So last night my boyfriend and i were in a call and him and his best friend decided that they wanted to play around with a girls and make a reputation. They told me that each girl has to be at least 3 days, 3 kisses. Then when they break up the other of the 2 will ask the same girl out. At first i though they wouldnt pull through with it since well... HE'S MY BOYFRIEND! he told me that we should tell anyone in school that we're together but we're officially going out. i didnt want to loose him so i said ';yea sure, i wouldnt mind, just a game right?'; and he said ';yea, but ur my real girlfriend.'; so we've been denying our relationship to every person in our school. well except the guy who he's playing the game with. they both didnt want me to get involved. i acted cool with it but now my emotions r tearing my inside out... also because they dont want me to tell any other girl about it... so now im stuck here, non expressed, needing someone to talk to. HELP MEHow to cope with your boyfriend dating another girl as a game?
DUMP HIM! He is NOT your boyfriend. Sorry if that's hard to hear but face the facts. He doesn't want anyone at your school to know you're together and he's playing a ';game'; with his friend to try and get a reputation.
Do you really want to be with this jerk?
If this guy cared about you, he wouldn't want to get a reputation and he would want people to know that the two of you were together.
Seriously, please dump this loser! You deserve SO much better than that.How to cope with your boyfriend dating another girl as a game?
Way way way too much emotion. That is very unattractive. Take it easy. You're not married, you're not even engaged. You're both just silly little players in a big game. Stop with the emotion, focus on your own personal success, and don't look for it through another human being, that's stupid.
Be honest with him and if he takes your feelings into consideration and ends this, cool, but if he won't, he's really messed up and you should reconsider dating him. He should already be on thin ice for doing this at all.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How to cope?
I broke up with my boyfriend of eleven months yesterday. I thought i was doing the right thing, because he seemed to want nothing but the physical. It seemed to be a mutual thing (he wasn't too upset), and I was doing fine all day yesterday and today. But now i'm bored and i can't stop thinking about him. I'm grounded for the next three weeks/weekends....and so i sit at home, with nothing to do but think of my misery. I've tried doing different things around the house, but i can't find anything that keeps my mind permanently off of him. To a degree i want him back. I loved him. I still do. But I know that if i go back things will probably end up where they were, but i'm almost willing to risk it. What can i do? I don't want to ';rebound'; on other guys...that's not fair to them, but i don't know what else i can do? Any ideas? How do i cope with a break up? Also, is it ok if i wear the necklace he gave me last Christmas? Is it ok if i talk to him periodically (phone/email)?How to cope?
Wear the necklace! And no....wait awhile before you talk to him. You've got to let those emotions fade out some first.
If you broke up with him, you know there was a valid, good reason. Keep reminding yourself of that reason. Everyone has a hard time adjusting after a breakup. You're not alone!
Good luck honey!How to cope?
Just trust your feelings,it's ok.
Wear the necklace! And no....wait awhile before you talk to him. You've got to let those emotions fade out some first.
If you broke up with him, you know there was a valid, good reason. Keep reminding yourself of that reason. Everyone has a hard time adjusting after a breakup. You're not alone!
Good luck honey!How to cope?
Just trust your feelings,it's ok.
Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
I recently was broken up with by my boyfriend of over 2 years. We had a pretty rough relationship. It was pretty emotionally abusive and I went from being a happy-go-lucky person to miserable just like my ex. We've been going in a back-and-forth seeing eachother stage. We hang out sun-thurs but then on the weekends he's out messing around with other girls. He tells me he loves me and doesn't want to stop talking because I'm his best friend he just needs to be on his own for now (we dated freshman-junior year in college). He will have some moments that make me the happiest girl in the world and that's what keeps me hanging on. My problem is I'm a wreck. I spend the majority of my nights sobbing in bed because I hear he's out with these girls. I'm a very attractive and successful girl who treated him absolutely amazing. I'm completely miserable. I don't have any motivation to sleep, eat, get out of bed in the morning. I seriously don't know how to go on without him...the thought of it tears me apart. I am a complete mess and I don't know how to fix it. Help...Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
I'm in a similar situation, I was recently broken up with by my boyfriend of 2 years. So I know how bad it feels. Even worse, he was not emotionally abusive or spending weekends away from me - so it's hard! You know he's no good and there's clear evidence there the relationship wasn't working. Why are you denying it? The good moments were not enough for you to put up with the bad stuff - don't tell yourself it was worth it.
You even recognise you used to be happy and then became miserable like him! you know this, you can change it!
seems to me like you know the truth but are just hurt and too scared to move on. But you can...
I find it hard to do stuff and I lost weight after the break up, but I forced mnyself into my usual activities and that really helped. Just make yourself get up. Make morning arrangements so you have to. Like arrange to meet a friend for coffee before class so you have to get up and go to coffee and class. Then just carry on one day at a time...I know it's hard, but you can't let him ruin your life!
You'll be fine without him.Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
You deserve better.
Realize that.
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, however, I feel RELIEVED. I will never repeat the same mistake.
It's not worth being with someone who does not appreciate you at all.
Aahahah burn! your lover doesn't love u anymore, and its all your fault You should have put out more and nagged less
I was in same relationship 7 years. I just got out of it after a bad fight turned physical. I was addicted to him, and for 2 weeks was going through withdrawls. After that I got right back out there, got in touch with the best friends I left behind when I started dating him. Now I'm in a relatioship and in love like I never thought could happen again. You need to believe me and know it's possible to meet love again, and learn from your last one. And it doesn't have to take months or years to get over him. Do what he's doing, go out with other poeple. Sitting home in your own misery, is like rolling around in your own ****. You are able to love and that's a gift that is going to make someone very happy. You know your beautiful, you sound like your beautiful on the inside too, And if your not ready to get back out there, I wasn't either, but made myself, and it's not easy at the beginning but gets easier the more you get out and you get your confidence back, which that loser took from you, then focus on yourself by treating yourself to positive things such as the gym, If you have family lean on them for support, they probably didn't want you with him to begin with. Just nourish yourself in any way that makes you feel good, and cry cry cry, but don't sit and lay there in misery. Your a beautiful person and I know exactly what your going through. But I know you'll meet someone new, maybe not the first one, because usually it's going to be your bridge, or rebound guy to meeting other people but I met my new love after my first relationship since the loser I dated. So it can happen fast. I wish you all the love you deserve and just know your not alone.
I'm in a similar situation, I was recently broken up with by my boyfriend of 2 years. So I know how bad it feels. Even worse, he was not emotionally abusive or spending weekends away from me - so it's hard! You know he's no good and there's clear evidence there the relationship wasn't working. Why are you denying it? The good moments were not enough for you to put up with the bad stuff - don't tell yourself it was worth it.
You even recognise you used to be happy and then became miserable like him! you know this, you can change it!
seems to me like you know the truth but are just hurt and too scared to move on. But you can...
I find it hard to do stuff and I lost weight after the break up, but I forced mnyself into my usual activities and that really helped. Just make yourself get up. Make morning arrangements so you have to. Like arrange to meet a friend for coffee before class so you have to get up and go to coffee and class. Then just carry on one day at a time...I know it's hard, but you can't let him ruin your life!
You'll be fine without him.Coping with emotional abuse and a break up?
You deserve better.
Realize that.
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, however, I feel RELIEVED. I will never repeat the same mistake.
It's not worth being with someone who does not appreciate you at all.
Aahahah burn! your lover doesn't love u anymore, and its all your fault You should have put out more and nagged less
I was in same relationship 7 years. I just got out of it after a bad fight turned physical. I was addicted to him, and for 2 weeks was going through withdrawls. After that I got right back out there, got in touch with the best friends I left behind when I started dating him. Now I'm in a relatioship and in love like I never thought could happen again. You need to believe me and know it's possible to meet love again, and learn from your last one. And it doesn't have to take months or years to get over him. Do what he's doing, go out with other poeple. Sitting home in your own misery, is like rolling around in your own ****. You are able to love and that's a gift that is going to make someone very happy. You know your beautiful, you sound like your beautiful on the inside too, And if your not ready to get back out there, I wasn't either, but made myself, and it's not easy at the beginning but gets easier the more you get out and you get your confidence back, which that loser took from you, then focus on yourself by treating yourself to positive things such as the gym, If you have family lean on them for support, they probably didn't want you with him to begin with. Just nourish yourself in any way that makes you feel good, and cry cry cry, but don't sit and lay there in misery. Your a beautiful person and I know exactly what your going through. But I know you'll meet someone new, maybe not the first one, because usually it's going to be your bridge, or rebound guy to meeting other people but I met my new love after my first relationship since the loser I dated. So it can happen fast. I wish you all the love you deserve and just know your not alone.
How do you cope with heartbreak?
My boyfriend moved to Chicago in June. We were in ';love'; so we did the distance relationship thing. He recently broke up with me because he found another guy. He said he loved me but can't handle a long distance relationship. I'm going crazy. I just feel empty. Everything I do is just depressing. How do you cope with heartbreak? I want someone to talk to me about break ups and similar situations.How do you cope with heartbreak?
Personally...I always think you need some time to hurt...hurt BAD. Something like that is SO hard. So let yourself hurt. Allow yourself a couple days of sobbing and hiding in your room. Then wake up one day and agree to set it aside. Then grow stronger from the experience. Eventually you will be able to look back at the relationship and see the good without wanting to breaking down and curl up and hide away. It might always sting a little but the happiness you had during those memories will override the sadness of not having them anymore. ;) Goodluck.
-Emma
P.S. I been there and I'm sorry. It's a sad sitch. But you grow stronger out of it and emerge a better person. Wishing you well until you get to that point =) -EmmaHow do you cope with heartbreak?
My situation is a bit more str8-forward that yours, cause he is str8 and it obviously could not go anywhere.
In this sense, I think your situation is more difficult. Because, theres still the question: is there any possibility that you could still be together.
In my case, there is no question; Get over it.
I guess, in the end, it comes down to you looking out for number 1. He's moved, found someone else. How much of your life are you willing to trade for the possibility of getting back together.
Leaving love is never an easy thing. Its disturbing, and unsettling in every way. But, sometimes, you know, you also have to look at reality.
Sorry. I know what I wrote sucks, but sometimes life just isnt fair.
You probably felt like the whole world was crashing down too didnt you? And you feel like your lost and dont know what your going to do next without them. You have the feeling where you just know you were meant to be, but are going crazy because it cant be.
Been there. I got alot of support from my friends, and i found writing down my feelings helped ALOT. also, if your creative in a way of drawing, painting, writing, you can turn this into a positive and use your wild emotions to make beautiful work.
I would definatly try to avoid any time alone; because then you will begin to think about them and you will feel overwhelmed with depression from your thoughts.
Write down your feelings, or a letter to them; without ever sending it.
Hangout with friends and talk to them on the phone. A break up is also a lead way to new or tighter friendships, since they will be there for you.
And ost importantly, DO NOT answer ANY of their calls or texts or emails. Avoid all contact. I know its extremely hard, and everyone told me to do so but i still texted him and ended up having him completely ignoring me now and just more horrible than it could have been.
I know it seems ridiculous that you will find someone new, but its passed about 2 months since my heartbreak and i found out some stuff about him i never knew and now, i met an amazing guy who we are 100% on the same page.
Just stay in there. it WILL all be over soon enough; and you will be disgusted at him for making you feel like that. Best of luck.
Find a goal to follow and keep your mind set.
Give it some time because time always heals heartbreak. I've been through it personally, so I should know what it's like to break and recover. Don't think that everything you do is depressing, because it isn't. You'll think back after you get over it, and actually laugh. I swear on that. Best of luck, and try to smile.
they way i deal with mine is be crying it first than when i calm down ask yourself why did you think it happen and after know if he/she was worth it all the pain that your going Thur after tell your self that you can do better but if you still love her/him tell your self that all in all you are you no matter what and if that don't work ask your heart if it's right is he/she is right
I'm sorry about your heartbreak, true love will find you again don't worry! Try talking to family and friends and see what advice you get from them. I never really had my heartbroken like that before.
move on, he didn't love you enough to keep the relationship going so you loved him more then he loved you. He's not worth your thoughts any more.
Give it time. You can distract yourself, or find a hobby, but the only thing that will make the hurt go away is time.
Time and the willingness to get off your duff and go find something to do beside mope bi h and whine.
its hard i know how you feel i coped with mine by locking myself in my room crying writing poems and cutting but please dont cut that wasn't a good idea
I'm going throught the same thing.
Its the hardest thing ever, If you find the answers to you're questions..
Let me know :(
Well here is how you deal with heartbreak...!!!! Get a Girlfriend (you know the ones with boobs and a nice butt!!)
how would i know?
You don't... it just fades with time. You have to stick it out for a while.
Its hard. Live your life and soon it won't be in your mind constantly.
get over it
I've been in two relationships that were similar to yours. Except I was the boyfriend that moved. The difference was I was NOT the boyfriend that broke up with them. This is over a period of, maybe, 12 years.
The first relationship, I was in the military and came home to propose to her. When I got home, I found out that she was having someone else's baby and was avoiding me so I wouldn't find out. We were together for six years. That hurt because I was crazy in love with her.
The second relationship, I lost my job and had to make a drastic move to make a living. I ended up working in another state. My girlfriend wasn't happy with it and stressed me a little... but we worked it out. So we were long distance for a while - until she decided to cross the line and have a baby by some guy that didn't even want to be with her on top of not wanting anything to do with the baby. Talk about bad luck with women. She and I were together for about 5 years.
Anyway... you have to move on. You can't let yourself feel any less valuable because it seems like someone, who you want to want you, doesn't. The thing that makes relationships feel so special is the attention, affection and support that you get from that significant person. When they leave, you feel like all of that is gone too. This is the time to focus on doing all you can to make yourself more valuable to you. Boost your own self esteem. Bring up your G.P.A, develop job skills, exercise, give his time to the other significant people in your life (they were there first anyway). Believe me... if you do those things, he will gradually turn into ';just that guy you used to date.';
Personally...I always think you need some time to hurt...hurt BAD. Something like that is SO hard. So let yourself hurt. Allow yourself a couple days of sobbing and hiding in your room. Then wake up one day and agree to set it aside. Then grow stronger from the experience. Eventually you will be able to look back at the relationship and see the good without wanting to breaking down and curl up and hide away. It might always sting a little but the happiness you had during those memories will override the sadness of not having them anymore. ;) Goodluck.
-Emma
P.S. I been there and I'm sorry. It's a sad sitch. But you grow stronger out of it and emerge a better person. Wishing you well until you get to that point =) -EmmaHow do you cope with heartbreak?
My situation is a bit more str8-forward that yours, cause he is str8 and it obviously could not go anywhere.
In this sense, I think your situation is more difficult. Because, theres still the question: is there any possibility that you could still be together.
In my case, there is no question; Get over it.
I guess, in the end, it comes down to you looking out for number 1. He's moved, found someone else. How much of your life are you willing to trade for the possibility of getting back together.
Leaving love is never an easy thing. Its disturbing, and unsettling in every way. But, sometimes, you know, you also have to look at reality.
Sorry. I know what I wrote sucks, but sometimes life just isnt fair.
You probably felt like the whole world was crashing down too didnt you? And you feel like your lost and dont know what your going to do next without them. You have the feeling where you just know you were meant to be, but are going crazy because it cant be.
Been there. I got alot of support from my friends, and i found writing down my feelings helped ALOT. also, if your creative in a way of drawing, painting, writing, you can turn this into a positive and use your wild emotions to make beautiful work.
I would definatly try to avoid any time alone; because then you will begin to think about them and you will feel overwhelmed with depression from your thoughts.
Write down your feelings, or a letter to them; without ever sending it.
Hangout with friends and talk to them on the phone. A break up is also a lead way to new or tighter friendships, since they will be there for you.
And ost importantly, DO NOT answer ANY of their calls or texts or emails. Avoid all contact. I know its extremely hard, and everyone told me to do so but i still texted him and ended up having him completely ignoring me now and just more horrible than it could have been.
I know it seems ridiculous that you will find someone new, but its passed about 2 months since my heartbreak and i found out some stuff about him i never knew and now, i met an amazing guy who we are 100% on the same page.
Just stay in there. it WILL all be over soon enough; and you will be disgusted at him for making you feel like that. Best of luck.
Find a goal to follow and keep your mind set.
Give it some time because time always heals heartbreak. I've been through it personally, so I should know what it's like to break and recover. Don't think that everything you do is depressing, because it isn't. You'll think back after you get over it, and actually laugh. I swear on that. Best of luck, and try to smile.
they way i deal with mine is be crying it first than when i calm down ask yourself why did you think it happen and after know if he/she was worth it all the pain that your going Thur after tell your self that you can do better but if you still love her/him tell your self that all in all you are you no matter what and if that don't work ask your heart if it's right is he/she is right
I'm sorry about your heartbreak, true love will find you again don't worry! Try talking to family and friends and see what advice you get from them. I never really had my heartbroken like that before.
move on, he didn't love you enough to keep the relationship going so you loved him more then he loved you. He's not worth your thoughts any more.
Give it time. You can distract yourself, or find a hobby, but the only thing that will make the hurt go away is time.
Time and the willingness to get off your duff and go find something to do beside mope bi h and whine.
its hard i know how you feel i coped with mine by locking myself in my room crying writing poems and cutting but please dont cut that wasn't a good idea
I'm going throught the same thing.
Its the hardest thing ever, If you find the answers to you're questions..
Let me know :(
Well here is how you deal with heartbreak...!!!! Get a Girlfriend (you know the ones with boobs and a nice butt!!)
how would i know?
You don't... it just fades with time. You have to stick it out for a while.
