How will I cope with a break up after 4 years?

I love my boyfriend so much


but our long distance relationship of 4 years makes things difficult. we are at different universities so we see each other about 2 a month.,





We have talked about how we feel about it and he likes the way things are but recently things have been weird i feel unloved and left out. its his birthday on saturday and I cannot come and i ve told him that but he was more concerned about his best mate not cooming instead of me...


last night i broke up with him and he just said 'fine, i am gonna swith my phone of for the rest of the night' and he did. i ve send him a text message 'you dont even care' which he received about an hour later and hasn t got back to me...so i called him and he started shouting at me insulting me and my foreign accent and that he doesnt want to talk to me he was screaming so loud and then hung up on me. then he called me back which i didnt answer. and left me a calm voicemail.





i am comfused... i dont know what am doing wrong...i feel quilty but at the same time being pushed t break up i dont know bah!How will I cope with a break up after 4 years?
goodness ok ive never been in a ldr but its hard i bet . break ups suck but u gotta do what feels right . in the heat of the moment we say tings we dont mean right? right? just sleep on it then call him talk it out see what he says then act on your heart felt conversation. How will I cope with a break up after 4 years?
You may have loved your boyfriend but you have been parted by the long distance relationship. Trust your own instincts. You must have known that this was never going to work. It seems that your b/f was simply waiting for you to break it off with him. He may have found someone else, he may simply be preoccupied with his new life and friends. That however is immaterial, you felt the need to break with him, for good reason so trust that you have made the right choice, (which you have) and look back on the relationship with more affection than anger. You are bright, young and on the cusp of your life. Take things one day at a time and make an effort to enjoy your single status. You must move on, and you must never, never beg!
He has someone else and you cant see it can you, thats why he treats you the way he does and why he insults your accent.


He wants you to break up with him so that he feels no guilt and he can say its all your fault.


Let him go, you are being faithful and he clearly isn't and therefore you deserve someone much better than him.


Go and find him and leave this loser to his life of debauchery.


Good luck and hold your head up high you have done nothing wrong.
You broke up with him, why would you call him for support? You need therapy.