Anger after a break up... coping with it?

How do you cope with it?





I remember after the sadness, anger came and I just hit people in football hard...But that isnt always a good option because I cant be taking my teammates out before games like that. Its mad disrespect to them as a friend and teammate.





What should I do instead? preferably nothing messy or idiotic.Anger after a break up... coping with it?
Get a lobotomy.Anger after a break up... coping with it?
Get a rebound girl!


Woo!





Hookup with someonee!
wait it out





dont waste your time doing things to get over a break up





that just makes you think about it more find another person to get with
I'd try to figure out what hurt you the most about the relationship, and what made it happen. Ask her if you can, and see why she thought it best over if she did. See what things you need to change so you won't make the mistake again and avoid being angry about losing someone for the same things.


I'd also see what made her upset with you and try to take a step back and see if it's fair of her to be upset about it. When you break up you have no perspective, but a little time can help you see what things you did to contribute to it. Getting her opinion if possible could help, because you can imagine what she really meant what she said at the end...but you could be wrong about some of it. Try talking to other girls and getting their opinion. Isolate a few things so it isn't just you complaining about her...just an issue. Someone neutral can help you judge whether you were wrong about things or not. When you understand something was justified it's a lot easier to let something go and not be angry anymore.


Finally, once you've accepted it and aren't rebounding...put yourself out there and find some other girls to date. You'll feel better about yourself and this other girl won't be as important.
Breaking up is hard and there are a lot of emotions to deal with when you just want to move on. Going to the beach and yelling out into the crashing waves helped me deal with my raw anger. Crawling into bed and crying under the covers helped me let out my sorrow. Surrounding myself with my most favorite people in the world (other than the person I broke up with) and having coffee helped to remind me that there are other people in this world that love and support me.