Its hard. Live your life and soon it won't be in your mind constantly.
get over it
I've been in two relationships that were similar to yours. Except I was the boyfriend that moved. The difference was I was NOT the boyfriend that broke up with them. This is over a period of, maybe, 12 years.
The first relationship, I was in the military and came home to propose to her. When I got home, I found out that she was having someone else's baby and was avoiding me so I wouldn't find out. We were together for six years. That hurt because I was crazy in love with her.
The second relationship, I lost my job and had to make a drastic move to make a living. I ended up working in another state. My girlfriend wasn't happy with it and stressed me a little... but we worked it out. So we were long distance for a while - until she decided to cross the line and have a baby by some guy that didn't even want to be with her on top of not wanting anything to do with the baby. Talk about bad luck with women. She and I were together for about 5 years.
Anyway... you have to move on. You can't let yourself feel any less valuable because it seems like someone, who you want to want you, doesn't. The thing that makes relationships feel so special is the attention, affection and support that you get from that significant person. When they leave, you feel like all of that is gone too. This is the time to focus on doing all you can to make yourself more valuable to you. Boost your own self esteem. Bring up your G.P.A, develop job skills, exercise, give his time to the other significant people in your life (they were there first anyway). Believe me... if you do those things, he will gradually turn into ';just that guy you used to date.';
I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
I thought she liked a guy at her work and i lost my temper and blew up on her. Now she is talking to that guy on the phone and stuff and i know its just so she can cope with our break up. How can i get her to see that she loves me and make her want to take me back?I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
i read the additional information.
you are not going to like this:
neither of you is yet emotionally mature enough to make a commitment to a marriage. you ask questions that are guaranteed to lead to misunderstandings and the fact that you ask those questions shows that you are not secure enough to trust her.
then she teases and now torments you.
before you compound the mistake by saying sorry etc etc, you should see whether there is enough of a relationship left that might be salvaged and strengthened by counselling. a neutral third party would be the only one that can give you meaningful help.
and there is another thing to consider - most first marriages end in divorce or separation. i think you are smart enough to understand how that works.I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
Seems like and old Friends episode. What ever you do, don't sleep with someone else. Don't request with or without you on the radio and just drink the fat.
Tell her you love her and you messed up.
Don`t forget the flowers :)
Good luck to you.
You've got a lot of work to do. Slowly and surely you have to win her back. Fight for her if that's what you want. Buy flowers, ask for forgiveness and understanding. It will take months to win her back and she won't come back that easily if she is smart.
If she was your fiance and this happened, I hate to be negative, but it will probably never work out... especially if she is talking to the guy that seems to have caused all the problems in the first place, right? That's a lot of weirdness going on there, good luck!
u kiss *** big time a buy her stuff that always seems to work
Ugh, you're probably going to make her life unbearable. Maybe you guys should take a break. Marriage is (supposed to be) forever. If you break up and get back together over everything I'm sure you just need to step back.
Sorry to say this, but she probably did and still does fancy him and if your relationship can't stand your fiancee talking to another man ,then neither of you are mature enough for marriage,I would be counting my lucky stars,and thinking that it is cheaper than a divorce next year.
If you want to try win her back then talk to her and tell her what a pill*%26amp;k you've been....but don't beg or plead or make excuses she might give you another chance.
Personally any man who balled me out for talking to another man would be long gone and if I was engaged and fancied someone else I would be seriously doubting you were *the One*
you were engaged and you blew up over nothing but a possibility? you arent ready to get married at all
to tell you the truth she was probably talking to him the whole time
well maybe you should of not got so angry with her and yelled at her.. just tell her how much you are sorry and what to be with her..
Apologize for your actions and tell her you weren't thinking clearly at the time.
You can't MAKE her take you back...she needs to WANT you back. Your issues of jealousy, doubt, and your temper need to be worked out before you start taking those steps to get her back because they will only be issues once again. She needs to see that you trust her even if you don't trust whoever it is she works with. If you don't trust her, then there's no need trying to get back together with her. It's going to take a 1,000 apologies to make up for the harsh words you said to her and the emotional trauma you put her through. You made her question your future together and those questions will be there until she sees that she can trust you with her heart.
Start off slowly with a phone call and/or some flowers. You'll have to gage how willing she is to speak to you and again, go slowly. Let her know that you realize how mistaken you were, that if your temper is an issue, you'll get help for it, that you didn't speak with kindness or compassion, that you want to prove to her that you're still in love with her.
If you need to listen to her, that make sure you have that eye contact, a cold beverage if you get parched, but do whatever it is that you have to do to make her realize that you hurt her.
ok so first you need to call her and dont sound despret just talk to her like a regular women. then once she starts talking to you again get your realashonship back together but take it slow. but make sure you tell her sorry
how stupid and insecure are u???? are u kidding me,, like u aint attractive to other gurls.... dnt u think jlo is hot or beyonce... or eva mendez ,, cmon on man,,,attractive means ****... ur stupid **** if u were my fiance and did this to me,,, hahaha u better blive i wouldnt take u back,,,, i hope she doesnt either..........................
well you have shown her that you dont trust her so she will prob be difficult to get back, maybe send some flowers (her favourite!) and send the message sorry. i love you and maybe please forgive me. send her a txt or 2 saying can we talk and get her to meet you. tell her you thought she would leave you and you were afraid and upset, and you over reacted. see if she will give you a second chance.
Good Luck
You need to be saying, ';How can I get her to see that I LOVE HER, and to take me back';
That is going to be a tough one because she is going to think that you are always going to be jealous. You need to just talk to her and tell her how you feel, some flowers would help too
Is it so she can cope with the break up or were you right?
buy her flowers explaine you were a jerk before it is too late!
deep down she still kares about you just let her know how you feel
the only way you should do anything in life... just be honest. Tell her how you feel and that you were stupid. It may not work but thats a part of life and learning from your mistakes. Believe me I know what you are going through though
she stil loves you..do the best you can to get her back..you can do it..try do the things that makes her happy and special..
You don't make her do anything ya control-freak. You have to make her want you back. You have to become. Irresistible. Find a way to let her know you love her and you can't live without her. Asking her to have a long sit-down talk with you might be the best way. Also, If she doesn't want to, you could always go serenade her outside her bedroom window. If that doesn't make her realize... accept it, you lost.emo hair home theater
i read the additional information.
you are not going to like this:
neither of you is yet emotionally mature enough to make a commitment to a marriage. you ask questions that are guaranteed to lead to misunderstandings and the fact that you ask those questions shows that you are not secure enough to trust her.
then she teases and now torments you.
before you compound the mistake by saying sorry etc etc, you should see whether there is enough of a relationship left that might be salvaged and strengthened by counselling. a neutral third party would be the only one that can give you meaningful help.
and there is another thing to consider - most first marriages end in divorce or separation. i think you are smart enough to understand how that works.I broke up with my fiancee and i want her back so bad. How do i do it?
Seems like and old Friends episode. What ever you do, don't sleep with someone else. Don't request with or without you on the radio and just drink the fat.
Tell her you love her and you messed up.
Don`t forget the flowers :)
Good luck to you.
You've got a lot of work to do. Slowly and surely you have to win her back. Fight for her if that's what you want. Buy flowers, ask for forgiveness and understanding. It will take months to win her back and she won't come back that easily if she is smart.
If she was your fiance and this happened, I hate to be negative, but it will probably never work out... especially if she is talking to the guy that seems to have caused all the problems in the first place, right? That's a lot of weirdness going on there, good luck!
u kiss *** big time a buy her stuff that always seems to work
Ugh, you're probably going to make her life unbearable. Maybe you guys should take a break. Marriage is (supposed to be) forever. If you break up and get back together over everything I'm sure you just need to step back.
Sorry to say this, but she probably did and still does fancy him and if your relationship can't stand your fiancee talking to another man ,then neither of you are mature enough for marriage,I would be counting my lucky stars,and thinking that it is cheaper than a divorce next year.
If you want to try win her back then talk to her and tell her what a pill*%26amp;k you've been....but don't beg or plead or make excuses she might give you another chance.
Personally any man who balled me out for talking to another man would be long gone and if I was engaged and fancied someone else I would be seriously doubting you were *the One*
you were engaged and you blew up over nothing but a possibility? you arent ready to get married at all
to tell you the truth she was probably talking to him the whole time
well maybe you should of not got so angry with her and yelled at her.. just tell her how much you are sorry and what to be with her..
Apologize for your actions and tell her you weren't thinking clearly at the time.
You can't MAKE her take you back...she needs to WANT you back. Your issues of jealousy, doubt, and your temper need to be worked out before you start taking those steps to get her back because they will only be issues once again. She needs to see that you trust her even if you don't trust whoever it is she works with. If you don't trust her, then there's no need trying to get back together with her. It's going to take a 1,000 apologies to make up for the harsh words you said to her and the emotional trauma you put her through. You made her question your future together and those questions will be there until she sees that she can trust you with her heart.
Start off slowly with a phone call and/or some flowers. You'll have to gage how willing she is to speak to you and again, go slowly. Let her know that you realize how mistaken you were, that if your temper is an issue, you'll get help for it, that you didn't speak with kindness or compassion, that you want to prove to her that you're still in love with her.
If you need to listen to her, that make sure you have that eye contact, a cold beverage if you get parched, but do whatever it is that you have to do to make her realize that you hurt her.
ok so first you need to call her and dont sound despret just talk to her like a regular women. then once she starts talking to you again get your realashonship back together but take it slow. but make sure you tell her sorry
how stupid and insecure are u???? are u kidding me,, like u aint attractive to other gurls.... dnt u think jlo is hot or beyonce... or eva mendez ,, cmon on man,,,attractive means ****... ur stupid **** if u were my fiance and did this to me,,, hahaha u better blive i wouldnt take u back,,,, i hope she doesnt either..........................
well you have shown her that you dont trust her so she will prob be difficult to get back, maybe send some flowers (her favourite!) and send the message sorry. i love you and maybe please forgive me. send her a txt or 2 saying can we talk and get her to meet you. tell her you thought she would leave you and you were afraid and upset, and you over reacted. see if she will give you a second chance.
Good Luck
You need to be saying, ';How can I get her to see that I LOVE HER, and to take me back';
That is going to be a tough one because she is going to think that you are always going to be jealous. You need to just talk to her and tell her how you feel, some flowers would help too
Is it so she can cope with the break up or were you right?
buy her flowers explaine you were a jerk before it is too late!
deep down she still kares about you just let her know how you feel
the only way you should do anything in life... just be honest. Tell her how you feel and that you were stupid. It may not work but thats a part of life and learning from your mistakes. Believe me I know what you are going through though
she stil loves you..do the best you can to get her back..you can do it..try do the things that makes her happy and special..
You don't make her do anything ya control-freak. You have to make her want you back. You have to become. Irresistible. Find a way to let her know you love her and you can't live without her. Asking her to have a long sit-down talk with you might be the best way. Also, If she doesn't want to, you could always go serenade her outside her bedroom window. If that doesn't make her realize... accept it, you lost.
I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
my boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up and I am not able to cope with the loss.... we were planning to get married and have kids and we even tried to make babies.
he had dated other girls while we were together but they all went bad and he came back to me and every time I tried really hard to forgive him only to find out that he is cheating again.
we are on a long distance relationship and he is desperately looking for having a family and kids.
he is 42 ,divorced with 2 kids. I am 26,never married, no kids...
I am going mad thinking about how ignored everything we had and is dating a mexican girl.
funny thing is that they were fighting last week and he called to make sure I am still there for him..
how can I get over it? I am hopless.I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
How can you get over what?? How can you not no he is a lire a serial cheater and is not good husband material. Your at an age where you think time is running out and you want to get married really bad. You should be counting your lucky stars that he doesn't won't to marry you in fact he is doing you a big favor by not marrying you. I know it hurts i remember very well just how much it hurts. My husband left me for 2 1/2 years you think it hurts when a boyfriend leaves you, well let me tell you that there is no comparison when it comes to a boyfriend verses a husband. You need to get over him and in order to do that you are going to have to change your phone and cell numbers if you don't do that then you don't want to get over him like he has gotten over you.Make no mistake here he has gotten over you that little phone call he made to you meant nothing to him but a sure thing booty call if and when he wants it. He has been married and has a family already so stop thinking that's what he wants because it isn't all he is after is to have as much sex with as many different women he can before he goes back to his first wife or before he finds someone else that is stupid enough to marry him. He is a player and always will be and is an open book and everyone can read him but you .I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
its gonna be hard, but rebounds help. start dating again. make sure he knows your not gonna be there anymore. but be happy. you can't make the pain go away if you don't keep yourself busy.think about other guys. it'll make you happy. when other guys tell you that you deserve better they mean it. don't just sit there and think the pain is gonna go, you need some time out and have fun. look pretty and go dancing. no women is worth crying for a cheating guy. good luck.
You should be cheering that you got rid of him, what is wrong with you ? How can you love someone like that ? You are his safety net, he sleeps around, does whatever he wants and then when he is bored he's coming back to you because you're too weak and too stupid to leave him !!!
you deserve so much better than him. i wish you knew that for yourself. i think it sounded a little rude the way you wrote ';mexican girl'; if you spend time thinking who is better than who you will most likely have a bad self image. like your self better and you dump the bum.
Girl, Guys like that I see why females turn lesbian.
Time to show him he screwed up 1 to many times.
Forget about him, go out and have some fun.. meet someone that will show you how a man treats a girl. give in and let this man Rock your world
He's a cheater and a repeat offender. Why do you women even bother with men like that? Take some pride in yourself and find a man who'll love you the way you deserve to be loved...
How can you love someone who cheats on you? How can you want to be someone who doesn't love you and only wants to use you? How can you settle for a life with someone who has always treated you this way?
How do you get over him? You tell yourself you are a good person and you deserve a good man who will treat you with love and respect and you refuse to settle for anything less. Then you walk away and never look back. Start with changing your phone number so he can't call you anymore. Delete him from your life. That's the only way you can start a new life.
You know dear, I am really glad that you were not married to him in the 1st place.You deserve someone who will really take care of your feelings, whom you can trust, who will only have the heart for you.Someone who will respect you as a woman.
It may be tough but how do you expect this man to be faithful to you? How long do you want to be his 'spare-tyre'? Be kind to yourself.Find new activities, get new hobbies, join your buddies for outings,do charity works,change your lifestyle.Get him off your mind!Do a total annihilation!Time will heal you.Time will restore you.Let him go and move on.
You are not hopeless, you're just emotional right now. If you really want something different for yourself, you're going to have to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you, you already know the relationship is poison and means you no good in the long run, you'll never trust him and you'll always be looking for him to do something wrong, you need to sever all ties with him, I know it'll seem hard at first but time does heal and help you move on, start small by not excepting his calls or seeing him, you owe it to yourself to try and be happy without all his drama, stop limiting yourself, what one man only likes, another man will love. good luck
He is playing you like a fiddle....and you're allowing him to. Give you're head a shake. Why would you at 26 years old want to be involved with a divorced 42 year old with 2 kids? He's cheated on you....and still is. He's even calling to make sure you are still there for him while he's out doing other women and laughing behind your back because you are stupid enough to allow him to use you any way he wants. You need a brain transplant lady or someone to give you a good slap up the side of the head to wake you up!!
he had dated other girls while we were together but they all went bad and he came back to me and every time I tried really hard to forgive him only to find out that he is cheating again.
we are on a long distance relationship and he is desperately looking for having a family and kids.
he is 42 ,divorced with 2 kids. I am 26,never married, no kids...
I am going mad thinking about how ignored everything we had and is dating a mexican girl.
funny thing is that they were fighting last week and he called to make sure I am still there for him..
how can I get over it? I am hopless.I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
How can you get over what?? How can you not no he is a lire a serial cheater and is not good husband material. Your at an age where you think time is running out and you want to get married really bad. You should be counting your lucky stars that he doesn't won't to marry you in fact he is doing you a big favor by not marrying you. I know it hurts i remember very well just how much it hurts. My husband left me for 2 1/2 years you think it hurts when a boyfriend leaves you, well let me tell you that there is no comparison when it comes to a boyfriend verses a husband. You need to get over him and in order to do that you are going to have to change your phone and cell numbers if you don't do that then you don't want to get over him like he has gotten over you.Make no mistake here he has gotten over you that little phone call he made to you meant nothing to him but a sure thing booty call if and when he wants it. He has been married and has a family already so stop thinking that's what he wants because it isn't all he is after is to have as much sex with as many different women he can before he goes back to his first wife or before he finds someone else that is stupid enough to marry him. He is a player and always will be and is an open book and everyone can read him but you .I can't get over the break up of a 5 year relationship.?
its gonna be hard, but rebounds help. start dating again. make sure he knows your not gonna be there anymore. but be happy. you can't make the pain go away if you don't keep yourself busy.think about other guys. it'll make you happy. when other guys tell you that you deserve better they mean it. don't just sit there and think the pain is gonna go, you need some time out and have fun. look pretty and go dancing. no women is worth crying for a cheating guy. good luck.
You should be cheering that you got rid of him, what is wrong with you ? How can you love someone like that ? You are his safety net, he sleeps around, does whatever he wants and then when he is bored he's coming back to you because you're too weak and too stupid to leave him !!!
you deserve so much better than him. i wish you knew that for yourself. i think it sounded a little rude the way you wrote ';mexican girl'; if you spend time thinking who is better than who you will most likely have a bad self image. like your self better and you dump the bum.
Girl, Guys like that I see why females turn lesbian.
Time to show him he screwed up 1 to many times.
Forget about him, go out and have some fun.. meet someone that will show you how a man treats a girl. give in and let this man Rock your world
He's a cheater and a repeat offender. Why do you women even bother with men like that? Take some pride in yourself and find a man who'll love you the way you deserve to be loved...
