How to cope with hard break up?!?

Me and my ex girlfriend got together when we were 16 were both 20 now and she left me for someone else. I don't know the reasoning behind it and I know you guys cant answer that reason and even she still has never giving me a reason behind it. I know the most likely reasons but I just don't know for sure I wish she would have told me the reasons she kept me around for two weeks saying things will work don't worry I want this to work. Well they didn't work I guess this guy was just something more for her who knows I'm sorry for going on lol. What my questions is how do I cope with all this I love this girl so much and I was planning on marrying her and everything I know I'm young and theres a lot of fish in the see lol but it still hurts I've been with her since I was 16 I don't know much other then her.How to cope with hard break up?!?
Man, I KNOW how you feel ... I am twenty too.





It takes -time- it hurts, it sucks, its painful ... but the pain really does subside eventually.





We've all been there ... we thought we had the love of our lives, we were going to marry them ... but things happen.





I think that's very distasteful on her end to up and leave you the way she did. PSS forget that! If I was with someone that long, I would have sat them down and talked to them about why I don't have feelings anymore.





You don't need that ... you're extremely young and you will find someone.





Hey, you can always pray about it :)





God Bless you, you'll be fine ... I've been there too and thank goodness time does heal all wounds. How to cope with hard break up?!?
well my boyfriend and i broke up after a year and it was horrible , were back together now but i know how you feel. I'm so sorry. Talk with her one on one and I really don't know why she would do that , but that's really mean. Tell her that you love her and you don't know what your going to do without her. Maybe she'll tell you the reason.
let me tell you something about us girls. we make descisions based on feeling and usually we cant make ';feeling'; make sense to you guys cause you always want to make sense of our behavior. you still have a lot to learn about women so dont beat yourself up and dont give up on finding a new girl. she had a reason for doing what she did and it meant a lot to her. you cant change that. good luck. ;)
too young! it will pass i promise. im 31 and ive ran around with many girls and have had 4 or 5 that ive gotten sick and heartbroke over but i could care less about any of them now. it took a while but i finally found one thats perfect for me atleast i think so haha. who knows,she may change like rest. u will be fine. just be sociable and chase women,u will be just fine!
just occupy your time until you fill that empty space with something else. it doesn't have to be another female, but something good will come along. good things come to those who wait. she won't realize a good thing till that other guy treats her like crap, or she finds out how much the little things you did with her, how much they mean.





good luck
Get down on your knees and thank your lucky stars. You would have missed so much if you had stayed with her. You have some many great first dates, first kisses, and so many good times ahead of you. You are just starting to live my friend. Enjoy it!! Get out there and see what you have been missing.
Don't worry, you will find someone else.








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Always remember that it's always easier to get over one by getting under another. That advice will last you for the rest of your life.
tell her how u feel now n tell her how u felt then n if no change u have to deal with it n move on bt it's still okay to have feelings for her if she doesn't have any for u
Focus on the future not the past-learn from it and move on
what a ******
i'm coping too - so i feel your pain completely. about 5 yrs is a long time. i was with someone for 4 yrs and broke it off. it's definitely hard. perhaps she was waiting for you to pop the question and you didnt or maybe she is just looking for something not so serious...you both are young and experienced love at a very young age.





i think what you should do - which is hard cuz like said, im coping to - is to focus your energy and mind on something else. for example, eating healthier, working out, hanging out with friends...etc.maybe after a while she'll come to you with an explanation but really will it matter? i think you just want to answer to ease your mind and as badly as you want it, it won't happen right now. so, what you have to do is NOT let this get to you - as hard as it is. YOU sound like an amazing guy who is still young and able to be carefree. enjoy your time and allow yourself to go through the motions. but also know as the days go on, you'll start to feel better and life will be pretty damn good again.





best of luck and sorry for the novel.
Im sorry to hear that, I know how hurt and broken hearted you must feel, but sometimes things aint meant to be, Im almost 20 and i started dating a guy when i was 17, we dated for a year and 10 months and i really did love him, but as we got deeper into the relationship we found out we were not meant to be he lied to me made me not able to trust him, he cheated on me, got 2 girls pregnant while he was with me and it hurt more than anything my heart felt like it crushed into my stomach, but the point is i know what it feels like to be hurt, i had it done to me but things were different you will get over this, she made the descion to be with someone else, she dont want to be with you any more i know it hurts to hear that but if she wanted to be with you you'd both be married by now, you will find someone else keep busy to occupy ur time the more you keep hurting yourself and thinking about her or talking to it will only hurt you worse. You will get over this but only if you let yourself i will pray for you God Bless.
Honestly, the thing about heartache is that it heals with time... There is nothing a doctor, drug dealer, or professor can give you to end this pain. I recommend you go to a strip club, a party, don't watch any romantic movies, or t.v. shows.





Try to hangout and stay outside of the house. Don't do any of the things you and her use to. Call a chatline or find one online. The best thing is to avoid being lonley and eventually you'll get your head back on right. See some people never really get over there first love....So it'll be hard... just stick to this plan ...





oh yeah, avoid calling her and get rid of anything that reminds you of her. If you don't let her go completely it will be harder and you will suffer.





Heartache has made some of the toughest cry!!!! Good Luck, and God Bless
i no what your going though rite now couse my boyfriend of only 1 year split up with me just a few days ago and its hard but you just need to take one day at a time thats what im doing my ex said that the reason its over with him and me is the age he is 39 and im 22 i didnt think tehre was a problem and nor did he at the start but there was any way just give her time and i no you dont no anyone else but her but give your heart time to heal away from here and as my sis said ' when you lest expect it the rite person will come into your life' so untill then just do what im doing and wait and think about all the good times. and think about what you wont to do with your life i hope you can deal with it cosue i no i cant its killing me but i no i need to heal and just remember if she is with someone else that means she was not happy at one stage and if she gets back with you she may still be unhappy and do you wont that do you wont her to be happy or unhappy i no its not what you wont to hear but thats the way im looking at it any way good luck
Be strong, and move on. She's going to hoping your world is crushed, and you're sitting around crying over her and in pieces. Don't be. Show her it doesn't bother you and act like you're moving on with your life and doing better than ever. If she still has any feelings for you at all, this will make her come running back so fast your head will spin. Not sure you'd want her back, but just don't let her see you 'down'. Let her see you as moving on and over her and it will drive her nuts. Keep busy with friends, new hobbies, old hobbies, join some clubs, whatever it takes..but with time, you'll be better.