be saying, ';How can I get her to see that I LOVE HER, and to take me back';
That is going to be a tough one because she is going to think that you are always going to be jealous. You need to just talk to her and tell her how you feel, some flowers would help too
Is it so she can cope with the break up or were you right?
buy her flowers explaine you were a jerk before it is too late!
deep down she still kares about you just let her know how you feel
the only way you should do anything in life... just be honest. Tell her how you feel and that you were stupid. It may not work but thats a part of life and learning from your mistakes. Believe me I know what you are going through though
she stil loves you..do the best you can to get her back..you can do it..try do the things that makes her happy and special..
You don't make her do anything ya control-freak. You have to make her want you back. You have to become. Irresistible. Find a way to let her know you love her and you can't live without her. Asking her to have a long sit-down talk with you might be the best way. Also, If she doesn't want to, you could always go serenade her outside her bedroom window. If that doesn't make her realize... accept it, you lost.
I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
my boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up and I am not able to cope with the loss.... we were planning to get married and have kids and we even tried to make babies.
he had dated other girls while we were together but they all went bad and he came back to me and every time I tried really hard to forgive him only to find out that he is cheating again.
we are on a long distance relationship and he is desperately looking for having a family and kids.
he is 42 ,divorced with 2 kids. I am 26,never married, no kids...
I am going mad thinking about how ignored everything we had and is dating a mexican girl.
funny thing is that they were fighting last week and he called to make sure I am still there for him..
how can I get over it? I am hopless.I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
How can you get over what?? How can you not no he is a lire a serial cheater and is not good husband material. Your at an age where you think time is running out and you want to get married really bad. You should be counting your lucky stars that he doesn't won't to marry you in fact he is doing you a big favor by not marrying you. I know it hurts i remember very well just how much it hurts. My husband left me for 2 1/2 years you think it hurts when a boyfriend leaves you, well let me tell you that there is no comparison when it comes to a boyfriend verses a husband. You need to get over him and in order to do that you are going to have to change your phone and cell numbers if you don't do that then you don't want to get over him like he has gotten over you.Make no mistake here he has gotten over you that little phone call he made to you meant nothing to him but a sure thing booty call if and when he wants it. He has been married and has a family already so stop thinking that's what he wants because it isn't all he is after is to have as much sex with as many different women he can before he goes back to his first wife or before he finds someone else that is stupid enough to marry him. He is a player and always will be and is an open book and everyone can read him but you .I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
its gonna be hard, but rebounds help. start dating again. make sure he knows your not gonna be there anymore. but be happy. you can't make the pain go away if you don't keep yourself busy.think about other guys. it'll make you happy. when other guys tell you that you deserve better they mean it. don't just sit there and think the pain is gonna go, you need some time out and have fun. look pretty and go dancing. no women is worth crying for a cheating guy. good luck.
You should be cheering that you got rid of him, what is wrong with you ? How can you love someone like that ? You are his safety net, he sleeps around, does whatever he wants and then when he is bored he's coming back to you because you're too weak and too stupid to leave him !!!
you deserve so much better than him. i wish you knew that for yourself. i think it sounded a little rude the way you wrote ';mexican girl'; if you spend time thinking who is better than who you will most likely have a bad self image. like your self better and you dump the bum.
Girl, Guys like that I see why females turn lesbian.
Time to show him he screwed up 1 to many times.
Forget about him, go out and have some fun.. meet someone that will show you how a man treats a girl. give in and let this man Rock your world
He's a cheater and a repeat offender. Why do you women even bother with men like that? Take some pride in yourself and find a man who'll love you the way you deserve to be loved...
How can you love someone who cheats on you? How can you want to be someone who doesn't love you and only wants to use you? How can you settle for a life with someone who has always treated you this way?
How do you get over him? You tell yourself you are a good person and you deserve a good man who will treat you with love and respect and you refuse to settle for anything less. Then you walk away and never look back. Start with changing your phone number so he can't call you anymore. Delete him from your life. That's the only way you can start a new life.
You know dear, I am really glad that you were not married to him in the 1st place.You deserve someone who will really take care of your feelings, whom you can trust, who will only have the heart for you.Someone who will respect you as a woman.