How can you love someone who cheats on you? How can you want to be someone who doesn't love you and only wants to use you? How can you settle for a life with someone who has always treated you this way?
How do you get over him? You tell yourself you are a good person and you deserve a good man who will treat you with love and respect and you refuse to settle for anything less. Then you walk away and never look back. Start with changing your phone number so he can't call you anymore. Delete him from your life. That's the only way you can start a new life.
You know dear, I am really glad that you were not married to him in the 1st place.You deserve someone who will really take care of your feelings, whom you can trust, who will only have the heart for you.Someone who will respect you as a woman.
It may be tough but how do you expect this man to be faithful to you? How long do you want to be his 'spare-tyre'? Be kind to yourself.Find new activities, get new hobbies, join your buddies for outings,do charity works,change your lifestyle.Get him off your mind!Do a total annihilation!Time will heal you.Time will restore you.Let him go and move on.
You are not hopeless, you're just emotional right now. If you really want something different for yourself, you're going to have to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you, you already know the relationship is poison and means you no good in the long run, you'll never trust him and you'll always be looking for him to do something wrong, you need to sever all ties with him, I know it'll seem hard at first but time does heal and help you move on, start small by not excepting his calls or seeing him, you owe it to yourself to try and be happy without all his drama, stop limiting yourself, what one man only likes, another man will love. good luck
He is playing you like a fiddle....and you're allowing him to. Give you're head a shake. Why would you at 26 years old want to be involved with a divorced 42 year old with 2 kids? He's cheated on you....and still is. He's even calling to make sure you are still there for him while he's out doing other women and laughing behind your back because you are stupid enough to allow him to use you any way he wants. You need a brain transplant lady or someone to give you a good slap up the side of the head to wake you up!!
How many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I had been married for 30 years. Since i was 20. So i never really had a relationship except with my husband who i was faithful to. He wasn't. I finally left and i found another man who i was pleased with till the shite started hitting the fan and the truth of his lies were revealed. I have broken up with him and am feeling really, really, really bad, sad, mad and kinda hopeless. I go around crying off and on. waves of pain. I loved this man you see and he professed his love so tenderly to me and with me. Then i had to break up for he broke the trust factor too many times. He was physically violent to me too which i admit i tolerated for too long. HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN WITH AND BROKEN UP WITH SOMEONE TILL YOU FOUND THE RIGHT MATCH WITH SOMEONE YOU COULD TRUST, WAS GOOD AND LASTING HEALTHY LOVE? HOW DID YOU COPE AFTER EACH BREAK UP WITHOUT LOSING HOPE FOR THE FUTURE? THANKS.How many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
Im 29.... iv had 3 serious relationships....i left 2 of them for cheating/and other things.. the other past away.. iv dated allot of other men...dont know how many but allot...if they arent what im looking for i end things with in weeks sometimes days! You will find someone for you... you just have to be positive and strong!
God wants us to be happy! He will bring that person into your life...He usually does it when your not worrying about itHow many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I have dated alot of women but you move on and try again but only when you are ready. When you live on your own and find independence and happiness within yourself then you are ready to find someone to share that happiness with and only because you want to not because you need to on a emotional or financial level. It takes time and that is all we have in this world so don't waste anytime by dating losers take your time and don't rush into things.
depends.
there's often two sides to a coin.
the bad said and the good side. What's good about having had a lot of relationship exp is just that and you know what to look for and what not to look for next time.
but it's really hard. Some people are just lucky and get with the first person. But I think it's safe to say that most have experienced a break up whether by fault of their own or not.
Im 29.... iv had 3 serious relationships....i left 2 of them for cheating/and other things.. the other past away.. iv dated allot of other men...dont know how many but allot...if they arent what im looking for i end things with in weeks sometimes days! You will find someone for you... you just have to be positive and strong!
God wants us to be happy! He will bring that person into your life...He usually does it when your not worrying about itHow many times have you broken up with someone till you found the right one?
I have dated alot of women but you move on and try again but only when you are ready. When you live on your own and find independence and happiness within yourself then you are ready to find someone to share that happiness with and only because you want to not because you need to on a emotional or financial level. It takes time and that is all we have in this world so don't waste anytime by dating losers take your time and don't rush into things.
depends.
there's often two sides to a coin.
the bad said and the good side. What's good about having had a lot of relationship exp is just that and you know what to look for and what not to look for next time.
but it's really hard. Some people are just lucky and get with the first person. But I think it's safe to say that most have experienced a break up whether by fault of their own or not.
My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now.....! how to cope and help!!!?
(btw we had been going out for almost a year)
ok well I'm katie and my boyfriend WAS ethan. we really loved each other but out of the blue a week ago, he sent me a text and it said, ';Fine I'll just leave you alone';. this is how the rest of the conversation went:
me-what!?! what r u talking about!??!
me- ethan plzzz answer me!
me-please...
Ethan-what
me where did this come from?
ethan- caitlin (***which is my friend, btw***) said you were finished
me- no! ethan i love you!
Ethan- well then y did grace (***which is my bff, btw) said u were upset
(i was writing my answer but didnt get finished)
Ethan- i think we shoul break up anyway
me- w-w-w-why???
ethan-we never hang out or do much together
ethan- i think we should just be friends tho
me- oh. ok.
ethan-bye katie
me- bye.
i really loved him and a week later i am still not over it. i have even turned down 3 guys that have asked me out. how do I cope? also yesterday i found out who he dumped me for...
*continued*My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now.....! how to cope and help!!!?
A week is not a long time to heal a broken heat, but in time you will. If you're not ready to date someone else, hang out with your friends or find something else to occupy your time.
I wouldn't go begging him to come back, that's stepping kinda low and doesn't say much for you.
It sounds like he is moving on and you need to do the same...Best of luck to youMy boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now.....! how to cope and help!!!?
I know exactly how you feel. my ex and i dated for over 2 years and he broke up with me about 3 months ago. I found out a few weeks later that he was dating someone else.... and to be honest i am happier now. It just takes time. I know right now it feels like your world is at an end but look past that. keep your self busy, get out there and hang with friends and just live life. No sense on wasting your time witha guy like that no matter how much you care for him. And you will go through stages of grief,anger, and then eventually happiness will find you, and one day you will miss having someone and be ready for another relationhip again and those other guys that you turned down are just gonna have to accept that cause im goin through it too...but trust me it takes time, just keep yourself busy
my bf kinda did the same, well they eventually broke up and i was feeling better and sticked close to my ex and when you talk alot with them and let them no whats going on then you have a more likely chance to have them like you again, because your friend relationship with them is more closer
I'm assuming the you're young and so in all honesty there's nothing anyone can say to help you deal with this a lot quicker than you'd like. But take it from someone who is older and has also been in that situation, this is actually a good thing! I know it sucks to hear people say, ';you're better off,'; but it's REALLY true. The fact that he broke up with you over a text is enough reason to let him go! On top of that, he gave you a lame reason, so he's a coward. And then, he already has someone else, so he's a cheater! I'm not recommending that you hate the guy, 'cause it's not worth it and there might have been some good in that relationship, but for now to help YOU . . . think of all the things you didn't like about him and the things you weren't able to do with him, and maybe the friends you lost touch with b/c of him. Get a gym membership and workout the pain, go out with your friends, do some community service, just don't let this take so much more than it already has, you're way too young for that! GOOD LUCK!!!
Avoid them, and don't speak to him any more. Y would you want someone back that would treat you so badly.Thank your lucky stars, I would ignore him and her, cut both of them off, and when he parades her around act like it doesn't bother you.
as soon as you can...date other guys...see how great they are...seems like your ex bf wasn't good for you...find a guy who really likes you...and cares for you...not just himself....
You will just have to give things time and you will move on. And in the future date some one who doesn't let other people get involved in your relationships. When some one lets other people in to a relationship it will get screwed up.
I know breakups are hard and I definitely understand you NOT being over him. That's only natural since you were in a relationship for such a long time. Let your heart have time to heal. It will take a while since it seems that you weren't aware of how much his feelings had changed. I'm sorry that you broke up in such an immature way. After dating for a year, he should have had the guts to tell you himself and not be getting his info from someone else than yourself. It sounds like he was looking for an out. If that's true, you are better off without him. I know you still have feelings for him, but you're better than that. You deserve better. If you can, I would not date for a while. Rebound relationships tend to not work out well. You end up feeling worse. I'm actually surprised that you've already had 3 insensitive guys ask you out already; however, this just shows how special you are. I would definitely hold out for the one who will value you and be there for you.
Just so you know, there are 5 stages of grief which you will go through:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Allow yourself to go through each stage (sometimes you'll go back and forth; won't necessarily be in this order). Let yourself cry and heal. Don't bottle up your feelings. Life will go on. You will live and not die.
Just remember that you deserve better. Don't settle for less.
i am in the same situation babe apart from my bf didnt dump me for somebody else. we were only going out for 5 months but i love him still soo much. i will not go near another boy for ages because i love my bf too much. he dumped me a week ago (almost) iand it is heartbraking. he was also my first bf and i am 16. its hard :( im crying now lol
yes it is normal yall dated for a year it is going to take time and it will be hard seeing him with her but it will get easier i promise
aww im sorry babe..
you wont get over it just like that..
your just gonna have to stick it out..
you'll stop hurting eventually.
But if he listens to your friends over you..
then hes really not worth the pain..
its his loss.
hope you get over it soon. x
girl your situation is VERY normal and ill tell you what my dad told me when i was in a simaliar situtation their are a million people in this world who are just fine without him and you will be too. he seems shallow and he is probably doing you a favor in the long run.
he sounds like a jerk, he was just giving an excuse to break up with you. leave him alone and dont be his friend if it hurts you. its normal to be feeling that way, you've just had your heart broken. but girl its been a WEEK. things like this take a bit more time. wait another week and you'll feel better, time heals all and in a month you'll probably be over him and with someone else and he'll come crawling back to you!
just wait it out. scientists havent found a cure for it yet. preoccupy yourself for now, it takes time =)
You don't ';cope'; with it at all. You leave it alone and get over it. It's not a soap opera so you just go on and talk to other people. You might think it's melodramatic but it isn't. Case closed.
yu say you love him.Do you know what is love?Try another one-all boys give the same stuff!
If he thats much of person to do that over a text message... Mine once happen over aim... very stupid and he wanted to call to do it all over again... no matter i said it first....
but id say get over it mine was 2 years and its just something you need to get over..
and on top of it what id do is with the ex and the girl act like it doesn't bother you it will piss them off... he might even come back to you who knows... once i gave up on a ex he stalked me for 2 years straight they want you more when you don't care about what there doing now and for the heck of it go up to one of thoses guys that asked you out and say hey lets go to the movies get out have fun...
just avoid the situation all toqether.
it seems to me he's one of those quys who likes to qet into drama and its best to stay away from him. you'll get over it over time but the only way you can is to distance yourself.
trust me i was in a similar situation, and i just gave in and went out with someone else, and it ended up takinq my mind off the other guy.
hope this helps and qood luck :)
ok well I'm katie and my boyfriend WAS ethan. we really loved each other but out of the blue a week ago, he sent me a text and it said, ';Fine I'll just leave you alone';. this is how the rest of the conversation went:
me-what!?! what r u talking about!??!
me- ethan plzzz answer me!
me-please...
Ethan-what
me where did this come from?
ethan- caitlin (***which is my friend, btw***) said you were finished
me- no! ethan i love you!
Ethan- well then y did grace (***which is my bff, btw) said u were upset
(i was writing my answer but didnt get finished)
Ethan- i think we shoul break up anyway
me- w-w-w-why???
ethan-we never hang out or do much together
ethan- i think we should just be friends tho
me- oh. ok.
ethan-bye katie
me- bye.
i really loved him and a week later i am still not over it. i have even turned down 3 guys that have asked me out. how do I cope? also yesterday i found out who he dumped me for...
*continued*My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now.....! how to cope and help!!!?
A week is not a long time to heal a broken heat, but in time you will. If you're not ready to date someone else, hang out with your friends or find something else to occupy your time.
I wouldn't go begging him to come back, that's stepping kinda low and doesn't say much for you.
It sounds like he is moving on and you need to do the same...Best of luck to youMy boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now.....! how to cope and help!!!?
I know exactly how you feel. my ex and i dated for over 2 years and he broke up with me about 3 months ago. I found out a few weeks later that he was dating someone else.... and to be honest i am happier now. It just takes time. I know right now it feels like your world is at an end but look past that. keep your self busy, get out there and hang with friends and just live life. No sense on wasting your time witha guy like that no matter how much you care for him. And you will go through stages of grief,anger, and then eventually happiness will find you, and one day you will miss having someone and be ready for another relationhip again and those other guys that you turned down are just gonna have to accept that cause im goin through it too...but trust me it takes time, just keep yourself busy
my bf kinda did the same, well they eventually broke up and i was feeling better and sticked close to my ex and when you talk alot with them and let them no whats going on then you have a more likely chance to have them like you again, because your friend relationship with them is more closer
I'm assuming the you're young and so in all honesty there's nothing anyone can say to help you deal with this a lot quicker than you'd like. But take it from someone who is older and has also been in that situation, this is actually a good thing! I know it sucks to hear people say, ';you're better off,'; but it's REALLY true. The fact that he broke up with you over a text is enough reason to let him go! On top of that, he gave you a lame reason, so he's a coward. And then, he already has someone else, so he's a cheater! I'm not recommending that you hate the guy, 'cause it's not worth it and there might have been some good in that relationship, but for now to help YOU . . . think of all the things you didn't like about him and the things you weren't able to do with him, and maybe the friends you lost touch with b/c of him. Get a gym membership and workout the pain, go out with your friends, do some community service, just don't let this take so much more than it already has, you're way too young for that! GOOD LUCK!!!
Avoid them, and don't speak to him any more. Y would you want someone back that would treat you so badly.Thank your lucky stars, I would ignore him and her, cut both of them off, and when he parades her around act like it doesn't bother you.
as soon as you can...date other guys...see how great they are...seems like your ex bf wasn't good for you...find a guy who really likes you...and cares for you...not just himself....
You will just have to give things time and you will move on. And in the future date some one who doesn't let other people get involved in your relationships. When some one lets other people in to a relationship it will get screwed up.
I know breakups are hard and I definitely understand you NOT being over him. That's only natural since you were in a relationship for such a long time. Let your heart have time to heal. It will take a while since it seems that you weren't aware of how much his feelings had changed. I'm sorry that you broke up in such an immature way. After dating for a year, he should have had the guts to tell you himself and not be getting his info from someone else than yourself. It sounds like he was looking for an out. If that's true, you are better off without him. I know you still have feelings for him, but you're better than that. You deserve better. If you can, I would not date for a while. Rebound relationships tend to not work out well. You end up feeling worse. I'm actually surprised that you've already had 3 insensitive guys ask you out already; however, this just shows how special you are. I would definitely hold out for the one who will value you and be there for you.
Just so you know, there are 5 stages of grief which you will go through:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Allow yourself to go through each stage (sometimes you'll go back and forth; won't necessarily be in this order). Let yourself cry and heal. Don't bottle up your feelings. Life will go on. You will live and not die.
Just remember that you deserve better. Don't settle for less.
i am in the same situation babe apart from my bf didnt dump me for somebody else. we were only going out for 5 months but i love him still soo much. i will not go near another boy for ages because i love my bf too much. he dumped me a week ago (almost) iand it is heartbraking. he was also my first bf and i am 16. its hard :( im crying now lol
yes it is normal yall dated for a year it is going to take time and it will be hard seeing him with her but it will get easier i promise
aww im sorry babe..
you wont get over it just like that..
your just gonna have to stick it out..
you'll stop hurting eventually.
But if he listens to your friends over you..
then hes really not worth the pain..
its his loss.
hope you get over it soon. x
girl your situation is VERY normal and ill tell you what my dad told me when i was in a simaliar situtation their are a million people in this world who are just fine without him and you will be too. he seems shallow and he is probably doing you a favor in the long run.
he sounds like a jerk, he was just giving an excuse to break up with you. leave him alone and dont be his friend if it hurts you. its normal to be feeling that way, you've just had your heart broken. but girl its been a WEEK. things like this take a bit more time. wait another week and you'll feel better, time heals all and in a month you'll probably be over him and with someone else and he'll come crawling back to you!
just wait it out. scientists havent found a cure for it yet. preoccupy yourself for now, it takes time =)
You don't ';cope'; with it at all. You leave it alone and get over it. It's not a soap opera so you just go on and talk to other people. You might think it's melodramatic but it isn't. Case closed.
yu say you love him.Do you know what is love?Try another one-all boys give the same stuff!
If he thats much of person to do that over a text message... Mine once happen over aim... very stupid and he wanted to call to do it all over again... no matter i said it first....
but id say get over it mine was 2 years and its just something you need to get over..
and on top of it what id do is with the ex and the girl act like it doesn't bother you it will piss them off... he might even come back to you who knows... once i gave up on a ex he stalked me for 2 years straight they want you more when you don't care about what there doing now and for the heck of it go up to one of thoses guys that asked you out and say hey lets go to the movies get out have fun...
just avoid the situation all toqether.
it seems to me he's one of those quys who likes to qet into drama and its best to stay away from him. you'll get over it over time but the only way you can is to distance yourself.
trust me i was in a similar situation, and i just gave in and went out with someone else, and it ended up takinq my mind off the other guy.
hope this helps and qood luck :)
Bad Break Up Support Please? ?
