right now i'm in so much pain and desperate for answers, i've resorted to using yahoo answers. unfortunately my circle of friends have not been involved deeply as i have, so they don't have any experience to back their advice.
my gf/fiance just broke up with me 2 weeks ago after 7 years of being together. just a couple of months ago she was talking about getting married, picket fence and all. i considered her the love of my life (still do, unfortunately), and right now it's tearing me apart so bad, i've only had 2 hours of sleep per day, lost appetite, life just lost it's appeal etc. (not suicidal, thanks for the concern though)
she hasn't given me any solid reason on why she broke up with me, fell out of love has been mentioned, (third party probably), but the reason right now for me is irrelevant.
what i'm asking for from you guys, do you have any personal stories on how you cope with a deep break up? how did you go about it and when does the hurting stop?REPOST: How do you cope with a bad break up? personal SUCCESS stories would be nice...?
i'm so sorry for what happened to you. i know how excruciating pain can be but trust me, i've been there and miraculously i was healed. it just takes a lot of mind conditioning, efforts to get over such failed relationship, support from friends/strangers and most of all prayers..
being in a relationship that long is no joke. you've invested a lot of emotions not to mention memories. contrary to what other people say, i don't believe in trying to forget it happened. what i did was i cried my heart out til there were no more tears left to shed, i savoured all our memories together, feeling the pain each and every single day. my reason for doing this is that, the more i acknowledge and feel the hurt, the more aware i've become that this isn't just a fallacy..that this is reality and reality really sucks! the more you try to repress the feelings of hurt, disappointments and betrayal, the more it haunts you.
set yourself free by being brave enough to believe that there is tomorrow and someone better will definitely come along. for the meantime, go out, try to have fun ( i know it's impossible but just give it a try), meet new people, engage in sports just to keep your mind off things and most of all, pray for strength. everything happens for a reason and cliche as it may sound, you'll soon find the right one..trust me-- i did!
goodluck and try not to wallow in misery. happiness is the best revenge, remember that! =)REPOST: How do you cope with a bad break up? personal SUCCESS stories would be nice...?
The hurting eases when you realize that no one is perfect and you can be ok with that fact. At that point you may realize why you two might have grown apart or why she suddenly left right before a big commitment. At least thats what I did when me and my gf I was with for 4 years and raised 3 of her kids with broke up.
i know its hard and u just wana lay around the house and see no one but you just have to try and keep busy. really. thats all you can do. try and keep busy busy and see your friends and try ur hardest not to think about it.
i know it seems impossible right now but it will hurt less and get better every day. good luck to you, i feel your pain. it will take as long as you need to stop hurting. everybody's different
I don't have a personal success story. But the only way I was able to cope up with anything would be to just keep busy and get my mind off it (ie games, work, learning new things, etc). The hurting stops once I'm truly immersed in distraction.
Thank you for shaing but i am sorry to hear that .But I just want to tel you take it easy.You must take good care of yourself because now none will care more about you except yourself.Maybe it is good.You can think like this ,i didn't get waht I want and I will get better one than this .Do you intersted in interacialloves?Here comes hoe and sexy beauties,do you want to have a try?
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Im so sorry that you are going through this ,its going to be hard to heal,the best way to get over someone is to get someone new,it worked for me,you need to get someone else that matters in your life
well firstly u need to start eatin...i was with a guy for less that 2 months but had know him for alot longer than wat i had been datin him we started off as friends then we ended up datin..he broke up with me and it broke my heart...and i lost my apetite aswell and thats how i got an eatin disorder...when i was at my lowest i focused on the good things in my life and surrounded myself with ppl that cared about me...u need to kno that ppl are willin to help u out and hate seein u upset...for her to do that to u is truely cruel bcuz if she wants ready to get jump into a married status then why say yes...u need to stop bein so hard on urself bcuz it is not ur fault and its her lose...wat she done to u was the wrong decision to make if she wasnt commited to it...she sounds insecure with herself and seems as if she isnt ready to settle down in life...maybe she just didnt want to get herself into sumfin so big at that point in her life bcuz maybe she had things she wanted to do first...maybe take ur mind off things by hangin with sum friends or goin out..maybe take a holiday and clear ur mind of things...just look at the reasons why things didnt work and why u two broke up...it mite help u understand things alot better and stop u from stressin...stop thinkin about another person bein involved in the relationship bcuz that mite not have been the case and it sounds as if ur lettin ur curiosity and imagination get the better of u...and by u thinkin that ur onli stressin urself out more...it may seem hard at first but things will get easier just know that they are ppl that care about u to get u thru this kind of situation and u need to take advantage of that and tlk to them bcuz lettin out ur emotions helps....
i dunno if this answer helped u but i hope it did in a way =]
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