How do i break up with the father of my unborn child when he gets upset and guilt trips me in2 not breaking up?

i have been with this guy for not very long before i got pregnant, we were surprised and we had had a wonderful relationship before getting pregnant and i had been immensely happy. since i became pregnant although we both want the baby things have Been going down hill, and i have found that i know what i want in my future life whilst he does not and has only recently decided he would be happy with what i want so that he did not lose me. however, there are many other problems involving his lack of motivation to get a job, and i had to get him a temporary job because he couldn't do it properly himself. he occasionally smokes weed and his family smokes weed. he promised me he would give up but has no back bone to say no and stand by a no when friends come round. i cant break up at the moment as his family have suffered a death but i can't stay with him permanently, and although i don't know if i can cope any longer i need to break up as soon as possible. in the past i have tried to break up with him and somehow through tears and begging and empty or temporarily empty promises this lazy man who refuses to act a good father and partner is always given yet another chance. i don't want to hurt him so that we cannot be friends as i need this to be as easy for my child as possible in this difficult situation how do i do this? please help!How do i break up with the father of my unborn child when he gets upset and guilt trips me in2 not breaking up?
Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. I was 11 weeks pregnant when I was finally able to tell my ex I had enough of his crap. He, too, wouldn't get a job. I ended up in a hormonal rage telling him to pack his crap and leave.





He now pretends to care about our son... who he hasn't seen in about 5 weeks, yet somehow it takes more motivation to see my son than it did to get a job. If he doesn't care now he won't later.How do i break up with the father of my unborn child when he gets upset and guilt trips me in2 not breaking up?
Wow, is his name Josh? This is an awfully familiar scenario. If you find something that works- let me know :)





I would guess that you just have to stand your ground and do it. The quicker you do it the better off you will be.





Good luck
this is a question i can relate to i split from my childrens dad when i was 9 weeks pregnant with our first child as he refused to get a job and just didnt want to do anythin at all other than sit around the house all day


one day i had just had enough and said that i didnt no if i wanted to be with him and that we should take a break from eachother and it turned out to be the best decision i ever made even though we had another child together i got empty promises and decided enough was enough and i put what was best for my children ahead of what was best for me


suggest i trial seperation and see what happens it might be the kick up the backside your boyfriend needs to get his act together
Well, if you want whats best for your child you need to let him go. Yea its going to be difficult but it has to bedone. You need to stand your ground. If you stay with him, your baby will notice the unhappiness around her/him, and it will probably depress the baby too. If you truly ARE happier without the father tahn it needs to be done. If his family smokes weed. you need to make sure your child is nowhere around that. You arte clearly unhappy. Theres so much your heart can take, Even if you do give in again and take him back, you eill eventually blow up and it will be even worse than it could've been if you would've done it earlier. Good luck %26lt;3
hi,


wow you are in a difficult situ but at least you seem to be a mature person with her baby's best interests foremost in your mind.


i had a boyfriend who was bad for me and it took a lot to finally get rid of him but once i did my life (and my stress levels) got a whole lot better.


i can't say i am in the same situ as you as i don't have any children or am pregnant, but i think any relationship has to finish, if one of the partners is unhappy (as you obviously are) or if you both have completely diff outlooks on life and the future.





you can do it nicely (again) and explain that while you appreciate his attempts at not doing the weed and stuff, that is all it has been.... attempts. you are too different for it to work and you and your baby will be unhappy if you stick with him just because you give in to his upset at being dumped! you and your baby need each other, and your family (if they are loving and sensible). what you don;t need is a lazyass who will drag you down - if not now, then eventually. also do you really want your baby to be around people who encourage their kids to smoke sh*t, and think it is acceptable? do you want your baby to inhale their dregs and end up an emotionally retarded bum with no ambitions too?


seriously, you sound like a nice person and you and your baby will have enough pitfalls and mountains ahead of you without relationship issues as well. your loyalty and first concerns are to supporting your baby and own happiness and health not to propping up some child-man!


good luck chick, do what your heart and head is telling you, i dont think you really needed to ask us the quessie, you know what the answer is just be strong and do it x