Ok people, it's been six months since breaking up with the ex after 2 yrs together. In a nutshell I wanted us to commit more/get engaged/move in and he chose to split up instead. Ok, bad enough but I could cope with that. I was working abroad at the time for 6 weeks, teaching English to the adult sister of a now married ex from 7 years ago. 3 weeks in the break up happened over the phone. I texted him and suggested we meet up when I returned in 3 weeks to break up properly/give our 2yr relationship the respect it deserved but he refused, by text, informing me that this text was the last contact he was ever going to have with me and that was basically it. Over. Bascially the last time I saw him was at the departure gate at the airport when I left for my teaching assignment. We hugged, kissed, said goodbye as a couple there.
His sick, cruel method of closure has devastated me more than the break up. I can't get my head round how someone could be that cold to a person they have just been intimately involved with for 2 yrs, especially since I was his first in every way. I couldn't treat my worst enemy like that.
We're not kids - I'm 29 he is 36!!!! Though while I am an independent and a healthy adult he still lives with mummy and daddy. I was his very first girlfriend (he was 34 when we met) he had no job when we met (though has got one since) - you get the picture....
I suppose the signs were there in the beginning that he was not the best candidate for a positive adult relationship, especially when he cited his reason for not committing more was due to my 'strong' personality! (read normal healthy adult!)
I dunno, I feel a bit crap at the moment, I'm at the stage where I'm half blaming myself wondering if I was as much of a ***** as he seems to think I was, I had a dream about him last night in which he was the loving person he was at first and then as I woke up he became the self centred, controlling, devious little boy I broke up with. Still I think the dream has gotten to me and I'm feeling things I don't want to about him. I was fine that we broke up - it was the right thing to do as I was so unhappy and I had to make a change in my life with or without him. It was the way it was done that was the worst - I would have met with him and broken up civilly and lovingly as our 2yrs together deserved, not callously the way he wanted it.
I feel the most overwhelming pain at the moment and I am not meeting my obligations as I should be. I have an important business meeting tomorrow (I'm an entrepreneur) and I can't seem to motivate myself to go.
It's like I've become dead and numb inside. At first I coped great but it's hitting me now. I find myself wondering if he thinks about me, if he has someone else now, if he feels guilty for treating me so horribly at the end, even though I know he was completely the wrong person for me and even emotionally abusive.
8 months into the relationship he told me that if I got as big as my mum (3 stone/42lb heavier approx) he would not find me attractive. We nearly broke up over that as I couldn't be with someone like that and I knew I would be terrified of eating around him. He cried, apologised and I forgave him but things were never the same after that. He became somebody else in my eyes. I ceased to feel safe with him. Controlling streaks began to emerge in other ways - how Ispent my money, the food I gave him, debating with him when he wanted me to just take his opinion nad leave it at that (his words pretty much) putting me down in a group of people once when I was in a conversation with a medical professional, giving me the silent treatment when he was upset with me. Little things y'know?
He was not too good for me and yet I still feel sad. Please help me snap out of this! Thank you guys%26amp;gals...xxBad Break Up Support Please? ?
I went through something similar several years ago--a really bad breakup where the hard part wasn't so much the breakup as the callous (and in my situation very sudden) way he did it. One day I was the love of his life and the next he didn't care whether I lived or died...amazing. I felt as though I had been emotionally raped.
That one did take some time to get over, and there were times that I wondered if I ever would, because I felt so devalued and stupid. But I just kept going and it got better with time...and then I met Mr. Right, got married and am happy as can be!
Hang in there. Trust me, you are going to be just fine.Bad Break Up Support Please? ?
Oh Sweetie, give yourself the credit that you deserve! You saw all the red warning flags and were wise enough to know the relationship was not what you wanted. You are so much better off without him and the fact that he didn't want to face you after the 'breakup' says much about him and his character.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a good job, a great relationship and being able to stand on your own two feet. I say you go into that meeting tomorrow with your head held high and conduct your self with confidence. If you were to stay in a relationship with him, you would begin to question every thing you said or did. He would find fault with everything and make you feel guilty over nothing. There is a reason that he is still living with the folks, hadn't had a job before and that you were the first....he is very insecure and needed to control you so that he could feel important. You are so lucky that he is no longer in your life. I am very proud of you and your strength.
You would have been miserable had you stayed in that relationship. This is a lesson in life and I hope you were paying attention. You certainly have learned something from this and I doubt you will repeat this chapter. Live you life for you and your happiness; if someone comes along to enhance your life, go for it. Now, before your meeting tomorrow, say to yourself ';Today is a better day than I ever thought possible';. Put your past behind you and move on. Good luck!
I think the important thing to remember is that females easily attach our emotions to everything we do and say. When it comes to relationships it's usually all or nothing for most of us. We also tend not to like change and have this internal struggle when it happens. Thus it's normal to go through the grieving process when we go through changes. This process becomes more complicated when you consider the emotions you have in regards to the relationship and the feelings you have about yourself. It's normal to feel sad when a relationship ends but when it ends in this manner it's easy to begin having self doubt. It's all a part of the grieving process.
What happens next is up to you! You can choose to beat yourself up, look for explanations or allow yourself to feel sad but make chooses which will move you forward instead of keeping you trapped in one place.
I think you are smart and realize that the controlling behaviors he exhibited were not healthy for you. Use this time to reexamine the type of personality traits that would be healthy for your future relationships. You can make your life anything you want it to be. You have what it takes inside of you as long as you believe it. No matter what other people say or do around you, if you choose to good to yourself nothing else will matter.
I would suggest professional help, this guy is a mental case. You might continue to write things down (in a Word .doc) and revisit every so often - very therapeutic.
You invested a good deal of yourself in him, with nothing given back in return, no wonder you feel badly. He managed to hide it from you for a good while, but not forever.
Be thankful it's over, life with him (and his parents) would have been HELL!!
Yours is typical of 21st century break ups. Texting, e-mail and voice mail make it all too easy.
You are in mourning right now. Any loss like this has to be mourned and consoled. It will take time for your heart to heal. give it that time.
Cry for him, mlurn the loss of the relationship. Let it all out. You will find that in feeling this pain, you will make yourself prepared for moving on with your life.
Seek out your friends and family. Their shoulders can probably bear the weight of your sorrow and help you recover..
It is OK to weep - even if it just you crying.
Too much sadness and misery decreases life span by 20 years! This guy did you a big favour, trust me the way you described him is as though he has a mental illness,you can't satisfy a person like that and there will always be some drama to deal with if u stick with a loser like him!
His sick, cruel method of closure has devastated me more than the break up. I can't get my head round how someone could be that cold to a person they have just been intimately involved with for 2 yrs, especially since I was his first in every way. I couldn't treat my worst enemy like that.
We're not kids - I'm 29 he is 36!!!! Though while I am an independent and a healthy adult he still lives with mummy and daddy. I was his very first girlfriend (he was 34 when we met) he had no job when we met (though has got one since) - you get the picture....
I suppose the signs were there in the beginning that he was not the best candidate for a positive adult relationship, especially when he cited his reason for not committing more was due to my 'strong' personality! (read normal healthy adult!)
I dunno, I feel a bit crap at the moment, I'm at the stage where I'm half blaming myself wondering if I was as much of a ***** as he seems to think I was, I had a dream about him last night in which he was the loving person he was at first and then as I woke up he became the self centred, controlling, devious little boy I broke up with. Still I think the dream has gotten to me and I'm feeling things I don't want to about him. I was fine that we broke up - it was the right thing to do as I was so unhappy and I had to make a change in my life with or without him. It was the way it was done that was the worst - I would have met with him and broken up civilly and lovingly as our 2yrs together deserved, not callously the way he wanted it.
I feel the most overwhelming pain at the moment and I am not meeting my obligations as I should be. I have an important business meeting tomorrow (I'm an entrepreneur) and I can't seem to motivate myself to go.
It's like I've become dead and numb inside. At first I coped great but it's hitting me now. I find myself wondering if he thinks about me, if he has someone else now, if he feels guilty for treating me so horribly at the end, even though I know he was completely the wrong person for me and even emotionally abusive.
8 months into the relationship he told me that if I got as big as my mum (3 stone/42lb heavier approx) he would not find me attractive. We nearly broke up over that as I couldn't be with someone like that and I knew I would be terrified of eating around him. He cried, apologised and I forgave him but things were never the same after that. He became somebody else in my eyes. I ceased to feel safe with him. Controlling streaks began to emerge in other ways - how Ispent my money, the food I gave him, debating with him when he wanted me to just take his opinion nad leave it at that (his words pretty much) putting me down in a group of people once when I was in a conversation with a medical professional, giving me the silent treatment when he was upset with me. Little things y'know?
He was not too good for me and yet I still feel sad. Please help me snap out of this! Thank you guys%26amp;gals...xxBad Break Up Support Please? ?
I went through something similar several years ago--a really bad breakup where the hard part wasn't so much the breakup as the callous (and in my situation very sudden) way he did it. One day I was the love of his life and the next he didn't care whether I lived or died...amazing. I felt as though I had been emotionally raped.
That one did take some time to get over, and there were times that I wondered if I ever would, because I felt so devalued and stupid. But I just kept going and it got better with time...and then I met Mr. Right, got married and am happy as can be!
Hang in there. Trust me, you are going to be just fine.Bad Break Up Support Please? ?
Oh Sweetie, give yourself the credit that you deserve! You saw all the red warning flags and were wise enough to know the relationship was not what you wanted. You are so much better off without him and the fact that he didn't want to face you after the 'breakup' says much about him and his character.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a good job, a great relationship and being able to stand on your own two feet. I say you go into that meeting tomorrow with your head held high and conduct your self with confidence. If you were to stay in a relationship with him, you would begin to question every thing you said or did. He would find fault with everything and make you feel guilty over nothing. There is a reason that he is still living with the folks, hadn't had a job before and that you were the first....he is very insecure and needed to control you so that he could feel important. You are so lucky that he is no longer in your life. I am very proud of you and your strength.
You would have been miserable had you stayed in that relationship. This is a lesson in life and I hope you were paying attention. You certainly have learned something from this and I doubt you will repeat this chapter. Live you life for you and your happiness; if someone comes along to enhance your life, go for it. Now, before your meeting tomorrow, say to yourself ';Today is a better day than I ever thought possible';. Put your past behind you and move on. Good luck!
I think the important thing to remember is that females easily attach our emotions to everything we do and say. When it comes to relationships it's usually all or nothing for most of us. We also tend not to like change and have this internal struggle when it happens. Thus it's normal to go through the grieving process when we go through changes. This process becomes more complicated when you consider the emotions you have in regards to the relationship and the feelings you have about yourself. It's normal to feel sad when a relationship ends but when it ends in this manner it's easy to begin having self doubt. It's all a part of the grieving process.
What happens next is up to you! You can choose to beat yourself up, look for explanations or allow yourself to feel sad but make chooses which will move you forward instead of keeping you trapped in one place.
I think you are smart and realize that the controlling behaviors he exhibited were not healthy for you. Use this time to reexamine the type of personality traits that would be healthy for your future relationships. You can make your life anything you want it to be. You have what it takes inside of you as long as you believe it. No matter what other people say or do around you, if you choose to good to yourself nothing else will matter.
I would suggest professional help, this guy is a mental case. You might continue to write things down (in a Word .doc) and revisit every so often - very therapeutic.
You invested a good deal of yourself in him, with nothing given back in return, no wonder you feel badly. He managed to hide it from you for a good while, but not forever.
Be thankful it's over, life with him (and his parents) would have been HELL!!
Yours is typical of 21st century break ups. Texting, e-mail and voice mail make it all too easy.
You are in mourning right now. Any loss like this has to be mourned and consoled. It will take time for your heart to heal. give it that time.
Cry for him, mlurn the loss of the relationship. Let it all out. You will find that in feeling this pain, you will make yourself prepared for moving on with your life.
Seek out your friends and family. Their shoulders can probably bear the weight of your sorrow and help you recover..
It is OK to weep - even if it just you crying.
Too much sadness and misery decreases life span by 20 years! This guy did you a big favour, trust me the way you described him is as though he has a mental illness,you can't satisfy a person like that and there will always be some drama to deal with if u stick with a loser like him!
Should I break up with my bf over this? Please help.?
I broke up with my ex when I found out he was seeing another girl and during that time I befriended a guy who helped me get through that difficult period who is now my bf. Several months after my breakup I bumped into my ex. He told me during that period when we were breaking up, my now bf who was helping me cope, took my ex and that girl out to dinner with him and his then gf.
It's been a couple of months since my ex told me this info and my bf has never told me about it, even while knowing how much I hated that girl yet he took them out to dinner! Should I break it off with him? Shouldn't he have told me about this? I felt like an idiot when my ex told me and pretended I knew about it! Am I a fool if I continue staying with him? The anger is growing more and more each day.Should I break up with my bf over this? Please help.?
It sounds to me like you are VERY possessive!
That's my FIRST impression!
BUT, to be HONEST, your 'story' leaves a lot of questions unanswered... I'm going to TRY to answer based on what you have said so far...
FIRST... you mentioned a ';period when we were breaking up';... How long did it TAKE to 'break-up?' (Sounds to me like it took a LONG time... which leads to another question... (How 'stuck' on HIM are / were you???)
NEXT... ';during that period when we were breaking up, my now bf who was helping me cope, took my ex and that girl out to dinner with him and his then gf.';...
SOOOooo... ??? I'm sorry, but what was EACH of YOUR status's at that TIME... (';Several months';)...
NOW... Are you HAPPY with your PRESENT ';B.F.'; (Aside from your question about ';months that are 'undefined' - as to WHO 'belongs' to WHO???)
Should he have TOLD you... ??? Maybe... But... if he was just being 'sociable' to start with... Why would he... ??? Why would your EX tell you something like that??? Why would you believe him???
I hate to SAY it this way... but I can only tell you what ';I'; believe... so, here goes...
I think you are relatively YOUNG... Probably under 20... (If you are OVER 20, I'll double my bet!!!)
I can understand that you ';broke up with my ex when I found out he was seeing another girl...';. But, in the same sentence, you say that ';during that time I befriended a guy who helped me get through that difficult period who is now my bf.';
I ';HEAR'; your QUESTION: ';Shouldn't he have told me about this?'; And, I guess my BEST answer to YOU is to answer some MORE questions!
HE 'helped' you to COPE? (Wonder how he DID that!?!? )
Were YOU (two) 'connected' (for whatever THAT means) BEFORE or AFTER you 'found-out'???
I introduced my EX-B-I-L (Brother-In-Law) to my sister! They got married... had a son... and divorced! The divorce was TERRIBLE! For a TIME, I regretted having introduced them!!! But, HE was my FRIEND, for a long time! She was my SISTER! BOTH still ARE... My FRIEND, and my SISTER!!!
And, THEY have a SON... MY nephew... And HE has 'children'...
Yes... I have a LOT of 'YEARS' on you...
To answer your 'question'...ASK him (your BF)...
TELL him how you 'heard' about it... MAYBE he didn't want to HURT you! MAYBE he's playing... (I don't know what - from what YOU have said - he could be 'PLAYING' - except to be 'with' his 'friends'...???) YOU are going to have to figure THAT out...
I will tell you THIS...
DO NOT be in TOO big a hurry to make a COMMITTMENT, that SHOULD be a LIFE-LONG 'COMMITTMENT'...
I can tell from your questions, that YOU are SINCERE... I'm AFRAID for you!!! I'm AFRAID that someone will try to take 'advantage' of you...
Then again, maybe I'm just being a 'butt'...
Good Luck!
BillShould I break up with my bf over this? Please help.?
I would ask him about it first. Are you certain it happend and that your ex isn't lying? Ask him about it and see what his reaction is. Then you can decide whether to break up with him or not.
so he in essence helped your ex cheat on you?? i wouldn't ask him i would kick his ***!
First question is do you trust your EX. Look forward and build a strong relationship.
first, you need to talk with your current bf and see if it's the truth, why trust your old bf ? and no your not a fool if you stay with him , is he good to you? remember you weren't bf at that time and maybe it just happened that they were at the same place ....
just ask him straight out if this is true? maybe it isn't and you are putting something into something that might not even be the truth//good luck and ask him.
THOUGH I REALLY WANNA ANSWER YOUR QUESTION...BUT ITS TOO LONG. ASK AGAIN WHEN I FEEL LIKE ANSWER, OK? BYE, HEY HEY HEY DON'T YO DARE REPORT THIS...BYE.
talk to him ...
communication is the best thing..
maybe your over reacting..
if he denies it well know u have a reasin wich is lying or you never know maybe ur ex. made it up......
talk to him...
good luck
Think,see from another's point of view.
Take time.
Be wise.
Making up and breaking up,is no joke.
Lives are ruined.
Be careful.
Be bold
Your ex cheated on you, not your ';now boyfriend';.... he has no reason to be angry with him... just because you hurt, doesn't mean that others have to punish your ex, and the ';other girl';... Plus, you are speaking to your ';ex';..., but others can't ?????
Your boyfriend helped you to get over your difficult period, it is not his job to hate others for you.... And, maybe your boyfriend is thankful to your ex... otherwise he would not have the pleasure to be with you... make sure it stays a ';pleasure';....
if he doesnt tell you the truth then you could find out by asking another person and if its true then why stick with him.
Wow people are so rude answering. Don't listen to them. I would just say, ask him about it first. Cause relationships are based on honesty and trust ^.^
yeah. He betrayed you. Not a good thing to have in a relationship.
