How did you cope with a break up?

I thought I was going to be with this guy forever. We still care for eachother but I feel like I'm totally losing him. I'm writing him a letter telling him how much I want him back and how much I love him. What would you include in the letter? Do you think its a good idea to tell him? I feel lost without him, he was everything to me. What did you do when u lost the love of your life, knowing he will never come back to u? have you found somebody else since? how long did it take u to get over him and move on? how long were u single for after he broke your heart?


Thanks.How did you cope with a break up?
Take your time and cry your heart out...the time will come that you will realise that you are done crying...and thats when your mind tells yourself to go out and have some fun! my advise is to spend as much time with your girlfriends and stay away from guys untill you are really ready.


I take it that he is the one that broke up with you....he did it with a reason honey, you can't force love. Let him go.He will come back to you again one day if it was meant to be


and don't let him see that you are hurt and that you miss him.


You can write that letter and just describe your feelings,but if he does not reply or let you know something within a weeks time...then you should back off. Otherwise if you are going to be clingy and annoying you are only going to push him further away from you. Don't call him and don't text him.





SO write the letter, then you atleast know that you've done your part. Keep a diary where you can describe your feelings daily and that way you can also see if you are progressing.


Good luck though...How did you cope with a break up?
Depending on how long the relationship was, you have to recognize that it will take a while to recover.





For example, if you were married for 15 years, then get divorced. No matter what your feelings were at the time of divorce, it will take at least 2 years of recovery.





Recovery meaning that you will have ';emotions'; related to that other person.





In other words, you can't just forget them cold turkey - you may be on an emotional roller coaster for 2 years.





Accepting that fact helps make it easier.
Do we ever get over a broken heart,,,, But if this last love was not to be ,,,, thats life ime afraid ,,,,,, dont worry ..theres someone special out there for you who will give the same love back in return ....i know it seems like the end of the world but it does get better But Please dont beg ,,,,you are worth better than that;;;;; Good luck,,,,,,,,
i know exactly how your feeling,i was totally happy with my guy then he shattered my world telling me he didnt love me any more,i begged him to give us another chance but he wanted someone else, i stayed living in the house we shared for three months cos i wanted my kids to finish the school term, that was the end of july last year,then i moved away from the area,he wanted to stay friends but its too painful so i have tried to move on.its took a long time i had kids to sort out and my life to sort out, i dont get out much to meet new guys and im not the sort of woman to sleep around to get over it, i have recently met a guy on line and we see each other most sundays, its friendship and company, sometimes we sleep together but im not looking for a steady relationship with marriage, at the moment. this is working for now and mayby i will meet someone i want to be with forever, my ex new he had made a mistake and he isnt happy with his new life but it was his choice and i know he regrets it.i still love him and im not over him yet, in the early days if he said he wanted us to get back together i would have, but he put me through so much pain i wouldnt now, i couldnt trust him not to hurt me again.its hard but time is a healer so they say and i think im getting there. xxx good luck ps, i dont think writing a letter will help, if hes made his mind up you cant change it.
getting over a break up is really a painful process specially when you loved the person so much but despite this life still goes on. when i lost the person i loved so much, i went through a deep depression and i also felt that i could no longer live without him. I also felt so lost and didn't know how to take the next step. What I did was I accepted the pain but didn't allow it to rule my life. I accepted the fact that he is no longer around and he will never come back. I treasured the good memories and it helped me through the times when I felt the pain overwhelming me. Then one day, I just woke up and realised that I was over it. I still remember him once in while but when I do, i just smile and think that i still am a lucky person for having loved once in my lifetime. So, move on, girl! there is a life waiting for you out there, this time without him.
On how long it'll take to meet someone knew. Is up to you. Go out meet people socialize. No use dwelling on what couldn't be.
Dont let it take over your life. I was with an *** for four and a half years, i couldnt see it when i was with him, but afterwards you just get on with life make the best of yourself, go and have some fun and if your ment to meet someone then it will just happen out of the blue.





Thats the attitude i took and now im happy, met a fantastic guy three and a half years ago, who i can be myself with and who loves me for who i am . We got engaged two years ago and are planning our wedding. Never thought that i could be this happy but it will happen to you too, good luck and keep smiling, the most attractive thing about someone is their smile and sense of humour
nobody likes rejections......


tell him you feel...if he doesn't care then


move on.


Everything happens for a reason and believe it or not it is probably best for you. There is a better love awaiting and he'll come in time. In the mean time enjoy the single life because it doesn't last long........ and when it does happen and the Glory of being in love again has worn off you'll ask yourself one question. ';Why in the hell did I waste so much time moping over that loser of a boyfriend I used to have!';
I know how u feel, i love my bf but cheated on him 2x and now I am losing him and I feel like ****.


I am idiot and am currently thinking of what to do to show him I want to be with only him
I think breaking up with someone you truely love is one of the hardest things we do. Trying to accept it's over and not just another fight is so difficult. We long and literally ache for their return. Some times we cease to function because we are so devastated. Don't eat, don't sleep, and only pretend to be ok. Unfortunately, I think, only time can ease your pain. You can try to keep urself busy, so you don't have time to think about ur loss. But that doesn't always work cuz they always seem to find their way back into your thoughts. You just need to grieve ur loss and meet new people. You'll find someone who will make you forget your past and move forward. Hang in there. It will be ok
Sometimes we have to move onl Dont beg him whatever you do. It's hard to deal with a break up. Take time out to think about your feelings Yours not his. Out weight the options of is this break up best for me, did her treat me like crapp? Etc. DOnt beat yourself up. This may have been the best thing for you.


Good luck


Alabama
In the letter I would ask what went wrong between us.....also is there another for him.


You can tell him whatever you like,if he listens to it is another question.


You already appear to have accepted the fact that he is lost to you...
i cry and cry and cry and cry then i have lots of sex with random guys
you dont cope with a break up hun.. yet let time cope for you.. time is the best cure.. and im sure everyone tells you this .. its hard but you have to move on





every sixty seconds you spend upset is aminute of happiness you'll never get back!!! you have one life.. dont waste it
I know the pain you are going through, and it does feel physical, but you will get over this, but dont prolong the agony by trying to get him back...it hurts even more if you are with someone knowing that they dont feel the same way as you, and you will damage your self-esteem even further. Dont bother telling him you love him and want him back, believe me he already knows, tell him you understand he needs to move on and then do something for yourself. You feel lost? so find yourself, you can do this by visiting friends, joining a group what sort of thing do you like doing? Sport ? music? Fill up the emptiness I know it sounds corny but this will help you find yourself, be strong, be like a strong warrior on you chariot and forge ahead with your life, make a success of your life, travel, get to know other things and before long you will forget this guys name. And yes of course the pain goes away and you'll find someone else, on your own terms. xxxx Good Luck