How do you cope with a break up?

Me and my Ex were together for 10 years, we have 2 lovely boys aged 2 and 5, we both agreed to brake up because we argued alot, now that ive moved out i realised that i still love her, but she doesn't want to carry on with me, il be seeing her quiet alot when im meeting the boys and its going to be hard , when we were together we had a good relationship, when the 2nd baby came there was alot of pressure put on us with sleepless nights, and up at 5.30 every morning we shared the duty 50/50 even though i had a full time job,we had no help from relatives so we never got time to go out it put strain on our relationship and we vented on each other i was sick of it and so was she, now i know i still love her but is it too late?How do you cope with a break up?
dude i would say try to get over it. the problem with trying to getback with her is you can appear needy, and prob just end up making her angry. this is from personal experience. but here is what i would do:





1) go out have fun. she will most likely take you back if you are that fun loving guy she initially fell in love with. so don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself - it will only damage your chances of getting back with her! and when you see her, smile be civil - but not needy!





2) i know this sounds cliche, but there are pleantly more fish in the sea. i can count 3 times in my life where i thought i had found the one! and when we broke up my world collapsed! but the truth is, you will meet someone else. and you will love them for different reasons!





3) take this opportunity to improve yourself! go to the gym, or take that holiday you wanted. yet again, being sat at home you will only tink about her. i know for a fact if you are out with the lads, having a laugh - you won't think about her as much. stay busy!





4) plan on getting over it. you may get back together one day, but just plan that you will not. i have just split up with my girlfriend and i know it hurts dude. we may get back together in the distant future, we may not. but the points i have said have helped me. i started the gym and that has REALLY helped!





but i was with her for a few years and have no kids. it is easy for me to lose contact. so i understand your situation is much harder. but people break up everyday all around the world. and you know what? most will be just fine :-)





good luck mate





drew





p.s. can i just stress the point of when you see her smile and be calm. don't beg, don't ask for her back, don't tell her how sad you are without her. it will not help. like i said, she will most likely take you back if she think 'hey, why did i split with him? he is really funny, sweet, and lives life'.How do you cope with a break up?
actually what i have done is made a list of 50 things i want to do before i die! do it - it will give you something to aim for and a sense of scale on how much there is to do. but best of luck mate with the future :-)

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try to talk to her and express your feelings
Well if you're sure she doesn't want you then theres no way back but.


if you try to patch things up now that you're not together you may be able to win her over again.


The first thing is communicating and making sure that you back up everything by taking the kids when you say you will and giving money towards them and generally behaving well.


Then when you visit start chatting and see how you get on, make an effort with the appearance, maybe bring along a gift for her.


Then eventually ask her out and start dating again and maybe you will get back together properly.
Whats up man....





Well, I am not going to tell you to give up b/c i know for a fact that love never gives up, never looses faith, never looses faith and endures through all circumstances....





Now to what you need to do.......Make sure you are up to par all the time when around her. Do not text or call her to often. Give her space and time. Take the boys and keep them when you can. Also maybe buy some new clothes etc that you did not have before so when you see her you look new.





THE KEY IS PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY CANNOT HAVE......





When you do see her be calm and not desperate, you know......NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS, TRUST ME IT WORKS OUT BETTER WHEN YOU DO NOT PANIC AND DRIVE OVER TO HER HOUSE AND SEE WHAT SHE IS DOING ETC.... OR POP UP AT PLACES YOU KNOW SHE WILL BE...





Also, write her a letter....people always type stuff, text, and call, but no one write anything anymore....In this letter you need to accept and take blame for everything no matter what....and do not say i am sorry but.....................................鈥?is like a slap in the face....





GL man......i am still working on my situation which is very similar to yours but it was not a mutual thing.