There maybe two reasons for his silence.Either he didnt tell you out of the fear of losing you or he really betrayed you.its a delicate matter.Choose your decisions well.Talk to him
your ex is just pissed that you broke up with him. nothing happened
get a life
what's the deal? he just took them out to dinner. reminds me of when two of my friends were fighting and neither wanted me having anything to do with the other.
you should mention that to him without any angar or feeling hurt, hear his answer first and then conclude youself to see if this is gotta keep going or not..
i think he meant no harm, and maybe the reason he didnt tell cuz he doesnt want you to feel sad again
but after he tell you you should also let him know that by keeping from you its only to hurt more in the future
YES! He betrayed u and kept something from u. He started off the relationship on a bad foot, dishonesty, not good! U can do better!
talk to him. if you still cant resolve it and the feeling still persist, then probably you dont really love him, so break it off and have a good life - free of worry and free of doubt. you can always start fresh and find new friends. and hopefully you find one you can trust and you can love even if he has a past.
i would bring it up first before you break up with him so you can hear his side of the story, maybe he wanted to tell you but then was to scared because he thought you would get angry and break up with him... but that was kind of a bitchy thing for him to do to you...
were you and your new bf even together at the time ? it dont look that way, and your ex might be lying anyway. but if you were not with the new bf at the time WHO CARES
well, if you really feel that strongly about it, it's your choice. but probably it's best if you talk to him abouit it first.
Hope this helps:)
I don't know if you can believe your ex. I would not hold it against him as long as he treats you nice and doesn't cheat on you.emo hair home theater
It's been a couple of months since my ex told me this info and my bf has never told me about it, even while knowing how much I hated that girl yet he took them out to dinner! Should I break it off with him? Shouldn't he have told me about this? I felt like an idiot when my ex told me and pretended I knew about it! Am I a fool if I continue staying with him? The anger is growing more and more each day.Should I break up with my bf over this? Please help.?
It sounds to me like you are VERY possessive!
That's my FIRST impression!
BUT, to be HONEST, your 'story' leaves a lot of questions unanswered... I'm going to TRY to answer based on what you have said so far...
FIRST... you mentioned a ';period when we were breaking up';... How long did it TAKE to 'break-up?' (Sounds to me like it took a LONG time... which leads to another question... (How 'stuck' on HIM are / were you???)
NEXT... ';during that period when we were breaking up, my now bf who was helping me cope, took my ex and that girl out to dinner with him and his then gf.';...
SOOOooo... ??? I'm sorry, but what was EACH of YOUR status's at that TIME... (';Several months';)...
NOW... Are you HAPPY with your PRESENT ';B.F.'; (Aside from your question about ';months that are 'undefined' - as to WHO 'belongs' to WHO???)
Should he have TOLD you... ??? Maybe... But... if he was just being 'sociable' to start with... Why would he... ??? Why would your EX tell you something like that??? Why would you believe him???
I hate to SAY it this way... but I can only tell you what ';I'; believe... so, here goes...
I think you are relatively YOUNG... Probably under 20... (If you are OVER 20, I'll double my bet!!!)
I can understand that you ';broke up with my ex when I found out he was seeing another girl...';. But, in the same sentence, you say that ';during that time I befriended a guy who helped me get through that difficult period who is now my bf.';
I ';HEAR'; your QUESTION: ';Shouldn't he have told me about this?'; And, I guess my BEST answer to YOU is to answer some MORE questions!
HE 'helped' you to COPE? (Wonder how he DID that!?!? )
Were YOU (two) 'connected' (for whatever THAT means) BEFORE or AFTER you 'found-out'???
I introduced my EX-B-I-L (Brother-In-Law) to my sister! They got married... had a son... and divorced! The divorce was TERRIBLE! For a TIME, I regretted having introduced them!!! But, HE was my FRIEND, for a long time! She was my SISTER! BOTH still ARE... My FRIEND, and my SISTER!!!
And, THEY have a SON... MY nephew... And HE has 'children'...
Yes... I have a LOT of 'YEARS' on you...
To answer your 'question'...ASK him (your BF)...
TELL him how you 'heard' about it... MAYBE he didn't want to HURT you! MAYBE he's playing... (I don't know what - from what YOU have said - he could be 'PLAYING' - except to be 'with' his 'friends'...???) YOU are going to have to figure THAT out...
I will tell you THIS...
DO NOT be in TOO big a hurry to make a COMMITTMENT, that SHOULD be a LIFE-LONG 'COMMITTMENT'...
I can tell from your questions, that YOU are SINCERE... I'm AFRAID for you!!! I'm AFRAID that someone will try to take 'advantage' of you...
Then again, maybe I'm just being a 'butt'...
Good Luck!
BillShould I break up with my bf over this? Please help.?
I would ask him about it first. Are you certain it happend and that your ex isn't lying? Ask him about it and see what his reaction is. Then you can decide whether to break up with him or not.
so he in essence helped your ex cheat on you?? i wouldn't ask him i would kick his ***!
First question is do you trust your EX. Look forward and build a strong relationship.
first, you need to talk with your current bf and see if it's the truth, why trust your old bf ? and no your not a fool if you stay with him , is he good to you? remember you weren't bf at that time and maybe it just happened that they were at the same place ....
just ask him straight out if this is true? maybe it isn't and you are putting something into something that might not even be the truth//good luck and ask him.
THOUGH I REALLY WANNA ANSWER YOUR QUESTION...BUT ITS TOO LONG. ASK AGAIN WHEN I FEEL LIKE ANSWER, OK? BYE, HEY HEY HEY DON'T YO DARE REPORT THIS...BYE.
talk to him ...
communication is the best thing..
maybe your over reacting..
if he denies it well know u have a reasin wich is lying or you never know maybe ur ex. made it up......
talk to him...
good luck
Think,see from another's point of view.
Take time.
Be wise.
Making up and breaking up,is no joke.
Lives are ruined.
Be careful.
Be bold
Your ex cheated on you, not your ';now boyfriend';.... he has no reason to be angry with him... just because you hurt, doesn't mean that others have to punish your ex, and the ';other girl';... Plus, you are speaking to your ';ex';..., but others can't ?????
Your boyfriend helped you to get over your difficult period, it is not his job to hate others for you.... And, maybe your boyfriend is thankful to your ex... otherwise he would not have the pleasure to be with you... make sure it stays a ';pleasure';....
if he doesnt tell you the truth then you could find out by asking another person and if its true then why stick with him.
Wow people are so rude answering. Don't listen to them. I would just say, ask him about it first. Cause relationships are based on honesty and trust ^.^
yeah. He betrayed you. Not a good thing to have in a relationship.
There maybe two reasons for his silence.Either he didnt tell you out of the fear of losing you or he really betrayed you.its a delicate matter.Choose your decisions well.Talk to him
your ex is just pissed that you broke up with him. nothing happened
get a life
what's the deal? he just took them out to dinner. reminds me of when two of my friends were fighting and neither wanted me having anything to do with the other.
you should mention that to him without any angar or feeling hurt, hear his answer first and then conclude youself to see if this is gotta keep going or not..
i think he meant no harm, and maybe the reason he didnt tell cuz he doesnt want you to feel sad again
but after he tell you you should also let him know that by keeping from you its only to hurt more in the future
YES! He betrayed u and kept something from u. He started off the relationship on a bad foot, dishonesty, not good! U can do better!
talk to him. if you still cant resolve it and the feeling still persist, then probably you dont really love him, so break it off and have a good life - free of worry and free of doubt. you can always start fresh and find new friends. and hopefully you find one you can trust and you can love even if he has a past.
i would bring it up first before you break up with him so you can hear his side of the story, maybe he wanted to tell you but then was to scared because he thought you would get angry and break up with him... but that was kind of a bitchy thing for him to do to you...
were you and your new bf even together at the time ? it dont look that way, and your ex might be lying anyway. but if you were not with the new bf at the time WHO CARES
well, if you really feel that strongly about it, it's your choice. but probably it's best if you talk to him abouit it first.
Hope this helps:)
I don't know if you can believe your ex. I would not hold it against him as long as he treats you nice and doesn't cheat on you.
How do i cope with my broken heart?
My bf broke up because his mortalty physically sick and he's going to be a father from last relationship so now i'm his ex he's destroyed i'm not but my heart is and he's losing his life and my heart is broken i'm 18 yrs old oh how do i restore my heart it's broken? thanks.How do i cope with my broken heart?
Know this: ';The only guy who deserves you is the one who thinks he doesn't.'; He has his own life now, and he's a retard if he messed up a while back and now had to leave you.How do i cope with my broken heart?
Oh, I am so sorry. It sounds as if he feels it is his duty to return to his ex girlfriend purely because he feels he should stand by her and the baby. He must have been feeling really torn between you when he heard he was to become a father. I doubt if his relationship will work out because he had left her anyway. I imagine in the end they will part and have joint access to the child. Then you will have to think, at age 18, would you have him back with the responsibilities of a child that is not yours?
I think you should let your heart mend and eventually you will be able to meet someone young and single like yourself and you can plan your life together and have fun building up a trusting relationship.I hope you heal soon!
he is not losing his life but he will no longer be able to be so carefree with his time.
if the two of you do go back and forth for awhile with your relationship remember not to be his doormat, scapegoat, or stress-reliever. he might come back to you when he needs to get away and wants to be reminded of how things used to be.
time doesn't always heal all wounds but it is a good start. your 18!
as for you broken heart... cry it out. shout. talk. vent. *****. get all of it out of your system and push forward.
A person does not break up with another because they are dying. If anything, that's when they need you more. I suspect this has a lot more to do with his being a father and possible unresolved feelings towards his ex.
Forgive him, then yourself. Then try to move on with your life. Accept the fact that for some reason he doesn't want you in his life. Time will heal your heart (I speak from experience) you just need to let it.
learn to spell and use grammar more correctly, it will give you something else to think about and focus on. What the devil is mortalty???
Your grammar is appalling
rebound
Know this: ';The only guy who deserves you is the one who thinks he doesn't.'; He has his own life now, and he's a retard if he messed up a while back and now had to leave you.How do i cope with my broken heart?
Oh, I am so sorry. It sounds as if he feels it is his duty to return to his ex girlfriend purely because he feels he should stand by her and the baby. He must have been feeling really torn between you when he heard he was to become a father. I doubt if his relationship will work out because he had left her anyway. I imagine in the end they will part and have joint access to the child. Then you will have to think, at age 18, would you have him back with the responsibilities of a child that is not yours?
I think you should let your heart mend and eventually you will be able to meet someone young and single like yourself and you can plan your life together and have fun building up a trusting relationship.I hope you heal soon!
he is not losing his life but he will no longer be able to be so carefree with his time.
if the two of you do go back and forth for awhile with your relationship remember not to be his doormat, scapegoat, or stress-reliever. he might come back to you when he needs to get away and wants to be reminded of how things used to be.
time doesn't always heal all wounds but it is a good start. your 18!
as for you broken heart... cry it out. shout. talk. vent. *****. get all of it out of your system and push forward.
A person does not break up with another because they are dying. If anything, that's when they need you more. I suspect this has a lot more to do with his being a father and possible unresolved feelings towards his ex.
Forgive him, then yourself. Then try to move on with your life. Accept the fact that for some reason he doesn't want you in his life. Time will heal your heart (I speak from experience) you just need to let it.
learn to spell and use grammar more correctly, it will give you something else to think about and focus on. What the devil is mortalty???
Your grammar is appalling
rebound
How do you cope with a broken heart?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 1 year and 3 months now. He was my first love, first everything. Our relationship really hit rock bottom when a couple weeks ago he's been cussing at me and ignoring my phone calls for about a week. I didn't know whether he was having some problems of his own and wanted to keep it to himself. He's not the cheating type because of his history and i've known him for a while. But I just assumed now that we are broken up since my calls are never returned. Now he left me all alone. He was my best friend. Because of him now I don't really have any friends. I work and go to school but I just don't find the motivation to do anything anymore. Everyday I call him so much and all I do is cry. I don't know why I call him even though I know he won't pick up but I'm just so heart broken. I love him so much and I now time will make me forget him but how do I cope with my broken heart right now?
How do you cope with a broken heart?
It is hard like someone you love died , but you must pull yourself
together and seek new grounds of relationships. You see you didn't
die and therefore you must find happiness again. You can do it with
prayer and constant fortitude of it will be okay and you will fall in love again with someone else.... You can't heal by calling him every day and crying your heart out... Maybe you should move away and start over again. What ever it takes you must do it for your own health and worthiness. And, yes you are a very worthy person and should find the best... He was not the best according to him!!! God Bless You!!!How do you cope with a broken heart?
If it helps, you are not alone. EVERYBODY goes through this. It takes about a year to get over it unless you meet someone better in the mean time. Sounds like he met some one else. Hang in there. Believe it or not, later you will ask yourself what the hell was I thinking. ha-ha. There are over six billion people on this rock. You will meet another.
im goin through the same with a girl.......what helped me was takin a break for a while
It will take time just keep busy and do not sit around thinking about it too much. Meet friends at work or school , make a my space, talk to people at work or make new friends at school, someone who might look friendly that you never thought to talk to before. Do not call him and cry, it doesn't seem to make a difference so don't contact him for awhile, if he cares he will let you know what has been going on, if not he is the wrong guy for you anyway and not the caring person you need.
How do you cope with a broken heart?
It is hard like someone you love died , but you must pull yourself
together and seek new grounds of relationships. You see you didn't
die and therefore you must find happiness again. You can do it with
prayer and constant fortitude of it will be okay and you will fall in love again with someone else.... You can't heal by calling him every day and crying your heart out... Maybe you should move away and start over again. What ever it takes you must do it for your own health and worthiness. And, yes you are a very worthy person and should find the best... He was not the best according to him!!! God Bless You!!!How do you cope with a broken heart?
If it helps, you are not alone. EVERYBODY goes through this. It takes about a year to get over it unless you meet someone better in the mean time. Sounds like he met some one else. Hang in there. Believe it or not, later you will ask yourself what the hell was I thinking. ha-ha. There are over six billion people on this rock. You will meet another.
im goin through the same with a girl.......what helped me was takin a break for a while
It will take time just keep busy and do not sit around thinking about it too much. Meet friends at work or school , make a my space, talk to people at work or make new friends at school, someone who might look friendly that you never thought to talk to before. Do not call him and cry, it doesn't seem to make a difference so don't contact him for awhile, if he cares he will let you know what has been going on, if not he is the wrong guy for you anyway and not the caring person you need.
Broke up with girlfriend, how do I cope?
so since a week ago, my girlfriend was acting different towards me . I didn't know if she was upset or whether she was angry at me. so i bought he a bouquet of flowers to try and cheer her up. but she remained the same. so i wrote her a poem to make her feel a little more loved.
we broke up the next day. apparently she 'didnt love me anymore' and she felt that 'I loved her too much' and thats why she doesn't want to be with me anymore?
I still love her very very much and I want to take care of her but its obvious she doesn't want me anymore. how do I cope with this heartbreak? im completely devastatedBroke up with girlfriend, how do I cope?
Take the ';Van Gogh'; approach.
Find out who she is seeing now and send her his ear.Broke up with girlfriend, how do I cope?
Well from the looks of it she might be a little scared of being too serious. Of course everyone is different. My thoughts is to give her, her space and not be to over barring. Let her know you still care just don't be to obsessive. A way to cope though would be to tell yourself that if you truley love her you want her to be happy no matter what that means. In the long run it'll be for the best. You just always need to think positive and not be beating yourself up.
Everybody has had to suffer with a broken heart so don't be too hard on yourself. You sound like a super nice guy and I'm sure there is someone out there that will appreciate your thoughtfulness. Time does heal a broken heart. When relationships end, the best thing you can do is have the right attitude, someone better for you is out there for you.
Just remember that there really is other girls out there. I used to be devastated every time a boyfriend %26amp; I would break up, but lately when my current boyfriend and I get into fights and almost break up, I just remember how there is other guys out there and I won't be lonely all my life. You should hang out with friends too.
sorry to hear this...try diverting your mind in things like parties and all....Just think positive about the break up.Everything happens for a reason.Break ups are often sad but you need to deal with it...Just flirt(in limit),this will help you cope up soon.Love CAN happen more than once.You will find someone much better than her who will value your love...God bless you..Take care..
You just need to find a new girl and control your thoughts about your ex, that way you can learn to forget about her and move on
life is tough. save your love for someone who wants it. at least it didnt happen later in life. look at it that way.
find someone new.
What does I take a lot of luvos mean.. lol
I'm going through the same thing - happened to me last week.
It's funny how people think girls find it harder to get over a break-up - I've been looking up online advice, and over half the questions are from guys! Which makes me sad because while our break up was mutual, and he never said he didn't love me any more, it was still more what he wanted than what I wanted.
Without knowing how clingy you were or your age or how long you dated it's hard to give a good answer. I guess she just moved on for no reason. Or maybe she felt suffocated. Unless you called/texted more than once daily and spent too much money and time on her, I don't see why she would.
It just happens sometimes. You will get over it, trust me. I'm not even completely over it yet a week on I'm feeling better and giving you advice! It's hard...don't be alone this week, do easy hobbies.
we broke up the next day. apparently she 'didnt love me anymore' and she felt that 'I loved her too much' and thats why she doesn't want to be with me anymore?
I still love her very very much and I want to take care of her but its obvious she doesn't want me anymore. how do I cope with this heartbreak? im completely devastatedBroke up with girlfriend, how do I cope?
Take the ';Van Gogh'; approach.
Find out who she is seeing now and send her his ear.Broke up with girlfriend, how do I cope?
Well from the looks of it she might be a little scared of being too serious. Of course everyone is different. My thoughts is to give her, her space and not be to over barring. Let her know you still care just don't be to obsessive. A way to cope though would be to tell yourself that if you truley love her you want her to be happy no matter what that means. In the long run it'll be for the best. You just always need to think positive and not be beating yourself up.
Everybody has had to suffer with a broken heart so don't be too hard on yourself. You sound like a super nice guy and I'm sure there is someone out there that will appreciate your thoughtfulness. Time does heal a broken heart. When relationships end, the best thing you can do is have the right attitude, someone better for you is out there for you.
