How do you cope with heartbreak?

My boyfriend moved to Chicago in June. We were in ';love'; so we did the distance relationship thing. He recently broke up with me because he found another guy. He said he loved me but can't handle a long distance relationship. I'm going crazy. I just feel empty. Everything I do is just depressing. How do you cope with heartbreak? I want someone to talk to me about break ups and similar situations.How do you cope with heartbreak?
Personally...I always think you need some time to hurt...hurt BAD. Something like that is SO hard. So let yourself hurt. Allow yourself a couple days of sobbing and hiding in your room. Then wake up one day and agree to set it aside. Then grow stronger from the experience. Eventually you will be able to look back at the relationship and see the good without wanting to breaking down and curl up and hide away. It might always sting a little but the happiness you had during those memories will override the sadness of not having them anymore. ;) Goodluck.


-Emma





P.S. I been there and I'm sorry. It's a sad sitch. But you grow stronger out of it and emerge a better person. Wishing you well until you get to that point =) -EmmaHow do you cope with heartbreak?
My situation is a bit more str8-forward that yours, cause he is str8 and it obviously could not go anywhere.


In this sense, I think your situation is more difficult. Because, theres still the question: is there any possibility that you could still be together.





In my case, there is no question; Get over it.





I guess, in the end, it comes down to you looking out for number 1. He's moved, found someone else. How much of your life are you willing to trade for the possibility of getting back together.





Leaving love is never an easy thing. Its disturbing, and unsettling in every way. But, sometimes, you know, you also have to look at reality.





Sorry. I know what I wrote sucks, but sometimes life just isnt fair.
You probably felt like the whole world was crashing down too didnt you? And you feel like your lost and dont know what your going to do next without them. You have the feeling where you just know you were meant to be, but are going crazy because it cant be.





Been there. I got alot of support from my friends, and i found writing down my feelings helped ALOT. also, if your creative in a way of drawing, painting, writing, you can turn this into a positive and use your wild emotions to make beautiful work.





I would definatly try to avoid any time alone; because then you will begin to think about them and you will feel overwhelmed with depression from your thoughts.





Write down your feelings, or a letter to them; without ever sending it.





Hangout with friends and talk to them on the phone. A break up is also a lead way to new or tighter friendships, since they will be there for you.





And ost importantly, DO NOT answer ANY of their calls or texts or emails. Avoid all contact. I know its extremely hard, and everyone told me to do so but i still texted him and ended up having him completely ignoring me now and just more horrible than it could have been.





I know it seems ridiculous that you will find someone new, but its passed about 2 months since my heartbreak and i found out some stuff about him i never knew and now, i met an amazing guy who we are 100% on the same page.





Just stay in there. it WILL all be over soon enough; and you will be disgusted at him for making you feel like that. Best of luck.
Find a goal to follow and keep your mind set.


Give it some time because time always heals heartbreak. I've been through it personally, so I should know what it's like to break and recover. Don't think that everything you do is depressing, because it isn't. You'll think back after you get over it, and actually laugh. I swear on that. Best of luck, and try to smile.
they way i deal with mine is be crying it first than when i calm down ask yourself why did you think it happen and after know if he/she was worth it all the pain that your going Thur after tell your self that you can do better but if you still love her/him tell your self that all in all you are you no matter what and if that don't work ask your heart if it's right is he/she is right
I'm sorry about your heartbreak, true love will find you again don't worry! Try talking to family and friends and see what advice you get from them. I never really had my heartbroken like that before.
move on, he didn't love you enough to keep the relationship going so you loved him more then he loved you. He's not worth your thoughts any more.
Give it time. You can distract yourself, or find a hobby, but the only thing that will make the hurt go away is time.
Time and the willingness to get off your duff and go find something to do beside mope bi h and whine.
its hard i know how you feel i coped with mine by locking myself in my room crying writing poems and cutting but please dont cut that wasn't a good idea
I'm going throught the same thing.


Its the hardest thing ever, If you find the answers to you're questions..


Let me know :(
Well here is how you deal with heartbreak...!!!! Get a Girlfriend (you know the ones with boobs and a nice butt!!)
how would i know?
You don't... it just fades with time. You have to stick it out for a while.
Its hard. Live your life and soon it won't be in your mind constantly.
get over it
I've been in two relationships that were similar to yours. Except I was the boyfriend that moved. The difference was I was NOT the boyfriend that broke up with them. This is over a period of, maybe, 12 years.





The first relationship, I was in the military and came home to propose to her. When I got home, I found out that she was having someone else's baby and was avoiding me so I wouldn't find out. We were together for six years. That hurt because I was crazy in love with her.





The second relationship, I lost my job and had to make a drastic move to make a living. I ended up working in another state. My girlfriend wasn't happy with it and stressed me a little... but we worked it out. So we were long distance for a while - until she decided to cross the line and have a baby by some guy that didn't even want to be with her on top of not wanting anything to do with the baby. Talk about bad luck with women. She and I were together for about 5 years.





Anyway... you have to move on. You can't let yourself feel any less valuable because it seems like someone, who you want to want you, doesn't. The thing that makes relationships feel so special is the attention, affection and support that you get from that significant person. When they leave, you feel like all of that is gone too. This is the time to focus on doing all you can to make yourself more valuable to you. Boost your own self esteem. Bring up your G.P.A, develop job skills, exercise, give his time to the other significant people in your life (they were there first anyway). Believe me... if you do those things, he will gradually turn into ';just that guy you used to date.';