It may be tough but how do you expect this man to be faithful to you? How long do you want to be his 'spare-tyre'? Be kind to yourself.Find new activities, get new hobbies, join your buddies for outings,do charity works,change your lifestyle.Get him off your mind!Do a total annihilation!Time will heal you.Time will restore you.Let him go and move on.
You are not hopeless, you're just emotional right now. If you really want something different for yourself, you're going to have to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you, you already know the relationship is poison and means you no good in the long run, you'll never trust him and you'll always be looking for him to do something wrong, you need to sever all ties with him, I know it'll seem hard at first but time does heal and help you move on, start small by not excepting his calls or seeing him, you owe it to yourself to try and be happy without all his drama, stop limiting yourself, what one man only likes, another man will love. good luck
He is playing you like a fiddle....and you're allowing him to. Give you're head a shake. Why would you at 26 years old want to be involved with a divorced 42 year old with 2 kids? He's cheated on you....and still is. He's even calling to make sure you are still there for him while he's out doing other women and laughing behind your back because you are stupid enough to allow him to use you any way he wants. You need a brain transplant lady or someone to give you a good slap up the side of the head to wake you up!!
he had dated other girls while we were together but they all went bad and he came back to me and every time I tried really hard to forgive him only to find out that he is cheating again.
we are on a long distance relationship and he is desperately looking for having a family and kids.
he is 42 ,divorced with 2 kids. I am 26,never married, no kids...
I am going mad thinking about how ignored everything we had and is dating a mexican girl.
funny thing is that they were fighting last week and he called to make sure I am still there for him..
how can I get over it? I am hopless.I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
How can you get over what?? How can you not no he is a lire a serial cheater and is not good husband material. Your at an age where you think time is running out and you want to get married really bad. You should be counting your lucky stars that he doesn't won't to marry you in fact he is doing you a big favor by not marrying you. I know it hurts i remember very well just how much it hurts. My husband left me for 2 1/2 years you think it hurts when a boyfriend leaves you, well let me tell you that there is no comparison when it comes to a boyfriend verses a husband. You need to get over him and in order to do that you are going to have to change your phone and cell numbers if you don't do that then you don't want to get over him like he has gotten over you.Make no mistake here he has gotten over you that little phone call he made to you meant nothing to him but a sure thing booty call if and when he wants it. He has been married and has a family already so stop thinking that's what he wants because it isn't all he is after is to have as much sex with as many different women he can before he goes back to his first wife or before he finds someone else that is stupid enough to marry him. He is a player and always will be and is an open book and everyone can read him but you .I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
its gonna be hard, but rebounds help. start dating again. make sure he knows your not gonna be there anymore. but be happy. you can't make the pain go away if you don't keep yourself busy.think about other guys. it'll make you happy. when other guys tell you that you deserve better they mean it. don't just sit there and think the pain is gonna go, you need some time out and have fun. look pretty and go dancing. no women is worth crying for a cheating guy. good luck.
You should be cheering that you got rid of him, what is wrong with you ? How can you love someone like that ? You are his safety net, he sleeps around, does whatever he wants and then when he is bored he's coming back to you because you're too weak and too stupid to leave him !!!
you deserve so much better than him. i wish you knew that for yourself. i think it sounded a little rude the way you wrote ';mexican girl'; if you spend time thinking who is better than who you will most likely have a bad self image. like your self better and you dump the bum.
Girl, Guys like that I see why females turn lesbian.
Time to show him he screwed up 1 to many times.
Forget about him, go out and have some fun.. meet someone that will show you how a man treats a girl. give in and let this man Rock your world
He's a cheater and a repeat offender. Why do you women even bother with men like that? Take some pride in yourself and find a man who'll love you the way you deserve to be loved...
How can you love someone who cheats on you? How can you want to be someone who doesn't love you and only wants to use you? How can you settle for a life with someone who has always treated you this way?
How do you get over him? You tell yourself you are a good person and you deserve a good man who will treat you with love and respect and you refuse to settle for anything less. Then you walk away and never look back. Start with changing your phone number so he can't call you anymore. Delete him from your life. That's the only way you can start a new life.