Just remember that there really is other girls out there. I used to be devastated every time a boyfriend %26amp; I would break up, but lately when my current boyfriend and I get into fights and almost break up, I just remember how there is other guys out there and I won't be lonely all my life. You should hang out with friends too.
sorry to hear this...try diverting your mind in things like parties and all....Just think positive about the break up.Everything happens for a reason.Break ups are often sad but you need to deal with it...Just flirt(in limit),this will help you cope up soon.Love CAN happen more than once.You will find someone much better than her who will value your love...God bless you..Take care..
You just need to find a new girl and control your thoughts about your ex, that way you can learn to forget about her and move on
life is tough. save your love for someone who wants it. at least it didnt happen later in life. look at it that way.
find someone new.
What does I take a lot of luvos mean.. lol
I'm going through the same thing - happened to me last week.
It's funny how people think girls find it harder to get over a break-up - I've been looking up online advice, and over half the questions are from guys! Which makes me sad because while our break up was mutual, and he never said he didn't love me any more, it was still more what he wanted than what I wanted.
Without knowing how clingy you were or your age or how long you dated it's hard to give a good answer. I guess she just moved on for no reason. Or maybe she felt suffocated. Unless you called/texted more than once daily and spent too much money and time on her, I don't see why she would.
It just happens sometimes. You will get over it, trust me. I'm not even completely over it yet a week on I'm feeling better and giving you advice! It's hard...don't be alone this week, do easy hobbies.
How do I get over a bad hard break up?
How do I get over a bad hard break up? Everywhere I go everything I do just reminds me of him. I get so sad even break out crying by just looking at a store we use to go to often. He lived on my side of town so I mean everything I do or go takes me back to a memory. I loved him so much and so deep, I'm still in love with him. I'm not even sure what happend. How do I get over this? It has been a week and I am really trying, I just wish I could just erase my memory. How do I cope or deal with this heartache? I am constantly fighting with my heart . My heart aches for him but my brain is telling me to let it be. I am so sad. This is really effecting my life. I don't eat nor sleep and I am not happy. I tried going out but that don't help because I don't want to be out there. How do I deal with this?How do I get over a bad hard break up?
Breaking up sucks..I was there not too long ago myself..I cried every chance I was alone, I mean EVERY CHANCE...It's going to be hard, but if you have friends there, go to them for support..Mine are 1000's of miles away, so I had to ';heal'; all on my own, and THAT is hard to do.. Keep busy with work or school..Don't go trying to find someone ELSE to ';replace'; him, you need time to get over this guy and if you can AVOID the places, songs, and whatever else reminds you of him that would be even better! Easier said than done I know, but it helps! Just remember ';He's probably not all sad like you are, so why should you give the best of yourself away to cry for someone who doesn't care for you';...How do I get over a bad hard break up?
best way to forget and go on with your life is go on a date. it is messed up if you do it early but if your life cannot function b/c of this breakup, you need to go on a date. believe me, it works...
Just cry till you cant anymore and then move on.If this doesnt work just get your friends and watch comedy films and stay away from emotional films stay happy and let it pass but cry when you want to.Sorry im rubbish at this.Bye!hope you feel better.
It is never easy to get over a bad break up...trust me on that as most of us have been through what you are experiencing right now. Go ahead and cry...get it out of your system. Nothing wrong with crying. Once you get your composure, try to do something that will help get your mind off of him and what he has just done to you...like hanging out with friends, focusing on school/work, getting involved in an activity. Heck, do ANYTHING that will keep your mind off of him. It takes time to get over the hurt but you can do it.
Hey AZKookChik 4get this - Its makes U sad! Make friends.
it is said the best way to heal a broken heart is to love again. but that don't always work/ if there are places you go that remines you of him stop going there for a while you would just start forgetting him try it
have you tried talking to himm??? that might help!
girl i would get a lot of ice cream and eat you pain away!!
well tell hi how u feel and try to work it out!!
see how he feels!
wishing you lots of luck
~courtney
try to start dating again as soon as possible, maybe there was someone u wanted to go out with while u were dating, but couldn't, look them up, the sooner you get back into the swing of things the better, just don't get too involved too fast.
A tough breakup is rough, but unfortunately there is no quick fix. It is ok to be sad and to cry. When you love someone like that it is going to hurt. Although it may sound trite..give yourself time it will get better. Maybe you could talk to some friends , or maybe someone in your family that you are close to. talking eases it a bit. I am really sorry that you are so sad, I have traveled that road myself a few times. I wanted to point out too , that you are going to grieve for a while, because when a relationship ends it is like a death in some ways. Try to involve yourself in things that you like to do. When you can , put away the things that remind you of him,out of sight out of mind. It helps in the healing process. If I were your bud, you could lean on me for awhile. You will be fine there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take care of yourself.
Breaking up sucks..I was there not too long ago myself..I cried every chance I was alone, I mean EVERY CHANCE...It's going to be hard, but if you have friends there, go to them for support..Mine are 1000's of miles away, so I had to ';heal'; all on my own, and THAT is hard to do.. Keep busy with work or school..Don't go trying to find someone ELSE to ';replace'; him, you need time to get over this guy and if you can AVOID the places, songs, and whatever else reminds you of him that would be even better! Easier said than done I know, but it helps! Just remember ';He's probably not all sad like you are, so why should you give the best of yourself away to cry for someone who doesn't care for you';...How do I get over a bad hard break up?
best way to forget and go on with your life is go on a date. it is messed up if you do it early but if your life cannot function b/c of this breakup, you need to go on a date. believe me, it works...
Just cry till you cant anymore and then move on.If this doesnt work just get your friends and watch comedy films and stay away from emotional films stay happy and let it pass but cry when you want to.Sorry im rubbish at this.Bye!hope you feel better.
It is never easy to get over a bad break up...trust me on that as most of us have been through what you are experiencing right now. Go ahead and cry...get it out of your system. Nothing wrong with crying. Once you get your composure, try to do something that will help get your mind off of him and what he has just done to you...like hanging out with friends, focusing on school/work, getting involved in an activity. Heck, do ANYTHING that will keep your mind off of him. It takes time to get over the hurt but you can do it.
Hey AZKookChik 4get this - Its makes U sad! Make friends.
it is said the best way to heal a broken heart is to love again. but that don't always work/ if there are places you go that remines you of him stop going there for a while you would just start forgetting him try it
have you tried talking to himm??? that might help!
girl i would get a lot of ice cream and eat you pain away!!
well tell hi how u feel and try to work it out!!
see how he feels!
wishing you lots of luck
~courtney
try to start dating again as soon as possible, maybe there was someone u wanted to go out with while u were dating, but couldn't, look them up, the sooner you get back into the swing of things the better, just don't get too involved too fast.
A tough breakup is rough, but unfortunately there is no quick fix. It is ok to be sad and to cry. When you love someone like that it is going to hurt. Although it may sound trite..give yourself time it will get better. Maybe you could talk to some friends , or maybe someone in your family that you are close to. talking eases it a bit. I am really sorry that you are so sad, I have traveled that road myself a few times. I wanted to point out too , that you are going to grieve for a while, because when a relationship ends it is like a death in some ways. Try to involve yourself in things that you like to do. When you can , put away the things that remind you of him,out of sight out of mind. It helps in the healing process. If I were your bud, you could lean on me for awhile. You will be fine there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take care of yourself.
Do I break up with my current boyfriend? How other way do I redeem myself?
The situation is that I want to break up with my current boyfriend because I caused so much damage to my ex.
I will admit I was a ***** to my ex a real ***** and now after having an intimate friendly talk ( we were still friends) with him yesterday the things I did to him were brought into perspective.
I broke up with my ex because I got bored of him and wanted to go out with my current boyfriend. The problem is somewhere along breaking up and going out with someone else, I told both of them that I wasn't planning on dating for a long time. Turns out I can't control myself and ended hooking up with my current boyfriend.
I like my current boyfriend he is not such a good boyfriend(he is clumsy and 'new') whereas I had my ex the perfect romancer.
Now I realize my current boyfriend and my selfish moves were not worth the hurt I caused my ex ( the dishonesty).
I don't want to get back with my ex but I do want to redeem myself. Maybe breaking up with current bf will help my ex cope.Do I break up with my current boyfriend? How other way do I redeem myself?
you have no idea how similar this is to a position i was once in. but your ex is probably over it now, and is it worth the hurt to your new boyfriend? i know it sounds selfish but you have to put yourself first. what do you really want? if youre going to break up with your current boyfriend please be gentle. im sure he wouldnt like to be dumped to make your ex happy. just tell him things arent right and you need to move on. try and stay friends with both. good luck. youre doing the right thing by trying to stay friends with your ex, but please remember your current boyfriend has feelings too!Do I break up with my current boyfriend? How other way do I redeem myself?
i think you should just take a break for awhile
soh you have time to let yourself unwind... i had the same problem talking about it with the boyfriend helps sometimes
hope i helped!!!!
I will admit I was a ***** to my ex a real ***** and now after having an intimate friendly talk ( we were still friends) with him yesterday the things I did to him were brought into perspective.
I broke up with my ex because I got bored of him and wanted to go out with my current boyfriend. The problem is somewhere along breaking up and going out with someone else, I told both of them that I wasn't planning on dating for a long time. Turns out I can't control myself and ended hooking up with my current boyfriend.
I like my current boyfriend he is not such a good boyfriend(he is clumsy and 'new') whereas I had my ex the perfect romancer.
Now I realize my current boyfriend and my selfish moves were not worth the hurt I caused my ex ( the dishonesty).
I don't want to get back with my ex but I do want to redeem myself. Maybe breaking up with current bf will help my ex cope.Do I break up with my current boyfriend? How other way do I redeem myself?
you have no idea how similar this is to a position i was once in. but your ex is probably over it now, and is it worth the hurt to your new boyfriend? i know it sounds selfish but you have to put yourself first. what do you really want? if youre going to break up with your current boyfriend please be gentle. im sure he wouldnt like to be dumped to make your ex happy. just tell him things arent right and you need to move on. try and stay friends with both. good luck. youre doing the right thing by trying to stay friends with your ex, but please remember your current boyfriend has feelings too!Do I break up with my current boyfriend? How other way do I redeem myself?
i think you should just take a break for awhile
soh you have time to let yourself unwind... i had the same problem talking about it with the boyfriend helps sometimes
hope i helped!!!!
How to cope with a boyfriend being gone for a year?
my boyfriends in juvi for a year.. help me cope. im not breaking up with himHow to cope with a boyfriend being gone for a year?
Write a journal of all your thoughts, memories, plans, etc. Be patient it will pass faster than you think. Good luckHow to cope with a boyfriend being gone for a year?
in my opinion, since you have just broke up recently, it would be better not to force your self to forget him cause it would just cause you more harm. You would tend to be stressed much. I would suggest that you would engage your self in wholesome activities. You should see to it that you would do something that would make you busy so that you will not be able to get flashbacks of your past relationship. Try also to look for a good companion who will always be ready to listen to your experiences.
Write a journal of all your thoughts, memories, plans, etc. Be patient it will pass faster than you think. Good luckHow to cope with a boyfriend being gone for a year?
in my opinion, since you have just broke up recently, it would be better not to force your self to forget him cause it would just cause you more harm. You would tend to be stressed much. I would suggest that you would engage your self in wholesome activities. You should see to it that you would do something that would make you busy so that you will not be able to get flashbacks of your past relationship. Try also to look for a good companion who will always be ready to listen to your experiences.
Has anyone gone out with their best friend, broke up and is now both painfully not speaking ? How do you cope?
it's like losing your best friend And boyfriend the day u break up....is it wise to not go out with your best friend? i think i learned the lesson in a hard wayHas anyone gone out with their best friend, broke up and is now both painfully not speaking ? How do you cope?
in a way its not wise then in a way if it works out it is wise.... what im saying is that when you 2 got together you didnt have to play the whole shy thing... you already knew eachother and eachothers parents so there goes the whole awkwardness of meeting the parents for the first time....you already knew what eachothers likes and dislike.... and everything so that is the advantages of dating your best-friend.... the disadvantages are when you break up its not only weird on you but its weird on the friends that you both share....your friends want to be on your side but also want to be on his side.... when me and my ex broke up (we were best friends prior) i gave it 2 months then just gave him a call to see how he was doing.... that was a year ago now and once again we are good friends again.... just remeber the good time you guys had and forget about the reasons you broke up..... sometimes its better off to forgive and forget then loose a friend over it....so what im saying is just give it some time things will only get better....best of luckHas anyone gone out with their best friend, broke up and is now both painfully not speaking ? How do you cope?
I've been in this really recently actually. Haha, ironic. But anyways to solve it is really up to you. You have to call her/him and just talk to him like you used to. OR if you think/feel it is right. Talk about why ya'll went out and broke up. It feels really weird going out w/ ur best friend. Like ur brother/sister and its just to weird for me. IDK if tht is ya'll broke up....but i explained it, and now we're bak the way we were
I had the same problem. I was in a relationship for 7 years then one day bam, it all went downhill. You are experiencing the same feeling as grief. You have lost your best friend, your lover but most importantly your confidence.
This is where your friends come into place. Give them a call, go and see them, its important to keep busy. I know its hard but I was in therapy for 2 sessions and that was 2 years ago and its a life altering change. Go to the movies and if you have a need to call him, call your friends as well.
Drugs, alcohol, ammunition and porn how else?
never date a better friend than lover. you both lose in the end.
yes, it totally sucks. i dated my best friend for 4 years and we hung out for a while after we broke up, but then he realized that there was no chance of us really getting back together, he stopped talking to me all together, except for the txt for happy bday and merry xmas. I didnt want to break up cause i knew everything would change and be like this, i felt like he was the only person that ever understood me. sucks big butts :(
distract yourself
No one ever gets to old to learn a lesson. Shows you a good person, at least you admit it. Best friends ending up being bf/gf, can ruin a good friendship, because it goes from best friends with no ties, to intimate, can ruin everything. I know you will be fine, you have good common sense, you have learn a lesson in life.
in a way its not wise then in a way if it works out it is wise.... what im saying is that when you 2 got together you didnt have to play the whole shy thing... you already knew eachother and eachothers parents so there goes the whole awkwardness of meeting the parents for the first time....you already knew what eachothers likes and dislike.... and everything so that is the advantages of dating your best-friend.... the disadvantages are when you break up its not only weird on you but its weird on the friends that you both share....your friends want to be on your side but also want to be on his side.... when me and my ex broke up (we were best friends prior) i gave it 2 months then just gave him a call to see how he was doing.... that was a year ago now and once again we are good friends again.... just remeber the good time you guys had and forget about the reasons you broke up..... sometimes its better off to forgive and forget then loose a friend over it....so what im saying is just give it some time things will only get better....best of luckHas anyone gone out with their best friend, broke up and is now both painfully not speaking ? How do you cope?
I've been in this really recently actually. Haha, ironic. But anyways to solve it is really up to you. You have to call her/him and just talk to him like you used to. OR if you think/feel it is right. Talk about why ya'll went out and broke up. It feels really weird going out w/ ur best friend. Like ur brother/sister and its just to weird for me. IDK if tht is ya'll broke up....but i explained it, and now we're bak the way we were
I had the same problem. I was in a relationship for 7 years then one day bam, it all went downhill. You are experiencing the same feeling as grief. You have lost your best friend, your lover but most importantly your confidence.
This is where your friends come into place. Give them a call, go and see them, its important to keep busy. I know its hard but I was in therapy for 2 sessions and that was 2 years ago and its a life altering change. Go to the movies and if you have a need to call him, call your friends as well.
Drugs, alcohol, ammunition and porn how else?
never date a better friend than lover. you both lose in the end.
yes, it totally sucks. i dated my best friend for 4 years and we hung out for a while after we broke up, but then he realized that there was no chance of us really getting back together, he stopped talking to me all together, except for the txt for happy bday and merry xmas. I didnt want to break up cause i knew everything would change and be like this, i felt like he was the only person that ever understood me. sucks big butts :(
distract yourself
No one ever gets to old to learn a lesson. Shows you a good person, at least you admit it. Best friends ending up being bf/gf, can ruin a good friendship, because it goes from best friends with no ties, to intimate, can ruin everything. I know you will be fine, you have good common sense, you have learn a lesson in life.
What's the best way to get through a break up when you're both still in love with each other?
My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago and we're still unable to cope with it. I love him so much and I really want to be with him, but he dislikes the people I choose to hang around with. He tells me he loves me back, and I don't doubt it, but how can we get over each other? It's so difficult because all I think about is him, and I'm not sure what to do. I'd love to be with him, but I don't know if we can do it again. Please help me!What's the best way to get through a break up when you're both still in love with each other?
Dont contact eachother.What's the best way to get through a break up when you're both still in love with each other?
I don't think you will ever get over loving him. I think you should hang out with family and friends go out enjoy life before it's too late. if it's meant for you to be than it will happen.
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Dont contact eachother.What's the best way to get through a break up when you're both still in love with each other?
I don't think you will ever get over loving him. I think you should hang out with family and friends go out enjoy life before it's too late. if it's meant for you to be than it will happen.
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How do I get over a bad hard break up?
How do I get over a bad hard break up? Everywhere I go everything I do just reminds me of him. I get so sad even break out crying by just looking at a store we use to go to often. He lived on my side of town so I mean everything I do or go takes me back to a memory. I loved him so much and so deep, I'm still in love with him. I'm not even sure what happend. How do I get over this? It has been a week and I am really trying, I just wish I could just erase my memory. How do I cope or deal with this heartache? I am constantly fighting with my heart . My heart aches for him but my brain is telling me to let it be. I am so sad. This is really effecting my life. I don't eat nor sleep and I am not happy. I tried going out but that don't help because I don't want to be out there. How do I deal with this?How do I get over a bad hard break up?
