How to cope with break up fast?

i just broke up with my bf. things are complicated so have a little heart and patience to read through.


he was my friend's bf, they have a baby.but when he asked me to have this relationship,he said he didn't want a life with my friend and wants a chance to a decent life with me, as his status to the girl's family is not that good.they are not married.


my ex also has a baby with another girl aside from my friend.despite all these,i still tried to see understand him.he said he needed me, etc,etc.he was the town jerk and i was a respected person (just to make an image).my friend knew and of course, it ended our friendship.all the while it was hurting me too because i know i will sacrificing our friendship for a ';love'; i thought was worth it.


we've broken up last july, but we still communicated,usually provoking each other to come back or so,and we often did meet after that and intimate things still happened.yes im attracted to him and i want him.when i think of all his flaws,im scared to really be with him forever,but if he insists and proves it to me,i will risk again.


but he never did.he couldn't even tell my friend that he did love me,but even told her i was just a sex affair,so this girl told me she feel sorry for me.


but still trying to understand my ex,i forgave him for that,because it was his way (i think and he said so) of lessening my friend's pain (at my expense).


now, i just want to move on.ive written letters and burned pictures, but im not over him yet. how do i do it?i still love him i guess.i am very mad at them for seeming to be just a lesson learned for them.they are back together,though my ex tells me that he loves me but his child needs him.


how, how, how??? its affecting my work.this guilt and feeling of ';i deserve this'; ,my hatred for them,this feeling of getting played on, are all stomping me down. i wanna get out fast. please, help.How to cope with break up fast?
get some therapy to find out why u would be interested in a guy like this so u don;t pick another looser.How to cope with break up fast?
Cut off all contact. It was hard and painful but it is the only thing that worked for me. That and hot baths, sleeping in. ditching school and work for a week. Season 1 and 2 of lipstick jungle and antidepressents. Prozac numbs it a little.
you need to move to another town.
Are you kidding me? You went out with the guy, the town jerk, after he had two kids AND was your friend's boyfriend. How many ways could you go wrong?





Cut off all contact, delete his email address and phone number. Make it impossible to get back in touch with him. Then get a hobby to get your mind off it.