How do you cope with daughter's break up with first boyfiend?

My 18 yr old came back from holidays to have her bf break up with her through a message on her mobile phone. She was hysterical and the image of her in that state has not left my mind, three months down the track. I feel cheated by this boy who I came to trust and love as a potential member of our family. Now they are friends again why can't i seem to let this whole thing go? It's starting to ruin my life because my feelings swing from being over the whole thing to being angry at him and crying for her because she's too good a girl to deserve what happened to her. I still feel as if he acted too hastily and broke up with her mainly because he listened to someone who really didnt want to see the two of them together. Has anyone experienced this, and how did you cope? At the moment I feel like calling him to talk this out, but I really don't want to interfere.How do you cope with daughter's break up with first boyfiend?
I can answer your question from a different angle - when I was 17, I was ready to break up with my gf over the telephone (back in the day before cell phones, etc).





My father DEMANDED that I drive over and do it face-to-face in person. He said that a man owed it to a women to tell her certain things face to face.





I have two daughters, and I have passed along that lesson to them. If the guy tries to deliver bad news of any kind in a cowardly way (phone, text, etc.) - move on. He is not worth it. Wait for a real man. They are still out there - if you look in the right places.





Good luck!How do you cope with daughter's break up with first boyfiend?
dont interfere it will only create unneccessary moods. she will find someone else in the mean time. maybe he broke it off for a reason only he sees and he doesnt think that they were meant to be . it hard to go from a friend into a lover.
Seeing your kids in pain when you can do nothing about it, is the worst thing ever. I know when my daughter came home one day and had her very first fight with her best friend, it broke my heart.





But, you can't LIVE their pain for them. Your daughter has to experience this pain for herself, in order for her to grow as a woman! You remember this yourself, right?





I know you think this boy has treated your daughter in the most awful way, but you can't interfere - I am SO sure she would hate it if you talked to him. You can't change his mind for him.





Its really lovely that you care this much for your child - but you need to let her make her own mistakes.
Exactly ....stay out of your child's love dramas. She's 18 she should try to figure out things for herself.





Be there for her to counsel, but unless there is violence/ criminal issues, I would stay completely out of it .