How do you cope with a break up when personal problems broke you up in the first place?

so my ex broke up with me because he hurt me due to him having a lot of personal problems right now, and he didn't want to hurt me anymore. with that, he told me i deserve better than him. however, he got a new girlfriend about 2 weeks later and he even admitted that she was a rebound. the only thing is, they're starting to get pretty serious and as much as it hurts me, i respect the fact that he doesn't want to hurt me anymore. but isnt that ironic? he broke up with me to not hurt me yet getting aother girl 2 weeks later is the only thing that still hurts me. he then told me he still has some feelings for me, he regrets doing what he did to me, and that he wants to make me proud again by fixing things. but now, almost a month later, he wants me to move on and find other guys. everyday it seems like he wasn't serious when he says that more and more cuz it seems like he doesn't even care. (but that's just his type, he has that whole ';bad a$$'; thing going on) and now i question whether he even meant it in the first place. but i'm done being sad and depressed over it. we're friends now and even though in a lot of ways he is perfect for me, i want to and let fate handle it. if we were really meant to be, he would fix his personal problems so that he does deserve me again, and he would come back to me. and i would really love that but it's up to him. the only thing that seems to hold me back sometimes is the thought of what our relationship still could be like if he sorted out these problems. life just kind of screwed with us and i sometimes think about how our relationship still could be right now.. we were each others first loves and he fell in love with me the moment he laid eyes on me. pure, true love like that in my opinion should not be wasted on another bootleg relationship.


so yahoo users, my question is: how do i get over him 100% for the time being? what are some ways to start to being truly happy again and how do i put myself back out there?


Also, what are some things that would be a REALLY BIG wake up call that will show him how much he missed out when he let me go. i want to show him that i'm not only happy again but i want him to look at me and say ';damnnnn what the hell did i do? i wish i could have her back!';





This ol' girl isn't running back to him anymore, he should be running back to me!


Any further advice would also be much appreciated.


thank you all! :)How do you cope with a break up when personal problems broke you up in the first place?
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