How to cope with a break-up?

Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about the person involved. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation. Understand that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10. Most people go through similar things, though not to the same extent, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger. Use the following: Technique for Re-Programming Negative Thoughts: When you notice something negative, such as: ';I can't do this/ am never going to get over this!'; or: ';Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?'; or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind. Having identified and labelled it, visualise a large, red, flashing, ';STOP!'; sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: ';I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!';





You may want to use either: ';ruse';, ';ploy';, ';game';, or ';trick';. In the case of an image, visualise a large ';STOP'; sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved. Express your feelings in a letter, and either post it, unaddressed, or have a ceremony, and burn it safely in a metal container, and flush the ashes down the toilet, symbolically ending the relationship, which has zero potential for anything, except causing you further distress. Give time a chance to heal, then open yourself to the possibility of a relationship with someone new. At: http://www.2knowmyself.com you may want to try: ';How to get over someone'; (top left hand side), or possibly even: http://www.2knowmyself.com/relationship_鈥?/a>





You could try your bookstore, library database, or the searchbar at http://www.amazon.com for: Breaking Up Without Breaking Down by Kristina de la Cal %26amp; When It's Over : How to Mend that Broken Heart by Darren G. Burton. If you are one of the approximately 40% of people who are fairly suggestible, you may want to consider: ';Handle Getting Over A Lover'; Self-Hypnosis CD (Audio) by Steve G. Jones, M. Ed. http://www.asktheinternettherapist.com Letting Go of the Past CD - MP3, %26amp; Get Over a Relationship, CD - MP3, Getting Over the Loss of a Love CD - MP3., and at:


http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com ';Getting Over a Relationship'; %26amp; ';Ending a Relationship';or Let It Go - Hypnosis Download. NeuroLinguistic Programming is another option. Google it.How to cope with a break-up?
Its a change of life that many are faced with, and us being creatures of habit we seemed to find a new daily ritual to be content with.


This transition is the hardest thing really in a break up.


The worst thing to do in a break up really is to blame yourself


for all the pain and suffering and start a like dwelling on the whole ordeal, that will only develop habits you really want to stay away from.


Find a good friend and talk to them till you feel better.





Best wishes.