How do you cope with a second break up from the same person? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!?

I was in a relationship with a guy when I was 16 years old. At the time he was getting into a lot of trouble and I got pregnant and he went to jail. He got 3 to 10 years. I went up the to prison faithfully for 3 years and other drama started to happen. He was seeing other visitors and became very mean and detached. I meet someone else and this guy sent a letter behind my back to the first guy (something I knew would that the first guy would never let me live down!) and it said that we were in a full relationship(which was not true, we had just met!). I went to the prison not knowing about this letter and we got into a big argument about this damn letter. We just ended it like that. I very rarely wrote and he called a couple of times to talk about our son, but we pretty much lost touch. I stayed with the second guy in a relationship that was pretty much based on needs for the 2 of us and not love. We had two children. Six years later the first guy got out of prison and was married. We talked a couple of times to get up to speed with everything and life was pretty simple for a while. He moved on from his wife and starting dating different women and in the same sense my relationship with my second boyfriend was coming to an end (How convenient!). Our paths cross and we were going through getting out of two bad relationship at the same time. We hooked up and I thought everything we be okay. We had our ups and downs like everyone else, but he liked the street life. He was very social and always talked about money and what people could do for him. He stayed out all the time and critcize me for everthing I did(right or wrong). In the process we had twins. So now my total is up to 5 children now! Now this relationship has come to an end. I have so much responsibility and I feel used and abused. I don't think he ever wanted to be with me just the dream of being together would have been enough. I am devasted because now I know that he was dealing with his ex behind my back while I was pregnant with my twins and maybe other women. Who knows! I doesn't matter what is done is done. I tryed and I guess he might have. How do I move one from this?How do you cope with a second break up from the same person? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!?
From my experience dating a guy that got out of the joint after a long sentence...never usually works out. They have major issues going on when they get out, and seem to be stuck at the age they were when they got locked up. Its hard for them to form emotional attachments to people (no matter how hard they try).





Getting rid of this guy's dead weight is probably the best thing that could have happened to you. You have 5 children to take care of, and need not spend another second worry about what his punk *** is doing. Go file for child support and for god's sake be single for a while and just focus on raising your children. Your children deserve a mother who is attentive and who doesn't allow herself to be emotionally abused by a man.How do you cope with a second break up from the same person? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!?
Clearly it's just to much of a mess and there is something not right with your relationship with him. You need to focus all your time and energy on yourself and your kids and that's it! Make sure the world revolves around them and eventually you will find happiness when it's right.
EASY get your head out of the sand and realize he is a LOSER.


You have alowed yourself to get pregnant and have 5 children! Use some birth control girl!


What you need to do now is focus on your children and put them first! Be there for them and provide for them and you will get the love and nurturing you seem to crave!