Move to a new city???????How do I get over a bad hard break up?
give it time. it shall pass. or you can suck up the pride and beg him back. it works. you don't know how he's feeling.
Hey AZKookChik It mite help 2 put Ur Quest in proper group.
I know your probably sick of hearing give it time but really it works. One day you'll wake up and realize my god why did I waste so much time and energy on that and you'll be able to move on. There were obviously reasons for the break up so think about those over and over in your head. Remind yourself why you guys broke up. Don't beg him though, it doesn't get you anywhere if anything it gives them a bigger head and makes it easier to let you suffer. Talk to him maybe you can work things out and if he doesn't want to then let things be. You can't force someone to luv or want you and for no reason in the world should you have to. Someone will come along who will luv you like you need to be loved. Just give it time and keep busy. Good luck and god bless.
It took a long while for my heart to catch up to my brain. I was in the same boat you are in. I knew it was for the best but I thought it was the end of the world. I had the help of friends and during the time alone I figured out what I need and want from a future relationship. When I least expected it a guy walked in my life a year later and I am happy as a clam and going to spend the rest of my life with him. You will get through this I promise. Believe that God has a plan for us all. The right one is out there for you.
I went through the same thing and I am going to cry just remembering. My husband left me after 4yrs of marriage and while pregnant with his first child. It killed me and like you, everything reminded me of him, how we met, all the things we did together....the best thing to go is keep busy. Join a gym or a club, go to school, stay busy with work......go out even if you don't want to. Being with someone is better that being alone. Even then I have a foster child and was very busy but at night when she was asleep I would cry all night.... I couldn't sleep and I felt so desperate and didn't know what to do. For awhile I would chat online and then I would go out and meet people. I got a part time job when my son was 7 months old and I went back to school since I quit to marry his stupid a$$. Good Luck, and just know that it does get better!
time heals all wounds hon ive been seperated from my husband for 7 weeks now i know it hurts sure i missed him but its getting easier keep busy the reason your so upset its fresh give it some time i know the feeling talk to friends family people on here really give good advice love yourself thats the main thing i dont know why the break up happen but we all go threw it just hang in there and time will heal u god bless and gl to ya
Give yourself time! It's only been a WEEK!
We've all been there, honey. It takes time and effort on your part to get over it. Think of all the good things you do have and focus on that.
And also, think of all the bad things that happened or caused you to break up when you feel sad. Anger can help you out now but in the future it can cause you problems, so be careful.
Try to keep busy and take it a day at a time. (No one dies from heartache---it just feels like you do.)
Good luck!
Just give it time. Normally I would have told you to go out and have some fun but sounds like it didnt work for you. I always learned to go out and get something new to get over the old.
Therapy, start over in a new place, eat healthy, live right. Feel better soon AZ.
time
Yeah i been here before. you can either talk to him and see if he feels the same way still if not just start over fresh and find someone new who will take your mind off him. what is there to lose?
Move to a new city???????How do I get over a bad hard break up?
give it time. it shall pass. or you can suck up the pride and beg him back. it works. you don't know how he's feeling.
Hey AZKookChik It mite help 2 put Ur Quest in proper group.
I know your probably sick of hearing give it time but really it works. One day you'll wake up and realize my god why did I waste so much time and energy on that and you'll be able to move on. There were obviously reasons for the break up so think about those over and over in your head. Remind yourself why you guys broke up. Don't beg him though, it doesn't get you anywhere if anything it gives them a bigger head and makes it easier to let you suffer. Talk to him maybe you can work things out and if he doesn't want to then let things be. You can't force someone to luv or want you and for no reason in the world should you have to. Someone will come along who will luv you like you need to be loved. Just give it time and keep busy. Good luck and god bless.
It took a long while for my heart to catch up to my brain. I was in the same boat you are in. I knew it was for the best but I thought it was the end of the world. I had the help of friends and during the time alone I figured out what I need and want from a future relationship. When I least expected it a guy walked in my life a year later and I am happy as a clam and going to spend the rest of my life with him. You will get through this I promise. Believe that God has a plan for us all. The right one is out there for you.
I went through the same thing and I am going to cry just remembering. My husband left me after 4yrs of marriage and while pregnant with his first child. It killed me and like you, everything reminded me of him, how we met, all the things we did together....the best thing to go is keep busy. Join a gym or a club, go to school, stay busy with work......go out even if you don't want to. Being with someone is better that being alone. Even then I have a foster child and was very busy but at night when she was asleep I would cry all night.... I couldn't sleep and I felt so desperate and didn't know what to do. For awhile I would chat online and then I would go out and meet people. I got a part time job when my son was 7 months old and I went back to school since I quit to marry his stupid a$$. Good Luck, and just know that it does get better!
time heals all wounds hon ive been seperated from my husband for 7 weeks now i know it hurts sure i missed him but its getting easier keep busy the reason your so upset its fresh give it some time i know the feeling talk to friends family people on here really give good advice love yourself thats the main thing i dont know why the break up happen but we all go threw it just hang in there and time will heal u god bless and gl to ya
Give yourself time! It's only been a WEEK!
We've all been there, honey. It takes time and effort on your part to get over it. Think of all the good things you do have and focus on that.
And also, think of all the bad things that happened or caused you to break up when you feel sad. Anger can help you out now but in the future it can cause you problems, so be careful.
Try to keep busy and take it a day at a time. (No one dies from heartache---it just feels like you do.)
Good luck!
Just give it time. Normally I would have told you to go out and have some fun but sounds like it didnt work for you. I always learned to go out and get something new to get over the old.
Therapy, start over in a new place, eat healthy, live right. Feel better soon AZ.
time
Yeah i been here before. you can either talk to him and see if he feels the same way still if not just start over fresh and find someone new who will take your mind off him. what is there to lose?
How to cope up with a broken relationship?
I had a relationship with a women who was actually a mistress to an old ,am of 64. She claimed that this old man never had sex with her. Days passed by and we had a nice time together during the day while she spent the nights alone or with her old man. Since we both loved each other ,it some times bothered me a lot as I told her that I cannot bear to share her with another man who was providing her some monetay help.Although I got used to the fact that some days I could get her out of this situation, sometimes it also irritated her as I was prone to get angry when she was late to see me .This made us to split some days back.How do I get along with this ?How to cope up with a broken relationship?
She was a lying whore.Forget about her %26amp; get a good woman.How to cope up with a broken relationship?
The plain truth is she is a prostitute. Move on... you can't afford her.
Sorry matey you were just fun time ... fact you wanted more you were got rid of...like you said she wants the doh not the sex from him.. ask yourself this would you really want that person for life???emo hair home theater
She was a lying whore.Forget about her %26amp; get a good woman.How to cope up with a broken relationship?
The plain truth is she is a prostitute. Move on... you can't afford her.
Sorry matey you were just fun time ... fact you wanted more you were got rid of...like you said she wants the doh not the sex from him.. ask yourself this would you really want that person for life???
How do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
Alright, so a girlfriend and I dated for a year before breaking up over differences beyond our control. Its been a year, we're still friends, we've both matured quite a bit, she's dated other guys and I pretty much have not quite moved on yet. Well, she still loves me and admitted it. The thing is, despite loving me and thinking what we have is special, she thinks its not time for us to get back together and give it another go yet. We're young and I can definately see her point. Plus she just got out of a bad relationship in which she was cheated on hardcore and is a bit jaded on dating.
The bottom line is, she's moving to Costa Rica here pretty soon nixing any chances of us for a while. What exactly should I do? She told me not to wait for her and I understand. We love each other but it can't work right now. How do you deal and cope with that?How do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
She is right. If she just came out of a bad relationship getting into another serious one is not a great idea. She needs time two think and grow within herself. She also needs to decide on her own that you are what she wants in a man. If what you two had was real and true love you will get it back eventually. Until then the both of you need to really think about what you want and how to get it. you need to take your mind off her and being with her for the time being because there is nonething that you can do short of move to costa rica as well. but that would then put you in the category of stalker material instead of boyfriend materialHow do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
you never get over it and if you do it takes years
Hi!
I know this is too clich茅, but the truth of the matter is... ';if it's meant to be, then no matter how long and far apart you are from each other, eventually you will get back together';.
This said, I must say, I don't really think you are in love, or at least I don't think she is ';IN LOVE'; with you.
I don't say this because she has seen other guys since you. But, rather, because she has been hurt by another guy's actions. If she is, as you say, jaded, because a guy other than you has cheated on her. If she was able to love someone else that deeply. If she was able to blaintly and cold heartedly say to you NOT to wait for her... well, in my mind, all this can only mean that YES, you are special to her, you will always hold a special place in her life and heart, but no matter how you (or rather I) look at it, the love she feels for you is not the kind, one can take to the next level.
This is my personal opinion.
I wish you good luck!
you can by ignoring that person and not come across with him/her
The distance is a good thing. They only way to get over this is to put some serious distance between you both so that you can heal and move on.
People say you can still be friends and that CAN work but that not if one of you still thinks that you will get back together. It's just prolonging the agony.
And as for her saying she still loves you - sorry mate - she doesn't love you enough for you to be together and I think it is unfair of her to say that. It's like she doesn't know what she wants - she loves you but she doesn't want you - is it just that she doesn't want anyone else to have you? No - it's not right.
Get some space. Break off contact for a while. If she really does want you she will miss you and maybe make her way back. By then you will have had space and time to think and assess and decide if YOU want her back. You are young - chill. Love will find you - maybe by another route and with someone who wont cause you all this pain.
I know it's hard to see right now but time is a great healer.
Good luck.
Lala xxx
if she doesnt want to work it out...what can you do? heal with time as the saying goes.
The bottom line is, she's moving to Costa Rica here pretty soon nixing any chances of us for a while. What exactly should I do? She told me not to wait for her and I understand. We love each other but it can't work right now. How do you deal and cope with that?How do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
She is right. If she just came out of a bad relationship getting into another serious one is not a great idea. She needs time two think and grow within herself. She also needs to decide on her own that you are what she wants in a man. If what you two had was real and true love you will get it back eventually. Until then the both of you need to really think about what you want and how to get it. you need to take your mind off her and being with her for the time being because there is nonething that you can do short of move to costa rica as well. but that would then put you in the category of stalker material instead of boyfriend materialHow do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
you never get over it and if you do it takes years
Hi!
I know this is too clich茅, but the truth of the matter is... ';if it's meant to be, then no matter how long and far apart you are from each other, eventually you will get back together';.
This said, I must say, I don't really think you are in love, or at least I don't think she is ';IN LOVE'; with you.
I don't say this because she has seen other guys since you. But, rather, because she has been hurt by another guy's actions. If she is, as you say, jaded, because a guy other than you has cheated on her. If she was able to love someone else that deeply. If she was able to blaintly and cold heartedly say to you NOT to wait for her... well, in my mind, all this can only mean that YES, you are special to her, you will always hold a special place in her life and heart, but no matter how you (or rather I) look at it, the love she feels for you is not the kind, one can take to the next level.
This is my personal opinion.
I wish you good luck!
you can by ignoring that person and not come across with him/her
The distance is a good thing. They only way to get over this is to put some serious distance between you both so that you can heal and move on.
People say you can still be friends and that CAN work but that not if one of you still thinks that you will get back together. It's just prolonging the agony.
And as for her saying she still loves you - sorry mate - she doesn't love you enough for you to be together and I think it is unfair of her to say that. It's like she doesn't know what she wants - she loves you but she doesn't want you - is it just that she doesn't want anyone else to have you? No - it's not right.
Get some space. Break off contact for a while. If she really does want you she will miss you and maybe make her way back. By then you will have had space and time to think and assess and decide if YOU want her back. You are young - chill. Love will find you - maybe by another route and with someone who wont cause you all this pain.
I know it's hard to see right now but time is a great healer.
Good luck.
Lala xxx
if she doesnt want to work it out...what can you do? heal with time as the saying goes.
How do i cope with a girl that broke up with me. ?
i have just recently broke up my girlfriend. Well she broke up with me. after 2 years of loving her. I'm crush and devastated. I have no idea what to do. I don't know how to meet new girls. My girl skills are horrible. I'm sad I treated her with all the love from my heart and now I have to suffer. Her excuse was she wanted to meet new people. It so painful to hear that after 2 years? can tips advice to move on and new friends. anyone in my position? right now i just wish i can have her back. it was like yesterday we were having a fun time enjoying ourselves and all of a sudden she gone. I have been sleepless. Should i continue to chase her? She still crys whenever we talk about our relationship? Does she still feel for me? Why would she cry??How do i cope with a girl that broke up with me. ?
Hey,
Sorry about the situation. I hope things work out. You are probably wondering about her actions because it doesn't make sense and it came out of nowhere. Secondly, you are probably wondering if you guys are going to get back or if you should try to move on, but how?
First things first. I don't know exactly how old you guys are, but usually when someone says, ';I want to meet new people,'; it means she really does want to meet new people. So you have to get ready for the fact that you will be seeing her with someone new. She is also saying this because she feels that she is young and needs to live life before she can be in a relationships where she commits for so many years. While you were together, you both felt love. I know her actions are irrational, but sometimes girls don't know what they are doing. Even if she feels happy and knows it's love, she is not going to stay because these days, people's minds are set to think that they have so many options to choose from. She wants to meet new people cause she wants to get out there and see if there is anyone better than you. It's all part of being a girl. Girls are very insecure and they doubt about everything even the happiest moments in their lives. Usually when girls are like that, in marriage, they are going to be asking themselves, ';what if?'; I know it sounds dumb, but usually those type of indicators show that girls like her think love very lightly, and will have the tendency to bring down a marriage if they are in one. It's not that she didn't meet the one, she just has issues with her self esteem and doubts and you can't do anything to fix it. Only she can, but usually people don't cause they are not aware of it. If you want to get back with her, I really suggest not mentioning about the relationship with her. I know it's hard, but you have to act casual to her, and not call her or message her. Make her call you and contact you. Yes, she still has feelings for you. No one does not get over their feelings like that from a 2 year relationship within days. It will be there for a long time. She realizes that she is hurting you a lot and is very sad about it. She is crying because she is deeply connected to you, and it hurts to severe that bond. Two things will happen, either she realizes that that feeling won't go away and she made a mistake and she will decide to get back with you or she will slowly put away the feelings and forget about you and move on and find another guy to be with. You can never tell cause when girls are like this, it's really like betting on a race track. In the mean time, go out and have fun with your friends, read other people's problems on here, talk to other girls that you are friends with, go to the movies, camping, volunteer, exercise (this YOU must do to get over the pain), and write a diary. Writing a diary will ease your emotions and calm yourself down. Three things you have to focus. These are therapeutic methods. Exercise, write in a diary every day, and hang out with a lot of people. Those are must do's. Also, if you keep pushing yourself on her, she will feel very uncomfortable and secondly, you can't make yourself so available to her. Tell her, you love her, but if she feels that you didn't make her happy and all those times spent together were not good for her, then you don't know what happiness is anymore. And just walk away. Force her to think about it, but at the same time not seem clingy. I know I told you a lot of stuff, but usually in situations like these, a simple good luck and time will heal, really doesn't make you feel better. Read this, I know it's long, but try to act on what I said. It will help, I guarantee it.How do i cope with a girl that broke up with me. ?
i think right now you guys just need
a break. and maybe in time you 2
will end up back together. i know it's
got to be hard to lose someone after
being together for 2 years. and maybe
you should ask her if she still has feelings
for you. or just try to meet new people.
best of luck.
hmm maybe she felt a little too close to you. Some girls are like that. Well dude, you should wait a while. When your a quite over it your skills will be back.
Well, don't clam up and don't stop being your self.
This is a really tough situation I've been there before I dated my exboyfriends for 3 and a half years and I truly loved him and it seem like out of the blue that he broke up with me and told me he just didnt love me that way anymore. I was completely crushed. I kept thinking we could fix things and get back together but if you do that your only lieing to yourself. You need to move on and go about your life, go out, hang out with friends meet new people, and do let that stop you. If it is truly meant to be you; you will be together then. You can't try and force things if shes not feeling it right now.
Hey,
Sorry about the situation. I hope things work out. You are probably wondering about her actions because it doesn't make sense and it came out of nowhere. Secondly, you are probably wondering if you guys are going to get back or if you should try to move on, but how?
