How do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?

Alright, so a girlfriend and I dated for a year before breaking up over differences beyond our control. Its been a year, we're still friends, we've both matured quite a bit, she's dated other guys and I pretty much have not quite moved on yet. Well, she still loves me and admitted it. The thing is, despite loving me and thinking what we have is special, she thinks its not time for us to get back together and give it another go yet. We're young and I can definately see her point. Plus she just got out of a bad relationship in which she was cheated on hardcore and is a bit jaded on dating.





The bottom line is, she's moving to Costa Rica here pretty soon nixing any chances of us for a while. What exactly should I do? She told me not to wait for her and I understand. We love each other but it can't work right now. How do you deal and cope with that?How do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
She is right. If she just came out of a bad relationship getting into another serious one is not a great idea. She needs time two think and grow within herself. She also needs to decide on her own that you are what she wants in a man. If what you two had was real and true love you will get it back eventually. Until then the both of you need to really think about what you want and how to get it. you need to take your mind off her and being with her for the time being because there is nonething that you can do short of move to costa rica as well. but that would then put you in the category of stalker material instead of boyfriend materialHow do you move on after a break up when you both love each other?
you never get over it and if you do it takes years
Hi!





I know this is too clich茅, but the truth of the matter is... ';if it's meant to be, then no matter how long and far apart you are from each other, eventually you will get back together';.





This said, I must say, I don't really think you are in love, or at least I don't think she is ';IN LOVE'; with you.





I don't say this because she has seen other guys since you. But, rather, because she has been hurt by another guy's actions. If she is, as you say, jaded, because a guy other than you has cheated on her. If she was able to love someone else that deeply. If she was able to blaintly and cold heartedly say to you NOT to wait for her... well, in my mind, all this can only mean that YES, you are special to her, you will always hold a special place in her life and heart, but no matter how you (or rather I) look at it, the love she feels for you is not the kind, one can take to the next level.





This is my personal opinion.





I wish you good luck!
you can by ignoring that person and not come across with him/her
The distance is a good thing. They only way to get over this is to put some serious distance between you both so that you can heal and move on.





People say you can still be friends and that CAN work but that not if one of you still thinks that you will get back together. It's just prolonging the agony.





And as for her saying she still loves you - sorry mate - she doesn't love you enough for you to be together and I think it is unfair of her to say that. It's like she doesn't know what she wants - she loves you but she doesn't want you - is it just that she doesn't want anyone else to have you? No - it's not right.





Get some space. Break off contact for a while. If she really does want you she will miss you and maybe make her way back. By then you will have had space and time to think and assess and decide if YOU want her back. You are young - chill. Love will find you - maybe by another route and with someone who wont cause you all this pain.





I know it's hard to see right now but time is a great healer.





Good luck.





Lala xxx
if she doesnt want to work it out...what can you do? heal with time as the saying goes.