How can I cope with a tough break up??

I moved to the USA 5-6 years ago from Munich Germany, and i met a wonderful woman the first weeks i moved here... im 21yrs old now and am trying to finish college, as is she... Lately, we have been arguing because she's been telling me that we do not have as much time together, and that she ';wants to be happy'; in life, nothing else...





I tried giving her space, but when we talk its like she doesnt even want to try and tell me what this whole relationship is worth.... i was her frist everything, and i had plans on marriage and kids as soon as college is over...





now im in my own perdicument where she is slowly drifting away from me, even if i give it all i got..





i know its impossible to make someone love you, but damn, i just wanted to be happy with her..How can I cope with a tough break up??
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hmm...if she was complaining about not having enough time w/ you, you probably shldn't given her more space. I think she wanted more time w/ you. BUT, ask her what she wants! ASk her if she wants to make it work, if you do then tell her that. Or ask her if she wants a break? i know it stinks, but sometimes it'll give you time to clear the air and see what it is that the two of you are really looking for. you guys are still young! She may be the one, or maybe not? Take her out, a picnic, for a walk, someplace neutral where u can talk openly. Communication, and honesty is your best bet on moving forward w/ the relationship-which ever direction it's going
What you describe is quite common with relationships that start in the late teens early 20's. People at that age (I used to be one) are mentally changing and being shaped by their environment and will definitely be a different person by the time they hit 30. This means that they might go through a multitude of changes there inbetween.





I would say enjoy your age, your newfound freedom and get a good education. Relationships are not as important as education and self care. Those are things that will carry you through life and allow you to provide yourself the things that you want. Relationships will come and go and really will not provide you anything but grief if you look to them for too much.





Be in love with life, and its opportunities. All else will fall into place. I suggest get involved with social activities, clubs and any other things that you like. This will allow you to meet like minded people and build friendships (which can last longer than romantic relationships) This will also occupy your time and keep you busy doing things that you like to do, preventing moping around.





I can tell you, I could never imagine now (30) being with any of the guys I dated up to this point in a serious relationship. I have grown and changed so much over the years that I honestly enjoy just being single and spending time doing sports and with friends. Try taking hold of your own time and life.
maybe for her the case is that since you and she haven't been spending time together all that much and arguing that maybe shes gone on and figures that she can start a different life and has found other interests besides you--like hanging out and having time to do other things--i would ask her what exactly is going on and find out what the problems are and if you are able to fix some of them--maybe spending more time with her would work--you would just have to ask her what would make things better--she is the only one that can tell you--getting together as young as you did with her--its highly unlikely that you or she either one will want to marry--and only have a love experience with one person--maybe splitting up for a bit would tell you both whether you miss each other enough to make it work--it all depends on what the issue is that's driving her away--talk to her though without being confrontational--and not arguing--that will make her more comfortable in telling you all that's going on with her--hope this helps you out a little and good luck!
I don't mean this in a jeering way. I am being honest. That is the stereo-typical American women. There are many wonderful women out there (I married one :) ) and sometimes you just have to look harder. Sorry for your situation, mate, and hope all goes well.
sit her down and have a talk. be really firm and command/order her to tell you if necessary. there's something that she's unhappy with, and she probably knows what it is, but doesn't want to tell you, OR she has no idea, but can feel that there's something amiss. at any rate, talking about it would allow you two to brainstorm, in a sense, and hopefully resolve the issue.





This method has worked for me very well in the past, so here's to hoping it goes well for you too :D
It's hard but ultimately, you have to choose to be happy. If you have a partner who is constantly complaining, uncertain about your presence in her life, then it should signal to you that something is evidently wrong. If she is meant for you, then she will stick around longer. Everything happens for a reason.
it happens and it sucks


once shes drifted


whats the point anymore?


you cant turn back time