First things first. I don't know exactly how old you guys are, but usually when someone says, ';I want to meet new people,'; it means she really does want to meet new people. So you have to get ready for the fact that you will be seeing her with someone new. She is also saying this because she feels that she is young and needs to live life before she can be in a relationships where she commits for so many years. While you were together, you both felt love. I know her actions are irrational, but sometimes girls don't know what they are doing. Even if she feels happy and knows it's love, she is not going to stay because these days, people's minds are set to think that they have so many options to choose from. She wants to meet new people cause she wants to get out there and see if there is anyone better than you. It's all part of being a girl. Girls are very insecure and they doubt about everything even the happiest moments in their lives. Usually when girls are like that, in marriage, they are going to be asking themselves, ';what if?'; I know it sounds dumb, but usually those type of indicators show that girls like her think love very lightly, and will have the tendency to bring down a marriage if they are in one. It's not that she didn't meet the one, she just has issues with her self esteem and doubts and you can't do anything to fix it. Only she can, but usually people don't cause they are not aware of it. If you want to get back with her, I really suggest not mentioning about the relationship with her. I know it's hard, but you have to act casual to her, and not call her or message her. Make her call you and contact you. Yes, she still has feelings for you. No one does not get over their feelings like that from a 2 year relationship within days. It will be there for a long time. She realizes that she is hurting you a lot and is very sad about it. She is crying because she is deeply connected to you, and it hurts to severe that bond. Two things will happen, either she realizes that that feeling won't go away and she made a mistake and she will decide to get back with you or she will slowly put away the feelings and forget about you and move on and find another guy to be with. You can never tell cause when girls are like this, it's really like betting on a race track. In the mean time, go out and have fun with your friends, read other people's problems on here, talk to other girls that you are friends with, go to the movies, camping, volunteer, exercise (this YOU must do to get over the pain), and write a diary. Writing a diary will ease your emotions and calm yourself down. Three things you have to focus. These are therapeutic methods. Exercise, write in a diary every day, and hang out with a lot of people. Those are must do's. Also, if you keep pushing yourself on her, she will feel very uncomfortable and secondly, you can't make yourself so available to her. Tell her, you love her, but if she feels that you didn't make her happy and all those times spent together were not good for her, then you don't know what happiness is anymore. And just walk away. Force her to think about it, but at the same time not seem clingy. I know I told you a lot of stuff, but usually in situations like these, a simple good luck and time will heal, really doesn't make you feel better. Read this, I know it's long, but try to act on what I said. It will help, I guarantee it.How do i cope with a girl that broke up with me. ?
i think right now you guys just need
a break. and maybe in time you 2
will end up back together. i know it's
got to be hard to lose someone after
being together for 2 years. and maybe
you should ask her if she still has feelings
for you. or just try to meet new people.
best of luck.
hmm maybe she felt a little too close to you. Some girls are like that. Well dude, you should wait a while. When your a quite over it your skills will be back.
Well, don't clam up and don't stop being your self.
This is a really tough situation I've been there before I dated my exboyfriends for 3 and a half years and I truly loved him and it seem like out of the blue that he broke up with me and told me he just didnt love me that way anymore. I was completely crushed. I kept thinking we could fix things and get back together but if you do that your only lieing to yourself. You need to move on and go about your life, go out, hang out with friends meet new people, and do let that stop you. If it is truly meant to be you; you will be together then. You can't try and force things if shes not feeling it right now.
How to deal with a break up????
I just broke up with my girlfriend and it's getting hard to deal with it. I still love her and care for her, and still want to be with her... but I just can't. I mean she said she'd take me back but I can't. I told her I wouldn't hurt her and I need numerous times, and I treated her wrong, even though she claims I didn't. I acted like a asshole the night before we broke up and it really got to me to the point were I couldn't cope with it and just had to break up with her. Anybody know how I deal with this or do about this?How to deal with a break up????
Find some balls, man up and go back to her. Learn from your mistakes and make the relationship go.
If you don't want to go back because you don't lover her or she isn't the right one, that is fine.
But, if you are not going back because it will be hard or you will have to work at it, then go to a strip club. You don't deserve her.
Biggest mistake people make and why relationships fail is that people don't realize that they require work and commitment.How to deal with a break up????
Drink one glass of aviation spirit a day.............. Recipe for Aviation spirit: 1 shot of Gin, 1 shot of vodka: 1 shot of Ouzo; 1 shot of Tequila; 1 shot of schnapps. Place ice in glass add a slice of lemon. Then gently add all five shots to the glass.......Stir........Then down the hatch....................It'll have you flying in no time................. And you won't recall your girlfriend.
ok so im only 13 but im really good at these relationship things cuz i deal with this all the time with my best freinds and bfs.
if i were you id probably talk to her one on one facing each other where theres not so much commotion and talk about how you still love her and want to be with her and she means the whole world to you that if you ever were apart for too long you wouldnt live your life in a normal way. try not to go to fast on trying to get things going in a ok mood swing take everything calmly and apologize for how you've been an asshole that night you broke up with each other. all you need to do is talk to her CALMLY idk if you want to go back with her but its your choice so good luck and i hope i helped!!
LEARN from your mistakes and never do these things again. Realizing you LEARNED something should ease the pain a little. Allow yourself some grieving time, but don't wallow. It makes NO sense to make yourself miserable. It takes too much energy that you could be using in a positive way. Treat yourself well, realize we all make mistakes but the smart ones learn. Good luck!
talk to her and sort your feelings
get back with her and make a conscious effort to be a better boyfriend
maybe just wait a while to decide if that is what you really want
tell her you need some time to think
if you decide you would like to get back with her treat her with 100% respect but start off re building your friend ship relation ship like go for a walk with her and slowly gain your confidence to choose your desicion
if you would'nt want to get back with her tell her that you thinkmaybe you could just be friends but you dont want to hurt her
GOOD LUCK
鈾?chag996 xxx
This best thing to do is find a good distration like a hobby. I am not saying run away, what I am saying is try not to dwell on it. Go out with a buddy try to aviod talking about your ex. Stop feed spark to the fire and you will see it will simmer down. We have all been there it is easier said than done. Take baby steps you are not going to forget her from one day to another. Find something to do hunn!! Do something for yourself!! ;O)
just try to deal with it, i broke up with mine 5 yrs ago and gyess what?, im still not over it
First don't make her mad like text her a million times and calling her and most important don't goto her work or home.....
Try this wait and see.... if its ment to be she will call but first think about what went wrong and learn from it.....
She cares she will call.....Don't be easy make her work for it they like a challenge!!!
i know just wat your talkin about.I put this same ? up and everyone told me the same thing:MOVE ON. and i didnt want to. i cried myself to sleep a few times then realized ';why am i wasting my time cryying over him?';.im not saying do that just try again.But this time dont do her wrong!!! And if shes not givin up on you then dont give up on her.To let you know (im sure you already know but just a reminder) yall are going to have fights.
But take my advise and think about it,i know she would want you to. What ever you chose i hope it works out!!!!
A break up around the holidays is bad. Here's the best thing to do move out of town, go to Europe, meditate, do yoga, have a torrid affair with a transition woman who won't break your heart--have fun. Thing is, it's hard to forget a love, a life--walking away is like tearing a hole in the universe. If you go back, ask yourself this--are we good for each other. Can she live with out me, can I live without her. Try thinking about the other person, not yourself--what's best for them?
That's a terrible situation to be in. I say be open and honest with her. Tell her you don't want to hurt her anymore and you need some time to yourself to truly appreciate how special she really was, what a large part of your life she was. Then, if you think you can try again withotu hurting her and she is willing, then it's worth a shot.
But if you broke up with her, that's red flags that maybe you feel there is something missing between the two of you, and that's okay. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
Good Luck!
well im a girl so im seeing it from another angle. my boyfriend was doing the same exact thing to himself. dont beat yourself up over it. if we say were over it then trust us we are. if your the one to keep dwelling on it then your relationship will never move on, some how you jsut need to get over it, i had a talk with my boyfriend about it and now were better than ever, if you make a mistake or slip up apologize be sincere and then let it go its over no big deal. hope i could help you somehow. [[[[[[[:
well.. if you really love her and care for her, and if she is saying that you havent done anything wrong.. then beleive me, she really loves you and it will hurt her if you just break up with her like that.. if you really feel like you have acted like an asshole or if you treated her wrong, mayb this is your chance to make it up to her..take her out , spoil her, make her know how much you really really love her and care for her, do something extraordrinary that you wouldnt noramlly do and just show her that you care.... being an asshole and having a girl who feels like u havent been is something special and hard to find..trust me on that.. ive been through this.. my bf and i have gone through this and even when he did the most asshole like things i felt like he did nothing wrong because i really really love him.. so i am positive she feels the same way.. so please.. do not do this to her.. be there for her.. talk to her.. learn from your mistakes and appreciate her.. i hope your doing okay and i hope this helps.
There's a saying that goes... there is a TIME for everything...
I think in your case, you need a TIME alone with no one else but yourself... a TIME to mourn, a TIME to cry... and after you have let go of all your sad emotions within you then it's TIME for you to move on...
Well, I presume your decision to break up with her is a well-thought, carefully-made decision. I respect that.
I think in a relationship that works, both parties should always be able to come to a compromise or an agreement in dealing with issues of the heart no matter how hard it gets.
When a compromise or an agreement cannot be reached... I think it's only FAIR to break up... I mean, obviously there is no point staying in a relationship in which you are not happy with.
To help you move on... I think you need to write a letter to her to clearly explain to her why you did what you had to do.
Don't rush in finishing the letter... draft one... read thru it a few times with an open mind... and made changes where needed... bottomline the letter should be able to help her clearly see the situation from your point of view and your stand.
When you know she accepts and respects your explanation and decision in a positive manner then you know it's TIME to move on :).
I think breaking up should not make people feel bitter or become enemies... It should make us better.
I think even after the break up, both of you can still remain as ';normal friends';. The break up is only the end of your ';romantic relationship'; it's not the end of ';friendship';.
If both of you are able to see the bright side of the break up... that will certainly help.
So, good luck brother! :)
break ups are never easy, sometimes you never really get over it... it just gets easier to cope with over time.. honestly i think if you two really do love eachother and you want to be together maybe you should try to work it out. Everybody makes mistakes, its getting over them and through it all that really holds everything together...but if you absolutly cannot get over it, than you need to distance yourself, the pain will subside, but you'll always feel that pinch and wonder if you don't try. Good luck...
If you are gonna be a jerk, what can anyone do about it? Even if you have someone to put up with your lousy behavior, you have to deal with your own issues. Since you can't be with her and shouldn't, you need to deal with yourself, so you don't treat everyone like this in the future.
Sounds like you got some anger issues, ya might wanna talk to a pro to get that under control. You cannot make promises to someone when you can't trust yourself. You got some ';homework'; to do before being with anyone else.
Well you're already doing the right thing by not going back to her if you know you were treating her wrongly. It's also good if you and your ex can stay friends.
I would suggest concentrating on the positive things in your life (career? family? friends? etc) while you get over her, and speak to your friends and get support. Someone else will come along in no time and you can have a fresh start =]
be a man for the one you love...
you love her! she`s you`re girl...
take care of her!
Don't do anything drastic is my suggestion.
Try to find a way to have your cooler head prevail.
Look into reengaging with other friends you have and joining a club of some kind (sports/drama) if you're in school.
Relax and try to find some good hobbies I would suggest and just take it slow, 1 day at a time....
Find some balls, man up and go back to her. Learn from your mistakes and make the relationship go.
If you don't want to go back because you don't lover her or she isn't the right one, that is fine.
But, if you are not going back because it will be hard or you will have to work at it, then go to a strip club. You don't deserve her.
Biggest mistake people make and why relationships fail is that people don't realize that they require work and commitment.How to deal with a break up????
Drink one glass of aviation spirit a day.............. Recipe for Aviation spirit: 1 shot of Gin, 1 shot of vodka: 1 shot of Ouzo; 1 shot of Tequila; 1 shot of schnapps. Place ice in glass add a slice of lemon. Then gently add all five shots to the glass.......Stir........Then down the hatch....................It'll have you flying in no time................. And you won't recall your girlfriend.
ok so im only 13 but im really good at these relationship things cuz i deal with this all the time with my best freinds and bfs.
if i were you id probably talk to her one on one facing each other where theres not so much commotion and talk about how you still love her and want to be with her and she means the whole world to you that if you ever were apart for too long you wouldnt live your life in a normal way. try not to go to fast on trying to get things going in a ok mood swing take everything calmly and apologize for how you've been an asshole that night you broke up with each other. all you need to do is talk to her CALMLY idk if you want to go back with her but its your choice so good luck and i hope i helped!!
LEARN from your mistakes and never do these things again. Realizing you LEARNED something should ease the pain a little. Allow yourself some grieving time, but don't wallow. It makes NO sense to make yourself miserable. It takes too much energy that you could be using in a positive way. Treat yourself well, realize we all make mistakes but the smart ones learn. Good luck!
talk to her and sort your feelings
get back with her and make a conscious effort to be a better boyfriend
maybe just wait a while to decide if that is what you really want
tell her you need some time to think
if you decide you would like to get back with her treat her with 100% respect but start off re building your friend ship relation ship like go for a walk with her and slowly gain your confidence to choose your desicion
if you would'nt want to get back with her tell her that you thinkmaybe you could just be friends but you dont want to hurt her
GOOD LUCK
鈾?chag996 xxx
This best thing to do is find a good distration like a hobby. I am not saying run away, what I am saying is try not to dwell on it. Go out with a buddy try to aviod talking about your ex. Stop feed spark to the fire and you will see it will simmer down. We have all been there it is easier said than done. Take baby steps you are not going to forget her from one day to another. Find something to do hunn!! Do something for yourself!! ;O)
just try to deal with it, i broke up with mine 5 yrs ago and gyess what?, im still not over it
First don't make her mad like text her a million times and calling her and most important don't goto her work or home.....
Try this wait and see.... if its ment to be she will call but first think about what went wrong and learn from it.....
She cares she will call.....Don't be easy make her work for it they like a challenge!!!
i know just wat your talkin about.I put this same ? up and everyone told me the same thing:MOVE ON. and i didnt want to. i cried myself to sleep a few times then realized ';why am i wasting my time cryying over him?';.im not saying do that just try again.But this time dont do her wrong!!! And if shes not givin up on you then dont give up on her.To let you know (im sure you already know but just a reminder) yall are going to have fights.
But take my advise and think about it,i know she would want you to. What ever you chose i hope it works out!!!!
A break up around the holidays is bad. Here's the best thing to do move out of town, go to Europe, meditate, do yoga, have a torrid affair with a transition woman who won't break your heart--have fun. Thing is, it's hard to forget a love, a life--walking away is like tearing a hole in the universe. If you go back, ask yourself this--are we good for each other. Can she live with out me, can I live without her. Try thinking about the other person, not yourself--what's best for them?
That's a terrible situation to be in. I say be open and honest with her. Tell her you don't want to hurt her anymore and you need some time to yourself to truly appreciate how special she really was, what a large part of your life she was. Then, if you think you can try again withotu hurting her and she is willing, then it's worth a shot.
But if you broke up with her, that's red flags that maybe you feel there is something missing between the two of you, and that's okay. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
Good Luck!
well im a girl so im seeing it from another angle. my boyfriend was doing the same exact thing to himself. dont beat yourself up over it. if we say were over it then trust us we are. if your the one to keep dwelling on it then your relationship will never move on, some how you jsut need to get over it, i had a talk with my boyfriend about it and now were better than ever, if you make a mistake or slip up apologize be sincere and then let it go its over no big deal. hope i could help you somehow. [[[[[[[:
well.. if you really love her and care for her, and if she is saying that you havent done anything wrong.. then beleive me, she really loves you and it will hurt her if you just break up with her like that.. if you really feel like you have acted like an asshole or if you treated her wrong, mayb this is your chance to make it up to her..take her out , spoil her, make her know how much you really really love her and care for her, do something extraordrinary that you wouldnt noramlly do and just show her that you care.... being an asshole and having a girl who feels like u havent been is something special and hard to find..trust me on that.. ive been through this.. my bf and i have gone through this and even when he did the most asshole like things i felt like he did nothing wrong because i really really love him.. so i am positive she feels the same way.. so please.. do not do this to her.. be there for her.. talk to her.. learn from your mistakes and appreciate her.. i hope your doing okay and i hope this helps.
There's a saying that goes... there is a TIME for everything...
I think in your case, you need a TIME alone with no one else but yourself... a TIME to mourn, a TIME to cry... and after you have let go of all your sad emotions within you then it's TIME for you to move on...
Well, I presume your decision to break up with her is a well-thought, carefully-made decision. I respect that.
I think in a relationship that works, both parties should always be able to come to a compromise or an agreement in dealing with issues of the heart no matter how hard it gets.
When a compromise or an agreement cannot be reached... I think it's only FAIR to break up... I mean, obviously there is no point staying in a relationship in which you are not happy with.
To help you move on... I think you need to write a letter to her to clearly explain to her why you did what you had to do.
Don't rush in finishing the letter... draft one... read thru it a few times with an open mind... and made changes where needed... bottomline the letter should be able to help her clearly see the situation from your point of view and your stand.
When you know she accepts and respects your explanation and decision in a positive manner then you know it's TIME to move on :).
I think breaking up should not make people feel bitter or become enemies... It should make us better.
I think even after the break up, both of you can still remain as ';normal friends';. The break up is only the end of your ';romantic relationship'; it's not the end of ';friendship';.
If both of you are able to see the bright side of the break up... that will certainly help.
So, good luck brother! :)
break ups are never easy, sometimes you never really get over it... it just gets easier to cope with over time.. honestly i think if you two really do love eachother and you want to be together maybe you should try to work it out. Everybody makes mistakes, its getting over them and through it all that really holds everything together...but if you absolutly cannot get over it, than you need to distance yourself, the pain will subside, but you'll always feel that pinch and wonder if you don't try. Good luck...
If you are gonna be a jerk, what can anyone do about it? Even if you have someone to put up with your lousy behavior, you have to deal with your own issues. Since you can't be with her and shouldn't, you need to deal with yourself, so you don't treat everyone like this in the future.
Sounds like you got some anger issues, ya might wanna talk to a pro to get that under control. You cannot make promises to someone when you can't trust yourself. You got some ';homework'; to do before being with anyone else.
Well you're already doing the right thing by not going back to her if you know you were treating her wrongly. It's also good if you and your ex can stay friends.
I would suggest concentrating on the positive things in your life (career? family? friends? etc) while you get over her, and speak to your friends and get support. Someone else will come along in no time and you can have a fresh start =]
be a man for the one you love...
you love her! she`s you`re girl...
take care of her!
Don't do anything drastic is my suggestion.
Try to find a way to have your cooler head prevail.
Look into reengaging with other friends you have and joining a club of some kind (sports/drama) if you're in school.
Relax and try to find some good hobbies I would suggest and just take it slow, 1 day at a time....
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