Coping with a break up help!!!!?

My boyfriend %26amp; I of over a year have been broken up for about 4 months. We don't talk whatsoever. Even when we make eye contact we don't say hi. (We see eachother around a lot at school, church, same group of friends, etc.) There is no hatred or hostility between us; we just aren't friendly. Technically, he broke up w/ me %26amp; holds the power to bring us back together. I'm not sure exactly where he stands %26amp; how is doing/handling the break up, but I'm miserable. I feel so pathetic that it's been this long %26amp; i'm still not over it. Well, the other day, after we hung out w/ a group of friends, he asked one of MY good friends randomly, ';does she think i don't want to talk to her? because i do.'; My friend responds w/ ';it's not that, she is just putting up a wall, etc.'; %26amp; she asks, ';why do you want to talk to her now..of all times.?'; %26amp; he responds '; i still care about her so much and i want to know what's going on in her life..etc'; my question is, why is he shooting for it now? or ever? in factCoping with a break up help!!!!?
because thats the way it always is when u first break up, first both of u try to avoid each other but even then u kno u still look at them whenever they pass by you. since he doesnt talk to u, u dont either. u want him to be the one to approach you. this goes on until one of u finally decides to talk to the other. and during the whole time you didnt talk to each other you were both hurt and missing each other. since he doesnt want to ask you but he still cares he asks your friend to find out. hes shooting for that now because he just wants to know how you're doing and if you feel the same way about him too.Coping with a break up help!!!!?
It depends. IS he a young teenager. Most guys cant express themselves, they shut down and they build a wall so high its hard to knock down Guys cant deal with emotional issues, they cant even deal with their own emotions. Guys are logical thinkers, they are good problem solvers, but when it come to issue of the heart they have no idea how to handle it. Most people think its because of how boys are raised compared to girls.
do you rather him not try again?





You never know, maybe the guy feels bad for breaking up with you, and therefore doesnt think you would be comfortable to talk to you, so he could just be waiting for you to make the first move, just so he can be sure that he is not in bad terms with you
Maybe he misses his friend, Not his Girlfriend.


There's nothing wrong with being friends. You dated, it didn't work out. so what. It doesn't mean that you don't care or that you can't talk.


Just let the idea of ';being together'; go--He doesn't want that with you for whatever reason. Maybe he will again later; maybe not.


Move on and be happy and wish him happiness too.
time to move on. trust me, once u have a taste of single life and have fun ull see there is so much more in life. all ur doing is putting ur past relationship on a pedastool and weighing on it. move on.
that is a thougth one maybe he does miss you but he misses the friendship that u guy's use to have. It woun't hurt just to talk to him clear thing's up maybe it would help you move on.
he just want to have you close.... but since he broke up with you don't give him this pleasure. let him live with what he chose and let him come to you.
simple: talk about it with each other
maybe he is lonely
You can sit and stew about him or walk up to him and start up a conversation and find out what is on his mind, there are no rules that say he has to speak first.


You have in your power choices to make...


You can forget all about him and turn the page in your life and meet other young people who you can have a serious relationship with or casual one .


Remember you are in the driver's seat of what happens to your social life.


The longer you sit and feel badly the longer you will suffer...


Also don't always believe what friends say....you never know if it's the actual thing He said....


Think of your life as being this long _________________


Are you going to waste it by sitting around feeling sad or getting up and doing something .....I think you are smart and will make the right choice.


It's normal for young people to feel as if their life is over ...over ONE PERSON...but believe me you have many people to meet and a lot to learn about life.


Get up now and enjoy your family and friends....





Mama Jazzy Geri
people break up bc of insecurities and etc. you need to think less about him. get into your life, the routines will come back and the pain will go away. and be friends with him. people can always handle it. theres things people cant have even if they want it. so what do you do? just let it be. if you have new friends, it will help better. if he wants to be friend and talk to you, do it, it will take the awkward out of things. being friends again will be a progress of a better life style
I know it's hard. Not to turn this to myself, but to give your perspective...I was with my ex-boyfriend for nearly two years. Our breakup was terrible, and it took me until about a month ago to not feel pain anymore when I think of him. And I think of him often. We, like you and your ex, are no in contact at all. For a long time I hoped he'd come back, because as you, he ';held the power'; or at least, that's how I viewed it. It's hard not being a part of someone's life, with whom you've grown so close...and that is probably what he is missing. I know for me, I wonder what is going on with my ex, sometimes I even wish we could be friends but I fear that if I spoke w/ him or saw him it would make me want him all over again, when he truly has made no effor to have me back. The truth is, if someone wants to be with you, then you'll know. You won't have to decipher. Like I used to do, you are taking his actions and his words and trying to make them mean what you want them to mean, and that is that he wants to be back with you. You may have heard the words ';Believe everything a man does, and nothing that he says.'; Although I partially believe this to be true...because you should be able to believe what he says, more than anything you will know how he feels about you by his actions. You don't have to let him ';hold the power.'; You can claim it for yourself, and believe that you are worth having a love, whether it be with him or with someone else. In time you will move on, whether him or not with him. But at this point, you have to do it without him. Because in reality, you don't have sound evidence to do otherwise. You're not ready to be just friends with him. It might be easier for him because he has moved on moreso than you. Clearly, if he did the breaking up he wasn't as invested as you are. Take it one day at a time...you will get through this, and the sun will shine on you again ~
he probably didnt know what he had with you, until he lost it, it is very very hard to cope with but you will eventually get over it, dont let him keep making it harder on you, you know if you feel in your heart thats it over than hun make it clear to yourself, like go out with your gfs and flirt around, with a few guys just for fun you know just get your mind clear, if you still have the hard feelings of him, if he's asking your friends about you then maybe you should talk to him personally, i wish i can help more i hope you answers help more than mine and good luck sweetie