How do you cope with breaking up w/ someone and then being obeseed w/ them?

My friend just broke up with her bf and at first she was all '; o i hated him anyway, i deserve better!'; but now she won't stop thinking about him. I asked her if she wanted to come see me in a play and she said ok, but only if matt( who is her ex-bf) comes!'; and now she won't stop talking about him!!!!!!! How can I help her with this?How do you cope with breaking up w/ someone and then being obeseed w/ them?
Try introducing her to someone else. Someone who will make her forget about her ex. If that doesn't work, talk to her. If she's your friend she will listen to you and stop obsessing over him the way she is. I hope that you can help out your friend soon, because I know what it's like to obsess over someone who you can't have. But make sure she knows that you're there for her. You never know, this may be her way of dealing with the pain of loosing her boyfriend. Good luck!!! :)How do you cope with breaking up w/ someone and then being obeseed w/ them?
Ask her to talk to you about her feelings. She obviously still has pretty strong feelings for her ex. She needs to deal with them and find out if she is just lonely or if she made a mistake by breaking up with him. If she doesn't deal with her feelings she will continue to obsess - and if he gets another gf it will get even worse.


People don't wait around forever, so tell her to get her act together and if she wants to give him another chance - go and make things right.
This is how i did it i threw away or gave away everything he gave me and i wrote a letter that i knew i wouldn't mail but i wrote down all the feelings i had for him. Thay big weight was lifted off my shoulders.