A.Make yourself busy so that you can鈥檛 focus on your loss. Just make sure you busy yourself with productive activities like exercise, friend-time and focusing on school or work.
B.This is no time to put on a brave face. Your heart is broken, you鈥檙e wrought with disappointment and loss, it鈥檚 A-O-K to cry a lot. Just make sure that you cry in a private place, no PDAs (Public Displays of Affliction) and if you can鈥檛 handle being alone only cry in the company of someone close to you
C.Put on your favorite song, something upbeat or even angry in tone, no sappy love songs allowed! Make sure it has a good beat and a sound that gets you moving. Then get up off your sad butt and dance around. Be silly, be funky, sing along at the top of your lungs, have fun with it. It sounds crazy, and it will look crazy to other people, but getting your real heart beating this way will do wonders for your proverbial broken one.
D.Talking is an excellent way to cleanse your soul and ease your mind. Pick a close and trusted friend and ask them in advance to listen to you vent whenever needed. Warn them that they may get sick of listening to you say the same things over and over but that you really need their help. A good friend will be there for you. Then set a mental deadline in your head, 2-3 weeks is a good one but when coping with the loss of a more serious or long term relationship you may require a bit more time, and once you鈥檝e reached that deadline cease and desist all talk of the matter.
E.You need to stop living in the past and focus on the future. People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behavior is normal and healthy in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. So after the first couple of days have passed you need to forget the past, good and bad, and look to the future. Think about all the positive ways your life will change; more time for friends, pursuing old hobbies that had been put aside or taking up new ones, and having more you time are all good focal points. When you think of your future do not think of anything that has happened as a loss but try to view it as an opportunity for change. You don鈥檛 need to bury your past forever, just for now, and when you can think of the past and smile you鈥檒l know that you鈥檙e well on your way to being healed.
No matter what keep your head up , when my first love broke up with me it took well over 2 yrs to heal it still gets hard from time to time because i remember the little things that remind me of him but when i look back on how my life was then and how much better my life is now, im finally happy and one day you'll be ok it just hurts really bad right now , i did the same as you i cried alot,everytime i looked at his pictures of us, listening to phone messages, read love notes,remembered memories,memories are there so we remember all the good times , don't focus on the bad and dont go into a deeper depression nothing is your fault people change we get older , I suggest keeping a diary or journal of your thoughts, write how you feel if nothing else put it on a blog online and ask for feedbackHow to cope with a break up?
omg im goin throuh da exact samething but when when i try 2 forget him all kinds of memories *** bac and i hav dreams about him= all my friends are mostly his too so lik sum call him a @$$hole and i get sad cuz im never goin 2 be mad at him= but damm im afriad that im never goin 2 get ovr him..
i even had a dream that he had someone else and he's really cute and nice and i want 2 call him 2 talk about US but sumtimes he knos that i wanna talk but itz lik he's a diffrent person.............i got soo many juciy details.....lol.......
yes, there is a way, but first why you broke up... i think there is a reason, and this reason must be solve quickly. just try to talk to him and listen to each other...
Wow maybe he is the one you just messed up. Don't worry if its meant for you to get back together then you will. Just remember you are a strong woman. Don't always rely on a man.
Secondly if you dont get together then you have to wait as long as you went out with that person to get over that person. It may hurt now but it will help you in the future.
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