Advice for a bad break up?

My boyfriend and I dated for three years, we started working at the same place and things seemed to start falling apart. We've had an issue with arguing (we're both argumentative) for most of our relationship, but it became ridiculous. Then he said he wanted to go on a ';break';. I agreed, thinking he'd be back in two days, dummy me. Two days later I heard from a co-worker that he had taken a co-worker of ours on a date. So I called him to confront him (got a little crazy probably but I was mad), and he left me, saying ';we've been having problems for a while, I wanted to be around a female who was nice to me not mad at me';. I've been heart broken and finding it hard to deal with the relationship (I have a history of depression but had been fine for quite a while). He claims he still loves me we just ';don't work';





To top it off, I'm now having pregnancy symptoms, I'm not sure if they are just from stress or actual pregnancy symptoms.





Any advice on how to cope with the break up?Advice for a bad break up?
i'm so sorry, first of all.


no one has ever been in your exact relationship, so i can't tell you that i understand, but i get some of your feelings.


and they suck.





well, first of all, don't be clingy.


don't call him or contact him at all.





also, he may really love you and it just doesn't work.


that's why i broke it off with my ex:


i loved him like crazy but it wouldn't work right.





everything happens for a reason,


and this one is probbly bc u deserve better than an argumentative relationship.





try to move on; hang out with the girls, go out and have fun, go to guy friends for support.





mostly, pray to God about it.





best of luck.Advice for a bad break up?
first of all he is the biggest jerk ever ..


so just think in this way that u deserve much better things in life ... go on hang out with some friend watch some movies


why waste ur energy on thinking negative thoughts ...


keep urself busy ... so that u dont feel bad sitting alone ..





and secondly get a pregnancy test to make sure about ur doubt .. atleast u will be clear what to think and what not to ..








best of luck ..
The first thing you need to do is be checked by a doctor to confirm if you are or are not pregnant. There will be a different response and more detail if you are indeed pregnant.





Not sure how old you are, but you are probably relatively young, early to mid 20's. I recommend you first find out about YOU -- before you look for a partner. There are several books and tapes that will help you immensly there. Try Dr. Phil McGraw's ';Relationship Rescue';; and Anthony Robbins ';Get the Edge'; -- he has a chapter 3 on Relationships that is excellent.





Don't panic -- life is not fair all the time, but it also doesn't have to suck for long. You CAN gain control of your own life and what you are looking for in a soul mate. There are too many items in something like this for simple answer. If you would like to discuss further you may email me at cnslt4u@yahoo.com





I am probably old enough to be your grandfather so not to worry about ulterior motives for helping.





be kind to yourself and know you are worthy of love and respect - from others, but most importantly from yourself.





Scott
Put on your best poker face when you are at work or around him and start dating. Just for fun, not seriously. Sometimes life gets so heavy that we just have to fake it until we make it. Don't let yourself fall into a deep depression and be grateful for this opportunity to grow and move on. Did you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you argued so much with? Probably not.
Get a good CD, turn it up and start feeling good about yourself.





Start taking care of yourself and focusing on yourself and God.





The rest will follow.
Ok it's just not going to work, you never get a job with someone you are dating. Just remember this, when they break up he will call you. and when he does as much as you want to. he only wants sex and someone to take his mind off her. Don't do it.





And with the pregnancy thing if you are, then he needs to step up and be a man. you 2 need to work together to raise a child, but if the relationship didn't work out then it wont work again. So he needs to be a man and help support the child
Very difficult situtation there. I would be mad at the co worker personally too, knowing you two have a history, but that can only make things worse in the long run.





It makes it even harder when he is playing games by saying he still loves you but you guys don't work. That is a load of crap to me and seems like he is trying to keep you on the hook but at a distance just in case.





As far as he wanting to be around a girl who is nice, it is all fine and dandy when they have a woman that kisses butt, but eventually they all turn into the ';wife'; and then the men don't like it as much. He just wanted to try something new from the sound of it.





I don't mean to be so harsh but it is so hard to get over someone and then to have them drag it off.





The best way to get over them is a clean break. Don't call to talk, don't play emotional games with each other, and just focus on other things and meeting new people. You may see someone else in a different light.





It is so hard and stressful and it is really difficult to get over someone when you give them your heart. I am still not completely over my first love and that was a long time ago. Just try not to dwell on it.





I realize that is easier said than done. Just be careful with your depression and if need be get on some mild medication or see a counselor to help you thru this time.





As far as the pregnancy symptoms- stress can cause a lot of things. I would take a pregnancy test in a few days. If it is negative take a second one a few days later. If positive you may then want to talk to him about that and decide what kind of relationship you guys want.