You know dear, I am really glad that you were not married to him in the 1st place.You deserve someone who will really take care of your feelings, whom you can trust, who will only have the heart for you.Someone who will respect you as a woman.
It may be tough but how do you expect this man to be faithful to you? How long do you want to be his 'spare-tyre'? Be kind to yourself.Find new activities, get new hobbies, join your buddies for outings,do charity works,change your lifestyle.Get him off your mind!Do a total annihilation!Time will heal you.Time will restore you.Let him go and move on.
You are not hopeless, you're just emotional right now. If you really want something different for yourself, you're going to have to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you, you already know the relationship is poison and means you no good in the long run, you'll never trust him and you'll always be looking for him to do something wrong, you need to sever all ties with him, I know it'll seem hard at first but time does heal and help you move on, start small by not excepting his calls or seeing him, you owe it to yourself to try and be happy without all his drama, stop limiting yourself, what one man only likes, another man will love. good luck
He is playing you like a fiddle....and you're allowing him to. Give you're head a shake. Why would you at 26 years old want to be involved with a divorced 42 year old with 2 kids? He's cheated on you....and still is. He's even calling to make sure you are still there for him while he's out doing other women and laughing behind your back because you are stupid enough to allow him to use you any way he wants. You need a brain transplant lady or someone to give you a good slap up the side of the head to wake you up!!
How many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I had been married for 30 years. Since i was 20. So i never really had a relationship except with my husband who i was faithful to. He wasn't. I finally left and i found another man who i was pleased with till the shite started hitting the fan and the truth of his lies were revealed. I have broken up with him and am feeling really, really, really bad, sad, mad and kinda hopeless. I go around crying off and on. waves of pain. I loved this man you see and he professed his love so tenderly to me and with me. Then i had to break up for he broke the trust factor too many times. He was physically violent to me too which i admit i tolerated for too long. HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN WITH AND BROKEN UP WITH SOMEONE TILL YOU FOUND THE RIGHT MATCH WITH SOMEONE YOU COULD TRUST, WAS GOOD AND LASTING HEALTHY LOVE? HOW DID YOU COPE AFTER EACH BREAK UP WITHOUT LOSING HOPE FOR THE FUTURE? THANKS.How many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
Im 29.... iv had 3 serious relationships....i left 2 of them for cheating/and other things.. the other past away.. iv dated allot of other men...dont know how many but allot...if they arent what im looking for i end things with in weeks sometimes days! You will find someone for you... you just have to be positive and strong!
God wants us to be happy! He will bring that person into your life...He usually does it when your not worrying about itHow many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I have dated alot of women but you move on and try again but only when you are ready. When you live on your own and find independence and happiness within yourself then you are ready to find someone to share that happiness with and only because you want to not because you need to on a emotional or financial level. It takes time and that is all we have in this world so don't waste anytime by dating losers take your time and don't rush into things.
depends.
there's often two sides to a coin.
the bad said and the good side. What's good about having had a lot of relationship exp is just that and you know what to look for and what not to look for next time.
but it's really hard. Some people are just lucky and get with the first person. But I think it's safe to say that most have experienced a break up whether by fault of their own or not.
Im 29.... iv had 3 serious relationships....i left 2 of them for cheating/and other things.. the other past away.. iv dated allot of other men...dont know how many but allot...if they arent what im looking for i end things with in weeks sometimes days! You will find someone for you... you just have to be positive and strong!
God wants us to be happy! He will bring that person into your life...He usually does it when your not worrying about itHow many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I have dated alot of women but you move on and try again but only when you are ready. When you live on your own and find independence and happiness within yourself then you are ready to find someone to share that happiness with and only because you want to not because you need to on a emotional or financial level. It takes time and that is all we have in this world so don't waste anytime by dating losers take your time and don't rush into things.
depends.
there's often two sides to a coin.
the bad said and the good side. What's good about having had a lot of relationship exp is just that and you know what to look for and what not to look for next time.
but it's really hard. Some people are just lucky and get with the first person. But I think it's safe to say that most have experienced a break up whether by fault of their own or not.
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